They say we spend our lives searching for love, but for those of us who are impatient settling for what we think is love can be all too common of an occurrence. When you settle for what you want to believe is love, you risk being emotionally and physically abused. Love can be blinding and your lover may wear the mask well, but don’t convince yourself that what you have is true just because you want it to be like that romance novel sitting on your dusty shelf.
Love can make you do some crazy things… And by crazy I mean, allow yourself to be mistreated because he said he was sorry and it won’t happen again or he was drunk and couldn’t control himself. Don’t fall victim to relationship abuse just because you want this love story to have a happy ending. Here are some signs to tell if he loves you, or loves you not.
He loves me…
1. Respects me
2. Accepts me as I am
3. Treats me as an equal
4. Is truthful with me
5. Supports what I want to do with my life
6. Listens to me
7. Values my opinions
8. Makes me feel comfortable
9. Makes me feel safe
10. Trusts me
11. Admits they are wrong
12. Understands that I have other friends
13. Understands my need for time alone
14. Is truthful with me
15. Makes me feel important
He loves me not…
1. Tries to control me
2. Keeps me from seeing my friends and or family
3. Is possessive
4. Is jealous
5. Loses his temper quickly
6. Always blames me
7. Makes all my decisions for me
8. Makes me feel afraid to speak my mind
9. Constantly puts me down
10. Embarrasses me in front of others
11. Makes me cry
12. Hits me
13.Threatens to leave me if..
14.Is sexually demanding
15. Makes me feel like I am not good enough
Everyone deserves true love! Don’t allow yourself to settle for anything less.