12 De-Stressing Techniques From A Girl With Way Too Much On Her Plate

12 De-Stressing Techniques From A Girl With Way Too Much On Her Plate

De-stressing is the key to life.


This semester has been by far the most intense time of my life. I am taking 18 credit hours, working on two shows simultaneously and can sometimes hardly find the time to exist. With this, it has been absolutely vital to implement some de-stressing tactics into my busy schedule. If I didn't, I would have lost it by now. So, I'm here to help you survive this semester with my secret tips and tricks.

​1. Set aside an hour a week for doing something strictly for your own happiness

For me, this is watching "American Horror Story" Wednesday nights with my roommates. That's always been a show I loved and I set aside that time every Wednesday to be focused only on the spooky happenings in Ryan Murphy's screwed up nightmarish worlds. No homework, no obligations, no anything shall interrupt this time.

​2. Journal

I have always had a hard time sticking to journaling, but when I did, it was always very rewarding to be able to reflect on my feelings. However, if you'd like to try it too, don't let it stress you out to keep up with it. It's there when you need it, it's still there when you don't. It won't go anywhere and feel free to pick it back up whenever the time is right.

3. Go for a walk

If you can't find the time to do this, then take the long way to your class if you can afford it. I've always found that walking by myself has been great thinking time and it can be a definite way to reflect on your life and how it's going and consider ways to improve it or ideas that you may want to pursue.

4. Treat yourself

Stressing yourself out with trying to eat healthily or not spend money all of the time definitely doesn't help you in any other aspects of your life. Sure, you may get nutrition benefits or save a few dollars here and there, but the mental stress can be draining. Get the Starbucks every once in a while. Get your hair cut in the way you've always wanted to try. Things you want in moderation are never a bad thing.

5. #Selfcare app

I found this app over the summer and I. LOVE. IT. When you first start the app, there is a sun below the horizon and soothing music. You have to complete peaceful tasks like sorting clothes and massage and petting a kitty to get the sun to rise. Once it does, you earn a trinket of some sort to put on your altar and you can assign it meaning or decorate as you choose. You unlock more things to do as you go along like daily tarot cards and candle meditation and it's just generally a very peaceful app that is mindful of your stress and aims to help you fix it.

6. Wear cozy clothes as often as possible

I always get stressed AF trying to look nice. You can look cute and be comfortable at the same time and you certainly should. I used to do my makeup every day and put thought into what I wore, but it just ended up stressing me out in the end. I've gone nearly the entire semester without makeup and without caring too much about my appearance and I've started to like the way I naturally look more and feel more confident about myself. It's a win-win. I'm cozy and happy.

​7. Spend time with the people you care about

If you have a support system like me, you gotta make time for the people you care about. Even with my terribly busy schedule, my roommates/best friends will try and help me out and be less stressed. They are literally the best and I am so grateful to have them in my life. The people you care about are so important. Let people be there for you. Let people help you. It makes such a difference.

8. Go somewhere new to work on your things

Going to the same place to study always can be grueling. If the weather permits, shake it up and go outside one day. A change of scenery could be just what you need to shake off your daily stress.

​9. Watch ASMR videos

Soap cutting videos REALLY get me going. There is nothing more satisfying than watching ASMR videos in a quiet room alone. They're quick and in plenty and can really relax you. Some are even designed for certain things. My favorite is and forever will be the soap cutting ones, but there are a plethora of other sounds to relax you. Find what works for you.

​10. Get some more sleep

If you can manage it, sleep will work wonders in your life. We all need it to survive and it's so likely that you aren't getting enough. Try to get even a half hour more sleep a night if you can manage it and see how your life improves. It's so important.

​11. Don't procrastinate

I am so guilty of not following this tip. I am probably the worst procrastinator of all time. I will start a task to procrastinate another and start procrastinating that task. I once procrastinated TAKING A NAP. It's really easy to get into this bad habit, but your life will improve so much if you work ahead and stay on top of the things you need to get done. Nothing is more stressful than almost not meeting a deadline all the time.

​12. Choose happiness

I completely understand that mental illnesses exist and there are actual things that prevent people from being happy. However, in general, I believe that happiness is a choice. You can choose to let negative things and circumstances get you down. You can choose to be unsatisfied with your current situation. You can choose to have a negative outlook about things.

On the flip side, you can choose to appreciate the little things. You can choose to take your circumstances and look at the bright side of them. You can choose to see the world as a positive place where you can truly thrive. It's all in the way you look at it. Try changing the way you think about the things that happen in your life and watch how quickly your happiness increases. Let go of the things you can't change and work toward the future you want. It's your life and you're in control of your own happiness. Your mindset is everything.

