The Time I Found Out I Was A Feminist

How And When I Found Out That I Was A Feminist

While my clothes do not define me, in eighth grade they created a defining moment.


Middle school. A time of acne, braces, and sweat stains, also known as the blessings of puberty. When I was in middle school, there seemed to be a magical solution for everything. Makeup could hide acne, lip gloss would distract from braces, and a style called muscle tanks would make sweat stains not appear as easily. I can remember watching YouTube tutorials about how to cut t-shirts to create this trend that would save girls from embarrassment in the heat of the springtime. What I couldn't remember though, was anyone telling me that this trend wasn't trendy for me.

You see, when girls wore muscle tanks, the low armholes sometimes showed what girls had underneath. I wasn't aware of this issue until I was stopped one day in the hallway by an administrator. I was told that when I lifted my arms, and someone was looking into my sleeve, my bra could be seen, and that I was required to change because a bra being visible was a distraction. I remember saying that I would put on a sweater, knowing full well that it was 90 degrees. What I had wanted to say was, "Why are you telling me not to wear a shirt that can be looked into, when you should be telling others that it's inappropriate for them to be looking down my shirt at all?"

This is when I learned that I lived in a world dominated by gender and that I wasn't the type that was dominant. In eighth grade I officially decided that I was a new label; not just a young pubescent teenager, but a strong, independent woman; a feminist.

Flash-forward three years and I found myself attending the 2017 Women's March on Washington. By this point, I had been exposed to many more realities of the gender-divided world that I lived in. I had learned that as an adult unless things changed, I would be paid less than a man for the same job. I had learned that there were people who thought they could decide for me the rights of my own body. I had learned that as a junior in high school, I was one of the lucky ones who had not experienced sexual assault. I learned that even if I did experience such a thing, I would most likely be asked what I was wearing or if "I wanted it" before I was believed.

Being a middle schooler wearing a sweater in June had made me unbelievably hot, but after that incident, I decided to turn that heat into a fire. The fire isn't just a flame, but a movement that blazes across women, men, and anyone in between, across the world. Each day brings new struggles, new people who try to diminish the fight and to throw water onto the fire. But in the continuing struggle for equality, it's feminists who will make sure that the fire never burns out.

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9 Reasons You're Still In Love With Tim Riggins In 2019

Clear eyes. Full hearts.

If you're a Friday Night Lights fan, you know very well who Tim Riggins is. And if you've never seen the show, he's basically just the bad boy football star and sensitive hottie of your dreams, all wrapped into one heart-throbbing package. If you haven't already fallen under the Tim Riggins spell, you're about to...

1. He's the star running back of the Dillon Panthers.

Basically every girl who has walked this earth has fantasized about having that cliche football relationship. No shame. #33 on the field, #1 in my heart.

2. He's actually really sensitive.

Tim Riggins may seem hard and dysfunctional on the outside, but he's really just a big softie. He's no JD McCoy, who grew up lavishly and extremely fortunate; Tim had a rough upbringing. He and his brother, Billy, had to work hard all by themselves just to stay above water, which is most likely what keeps him so grounded and humbled.

3. He loves kids.

Tim didn't even think twice about taking his neighbor under his wing when he moved in next door. And for some reason, there's just somethin' about cute boys holding babies that makes us girls swoon.

4. He's genuine and honest.

Sure, maybe he took advantage of his football-star status and slept with most of the rally girls, but once he fell in love with Lyla we saw his compassionate side. (You probably envied Lyla and maybe even hated her for a while because of it...I know I did.)

5. He knows how to have a good time.

It's 5 o'clock somewhere.

6. He's a family man.

Tim took the blame for his brother's crime and went to prison for it...if that's not loyalty then I don't know what is.

7. He's affectionate.

If you either hate Lyla or you want to be Lyla or a combination of the both, you are not alone.

8. He's protective.

Probably the only time you've ever wanted to be in a tornado was when you watched the episode where he shielded Julie from flying debris.

9. He's beautiful.

You're welcome for blessing you with this GIF.

May you all find your own Tim Riggins. Amen.

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Poetry On The Odyssey: It's a Girl

An ode to the little girl raised to be insecure.


They raise little girls to be insecure

Little girls grow to be big girls

People always ask big girls why they're so insecure

Big girls aren't quite sure

Day after day the big girl can't keep up

She's exhausted

Her soul feels worn

The big girl learns to grow hard

In a way, she's a bit stronger

People call her a bitch


What is that?

How can she let that affect her

It's simply the only way to be her

She mourns that little girl

Hoping that one day

She'll be strong

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