This past year I have learned a lot about myself. When it comes to schoolwork, friendships and relationships, everything really wasn’t as it seemed. I experienced my first heartbreak, and as you know, heartbreaks totally suck.
Yes, I was down on myself for a while. There were a lot of tears, a lot of rant texts to my friends and a lot of ice cream eaten. But before I knew it, I came out of it, completely on my own, and now, I have felt better than ever, because I did these few things. You will become an even better version of yourself, and I promise you, if you do these few things, you will blow yourself away.
1. Keep busy
Do anything you can to keep yourself distracted. Maybe pick up a few shifts at work, start working out, spend more time studying or go on some sort of adventure with your friends. As long as they are being kept off of your mind, you’ll start to forget.
2. Talk about it when you need too
Don’t hold back talking about it, but at the same time, don’t dwell on it. You’re going to want to vent now and then from bottling up the thoughts and feelings, and it’s okay to be sad, and it’s okay to cry. No one said this was going to be easy.
3. Do a social media delete-spree
Not only do you need to block them, and maybe even their friends, but just any negativity you see that’s posted. I know when I went through and deleted/unfollowed a mass amount of people, my newsfeeds just got more enjoyable to scroll through. And, honestly, filtering that sort of negativity out of your life, surprisingly, made a huge difference in my attitude.
4. Post a Hot selfie
As self-centered as this sounds, sometimes posting a cute selfie and having people like it is just so satisfying. It’s kind of like a self-esteem booster, and you also want to show the world that you are happy, and that you don’t need your ex, you are better off without them. Sending off those vibes of independence is actually pretty sexy.
5. Indulge on a cute going-out outfit
Who doesn’t want to look good when heading out for a good time? I’m not saying, “yeah go out and buy the most scandalous outfit out there!” That’s not my point. What I mean by a cute party outfit is having a cute crop-top or bodysuit. Some high-rise skinny jeans, and some cute wedges. Look hot! (Also break out that red lipstick.)
6. Get on Tinder
Everyone is sketched about Tinder, but in all honesty, Tinder is hilarious. You don’t have to meet up with the people you match up with. Plus, you get sent some pretty funny pick-up lines. You get more of a laugh out of Tinder than anything! It also gets your mind off that ex of yours, (who you are trying to move on from).
7. Spend time with your friends/family
Sometimes going home and reconnecting with friends and family can be the best R&R anyone could ever ask for. You have your best support system all around you, and you know that they will never let you down. You can trust them with anything, and they will give you the best advice, because they love and care about you.
8. Write everything down, and throw it away
When I went home for the summer after my first big break up, I wrote everything all down on paper. Sometimes just writing it out brings out the emotions, and gives you a sense of closure. Plus, nobody has to read it! You can just throw it away so no one has to see it, and it’s just your little secret.
9. Start chasing after your passion
I didn’t realize how far behind I got in my writing and in my photography work when I was in a relationship. Now that the stress is all off your shoulders, you can take all of those emotions you have, and put them into something that will make you great. After my breakup, I wrote every day and I took every chance I had to take pictures, even if it was just on my phone. It kept my mind off of things, and actually had me digging a little deeper into myself, and realizing what I am capable of.
10. Post about your life!
Show the world what you are doing! If it’s either getting pizza at two in the morning or if you are on vacation somewhere, post about it! Have a snappy caption too, show a little sass! And always smile, because you are happy! And even if you are a little down, you will come out of it each and every day, a little more.
11. Wear less makeup
You show your true beauty when you show your personality and your true colors. However, too much makeup can be a turn off for some guys. My mom has always told me, “less is more” when it comes to makeup. Usually, a little foundation, blush, mascara and eyeshadow do it for me! The less you put on, the more people can see your physical beauty. (Fun fact: guys like it when girls wear less makeup!)
12. Your confidence will build!
If you are out there doing these few things and then some, your confidence will build, and people will be attracted to you. The road may be long or short for you, but keep telling yourself that you will come out of it because you always will. And when you come out of it, and they see how confident you are, and how happy you are with being on your own, people will be attracted to you, that’s no doubt.
Keep your head high, wipe those tears and open that door to the next chapter in your life.