8 Steps To Recover From When Your Dreams Just Crashed Down On You

8 Steps To Recover From When Your Dreams Just Crashed Down On You

Go ahead and have that pity party, but make sure to get over it.

Have you ever had your heart so set on something that you knew that it was what you wanted to do for the rest of your life? Everyone has and if they have not it is just because they haven't reached that point in their life yet. However; I had my heart set on something I wanted to do for the rest of my life, but my dream got taken away and I got knocked off the path. Even though we may get knocked down we can still conquer what we had planned, but first, we need to know how to recover.

1. Have that pity party.

Everyone says no do not get sad and down about yourself because you are great and you can do this. While that may be true sometimes we need to hear that it is okay to be upset. We do not always have to be strong and act as if nothing is bothering us. Have that pity party girl, or boy. Have it but don't let it affect your everyday life.

2. Cry it out.

Referring back to number one don't be afraid to be sad. It's okay to be sad. I was sad for about two weeks when my dream got taken away and I did not know how to recover in the least bit. That's okay you do not have to know how to recover just know in the back of your mind you will make it through the darkness.

3. Be mad.

Get mad, cry, have the pity party. When you have your heart so set on something the way I did it's hard not to get mad. I was bound and determined to be in the Air Force, but that just wasn't in the cards for me. So yes I got mad and screamed and was angry at everyone for a while.

4. Don't take it out on your loved ones.

This is definitely one thing I learned. I got mad at my parents and stepparents, but guess what it is not their faults they had nothing to do with it.

5. Let people support you.

When going through having your dreams taken away you need people around you. Have those close friends over. Spend alone time with your Mom, Dad, whoever. Just be around people that love you and see your potential.

6. Be alone.

Yes I said be around your loved ones and that you should, but also give yourself some "you time". Sit down and actually think about what happened. Let yourself rebuild your confidence.

7. Get back on track.

Once you've done everything you need to do whether it be crying, getting mad, being alone, or even going on vacation; it's now time to get back on track. Even though you do not have to know what you're doing immediately at least start making plans. Start trying to put the pieces back together.

8. Let GO and Let GOD.

This is the hardest thing, but God has got you. Let all the anger go and all your previous plans go. If you trust him you'll know where you need to go and he'll bring around another opportunity.

In my case he has brought another way to serve my country to my feet. Although I might not get that position either I know that I will be alright because I've picked myself up and am moving on. That's what you have to do. MOVE ON.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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To The Best Friend Every Girl Should Be Blessed Enough To Have

You definitely deserve all the love.


I have not written this letter, but it has been on my list of "to write" for forever. She keeps asking when I will write one about her and every time I tell her, soon.

Well here it is. The truth on why it took so long? No words seem to do everything justice. No matter how I put them or how I want them to sound, the page always makes them look weird and they always sound lame.

But finally, here it is. Best friend, this one is for you.

First and foremost I will start with a holy cow. We have been best friends for only a short time because who knew your "in school friend" from all those math classes would actually turn into this? We put off hanging out outside of school for years, and finally, after suffering through all that algebra we decided enough was enough.

I wish we had sooner.

I wish I had gotten more time with you before we both moved away to college - but ill take whatever time I get with you because well… you're incredible.

Thank you.

Thank you for finally agreeing to hang out with me.

Thank you for listening to every rant ever - whether it was a paragraph long text, a 2 hour FaceTime call or an hour-long car ride.

Thank you for ordering planners with me and spending nights decorating them with me (we are such losers).

Thank you for letting me become a part of your family.

Thank you for going to Friendly's, IHOP and Target at the most ungodly hours.

Thank you for encouraging me in everything I do, and stopping me from making bad decisions.

Thank you for telling me the truth, despite if it hurt me or not, I know now you will never lie about your feelings towards someone (LOL).

Basically, thank you for everything you have done for me. You have made me a better person and you encourage me to be my best self every single day.

Moving on I want to make it clear how incredibly proud of you I am. I love getting texts from you about your love for your classes, and how you want to be president of this club and president of that. How you help out kids, and how you host events. I love hearing about your major and the classes you are so incredibly excited to take. Watching you be so passionate about what you are doing and becoming makes me want to feel the same way in everything I do.

I hope someday my kids are your students because, in your hands, I know they can change the world.

Last but not least, I love you. And you're stuck with me.


Your forever number one fan

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