Yes, It's Totally OK If You Haven't Found Yourself Yet

Yes, It's Totally OK If You Haven't Found Yourself Yet

Just as long as you never stop trying.


Being 20 is a strange time. 1 year away from the legal drinking age, and 1 year out of being a teenager. Maybe in 5 or 6 years from now, I'll look back on this period of my life and think how silly I was for being entangled in complicated emotions that are so unnecessary. But, maybe not.

I'm not comfortable in my body, never have been. As I scroll through my Instagram feed, it's so easy sometimes to feel envious towards the gorgeous men and women who look as if they have their entire life together. However, social media is tricky. We put our best face forwards and tend to post only our happiest moments, and that's a beautiful thing. It's easy to forget sometimes, though, that we all are struggling through our own problems, needs, wants, and wishes.

There are those who have truly found their space, those who are passionate about sports, or politics, or beauty and fashion but even if we've found that niche, there's plenty of room for self-discovery and growth.

I've never felt like I've found a place like that. It's frustrating, feeling like I want to constantly be in the presence of others while also desiring to have a space to retreat and be alone. Having a restricted home life didn't do me any favors either. But, again, it's ok.

Life is both long and short, and sometimes boring because it feels like it's a waiting game until the next milestone. Short because there are some of us who never make it to those milestones. As cliche as it sounds, it's more about the journey than the destination, and for me, and countless others, the journey has only just begun.

It's ok if you're struggling with your major, and wondering if it's right for you. It's ok if you decided that the school you are at isn't the best fit. It's ok if you're still learning to accept your body, or if you want to change it for the better. It's ok if that tinder date didn't go as well as you hoped, or if you're a little snappy at your parents. It's ok if you want to go out every night for an entire week, or if you'd rather just stay inside and binge a show on Netflix because it's all a learning experience. We can't ever know for sure that the decisions we make or have made were the right ones, but as long as it doesn't harm yourself or others, and makes you happy, I think that's simply the best we can do at any moment.

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13 Taylor Swift Lyrics About Love

“We could get married. Have 10 kids and teach em how to dream."


Taylor Swift is the only reason I've gotten through every love, and every break-up. Here's a list of 13 lyrics/quotes about love from Taylor Swift's albums.

“Losing him was blue like I’ve never known. Missing him was dark grey all alone. Forgetting him was like trying to know somebody you never met. Loving him was red.”

"Red" from the album "Red." This song perfectly describes every feeling that radiates through your entire being when you love and then lose someone.

“I wish we could go back, and remember what we were fighting for. I wish you knew that, I miss you too much to be mad anymore. I wish you were right here, right now, it’s all good. I wish you would.”

"I Wish You Would" from 1989. Sometimes I wish it was acceptable to just blast Taylor Swift during an argument because I totally would.

“You learn my secrets and you figure out why I’m guarded. You say we’ll never make my parents mistake.”

"Mine" from Speak Now. Let's surpass everyone's expectations.

“My baby’s fly like a jet stream, high above the whole scene, loves me like I’m brand new.” 

"Call It What You Want To" from the Reputation album. Once in a lifetime, there's someone who looks at your scars and calls you strong and brave, instead of damaged.

“My mother accused me of losing my mind, but I swore I was fine.” 

"Dear John" from Speak now. Love makes you do crazy things.

“One night he wakes, strange look on his face. Pauses then says ‘you’re my best friend’. And you knew what it was. He is in love.” 

"You Are In Love" from the 1989 album. Swift gives me chills with this song. Every time you think you're in love, you realize that the last time wasn't even close. True love, happens once or twice, and not for everyone.

“You pull my chair out, and help me in. And you don’t know how nice that is, but I do. And you throw your head back laughing like a little kid. I think it’s strange that you think I’m funny cause, he never did. I’ve been spending the last eight months, thinking all love ever does is break, and burn, and end. But on a Wednesday, in a cafe, I watched it begin again.”

"Begin Again" from the Red album. One of my top five favorite songs. Real love shows you how you should've been treated all along.

“Why would you wanna make the very first scar? Why would you wanna break a perfectly good heart?”

"A Perfectly Good Heart" from the first Taylor Swift album. Some people are only here to take. Never to give or share.

“The rain came pouring down, when I was drowning that’s when I cold finally breathe. And by morning, gone was any trace of you, I think I am finally clean.”

'Clean' from 1989. It can take years, even lifetimes, to finally feel free from love.

“There I was again tonight, forcing laughter, faking smiles, same old tired lonely place. Walls of insincerity, shifting eyes and vacancy, vanished when I saw your face. All I can say is it was, enchanting to meet you.”

'Enchanted' from Speak Now album. Love at first sight?

“Romeo take me somewhere we can be alone, I’ll be waiting all that’s left to do is run. You’ll be the prince and I’ll be the princess, it’s a love story, baby just say yes.”

'Love Story' from Fearless album. This song makes me want to take a chance and escape with a stranger.

“I once was poison ivy, but now I’m your daisy.”

"Don't Blame Me" from Reputation. I'm only better when I'm with you.

“We could get married. Have 10 kids and teach em how to dream.”

"Starlight" from the Red album. Only certain people are worth growing with.

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