This week I decided to add a little twist. A few weeks ago I wrote an article about how to lose a guy in 10 ways, so this week I wrote about what things that guys can say or do that turn off women. Take a look to find out…

1. The second he says, “let’s hangout"

It’s true, we are beautiful, but us women are not stupid. We know what "hang out" means, and we aren’t in the mood for hangouts. We love to be taken care of, cherished and treated with respect. A girl will respect you so much more if you actually take her out on a date.

2. If he's stuck up

On behalf of all women, I think I can most definitely say that we do not like it when a guy is full of himself and his looks. I love it when a guy is humble and not rude, stuck up or too good for everyone else. I don’t like a guy who thinks he owns the room. Opps… was that rude?... did I just say that? I think I did. Sorry fellas.

3. Guys who lie about anything, and especially their jobs

Recently one of my girl friends told me a story about how the guy lied about what he did for a living. If a guy is lying about his job, what else could he be lying about? We like the truth, even if it hurts. We want honesty in a relationship.

4. Guys who don't show chivalry

We know, we know… we're in 2017, however we love to be treated like a princess. Just because it’s the year 2017 doesn’t mean chivalry doesn’t exist. Us girls love to have the car door opened and the door to the restaurant opened. Oh, and if you order first before your girl, she may just leave you. OK, she may not leave you, but she will notice it. It’s a nice gesture when a guy let’s the girl order first. We aren’t being demanding here, we just want respect, because we deserve respect.

Also, if you (the man) asks the girl out on a date, it would be nice to pay for it. You asked her, I think it’s only fair to do it. It’s bold. It’s manly. And it shows the woman you are serious.

Another side note: don’t get on your phone. That can wait for later. We won’t get on our phone. If you are on your phone, it shows us that you aren’t exactly having fun on the date and that you don’t really care about us, since you aren’t putting any effort in.

5. Guy’s who can't make decisions.

We love it when men take the lead on where to go and what to do. If you can’t think of someone, ask one of her close girl friends, or google it. It’s not that hard to come up with something creative to do. It is OK to “co-plan” a date. When a guys steps up and surprises the woman, it shows that he thought this through and that he wanted to make sure the date goes well.

6. Guys that try to shush you or eat your food

Gentlemen… we know you love food, but I’ll tell you a secret, we love our food too, so don’t take all of it. And for the love of sweet potatoes, do not “shush” us. That’s just rude. My friend told me of a time when the man shushed her. That was their first and last date.

7. If you are on your phone

Put down the phone. I repeat, put down the phone. She will not stay long if you are on your phone. She wants your undivided attention. If it’s something serious, of course you may take the phone call, but during the date, don’t get on your phone. It shows us that you clearly aren’t interested, or having fun. If you have to be on it for some reason, tell her up front. All texts and calls can wait for at least three hours.

8. If you are a caveman

Gentlemen… please, please use table manners. It’s not attractive when you smack your food and chew with your mouth wide open. Don’t pick your nose. Don’t pick your teeth. Don’t pick your nails. If you need to excuse your self, just go to the bathroom.

P.S. wear colonge and deodorant. We love it. I promise.

9. When a guy asks for nude pictures

Men… do not under any circumstance ask a woman for pictures. That is disrespectful, awful and completely wrong. As soon as you ask for those or (through Snapchat or any other source), we are gone. and you will never hear from us again. Treat a lady with respect.

10. Guys who don’t follow through or change plans

I will give you men a little hint, most women are planners. We are huge planners. If you bail on a date, we will be mad. If you say you are going to take a girl on a date, then do it. Don’t bail. That’s just rude. Plus we like to get dressed up, and we plan for it (once you’ve asked). If you change plans unexpectedly (last minute) we will also be mad. We won’t be happy campers. We like to have a schedule of what we are doing. We might have been looking forward to whatever activity you had planned (like bowling, ice cream or the movies, etc). So please show up, and treat her to a nice time!