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11 Things Psychology Majors Hear That Drive Them Crazy

No pun intended.

We've all been there. You're talking to a new acquaintance, or a friend of your parents, or whoever. And then, you get the dreaded question.

"So what are you studying in school?"

Cue the instant regret of picking Psychology as your major, solely for the fact that you are 99.9% likely to receive one of the slightly comical, slightly cliche, slightly annoying phrases listed below. Don't worry though, I've included some responses for you to use next time this comes up in conversation. Because it will.

Quick side note, these are all real-life remarks that I've gotten when I told people I was a psych major.

Here we go.

1. So are you, like, analyzing me right now?

Well, I wasn't. But yeah. Now I am.

2. Ugh so jealous! You picked the easy major.

"Lol" is all I have to say to this one. I'm gonna go write my 15-page paper on cognitive impairment. You have fun with your five college algebra problems, though!

3. So can you tell me what you think is wrong with me? *Shares entire life story*

Don't get me wrong; I love listening and helping people get through hard times. But we can save the story about how one time that one friend said that one slightly rude comment to you for later.

4. Well, s**t, I have to be careful what I say around you.

Relax, pal. I couldn't diagnose and/or institutionalize you even if I wanted to.

5. OMG! I have the perfect first client for you! *Proceeds to vent about ex-boyfriend or girlfriend*

Possible good response: simply nod your head the entire time, while actually secretly thinking about the Ben and Jerry's carton you're going to go home and demolish after this conversation ends.

6. So you must kind of be like, secretly insane or something to be into Psychology.

Option one: try and hide that you're offended. Option two: just go with it, throw a full-blown tantrum, and scare off this individual, thereby ending this painful conversation.

7. Oh. So you want to be a shrink?

First off, please. Stop. Calling. Therapists. Shrinks. Second, that's not a psych major's one and only job option.

8. You know you have to go to grad school if you ever want a job in Psychology.

Not completely true, for the record. But I am fully aware that I may have to spend up to seven more years of my life in school. Thanks for the friendly reminder.

9. So you... want to work with like... psychopaths?

Let's get serious and completely not-sarcastic for a second. First off, I take personal offense to this one. Having a mental illness does not classify you as a psycho, or not normal, or not deserving of being treated just like anyone else on the planet. Please stop using a handful of umbrella terms to label millions of wonderful individuals. It's not cool and not appreciated.

10. So can you, like, read my mind?

It actually might be fun to say yes to this one. Try it out and see what happens. Get back to me.

11. You must be a really emotional person to want to work in Psychology.

Psychology is more than about feeling happy, or sad, or angry. Psychology is about understanding the most complex thing to ever happen to us: our brain. How it works the way it does, why it works the way it does, and how we can better understand and communicate with this incredibly mysterious, incredibly vast organ in our tiny little skull. That's what psychology is.

So keep your head up, psychology majors, and don't let anyone discourage you about choosing, what is in my opinion, the coolest career field out there. The world needs more people like us.

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To Percy Jackson, I Hope You're Well...

Percy Jackson and the Olympians and the Heroes of Olympus are both series which helped shape my life. I want to share my love for them here, with you.


Two days before I moved from New Jersey to California, I had a late night at a friend's house. Just a few miles outside of my small town of Morris Plains, his house was out of the way and a safe haven for myself and my mother during a harrowing and strenuous move. My father had been across the country already for almost two months trying to hold down his new job and prove himself. His absence was trying on me (at the tender young age of nine years old) and my mother, and we often spent time at my friend's home, as our mothers got along well.

That night came the time to say goodbye for the very last time, and as our mothers were tearfully embracing at the door, he ran up to me and shoved a book in my hands. Bewildered and confused, I tried to give him my thanks but he was already gone - running away in a childish fit that expressed his hurt at my leaving more than any words he could've said. I looked down at the book in my hands. It was a battered copy of Rick Riordan's "The Lightning Thief," with its binding bulging slightly out in a strange fashion, the cover slightly torn and bent, and quite a few pages dog-eared. The book wasn't in good condition, but I took the time to read it. I was ensnared and enchanted by the lurid descriptions of mythology, of the lovable characters of Percy, Annabeth, and Grover, and the upside-down world they lived in. Over the course of the move and our eventual settling into our new California home, I devoured the series adamantly, reading "The Battle of the Labyrinth" almost five times in the fifth grade and eventually finishing out with "The Last Olympian." The series accompanied me through a difficult move and a whirlwhind of early puberty; by that time, Percy and friends I knew intimately as my own companions. When the series ended, I happily parted with it, and began other literary conquests (namely in the realm of classics).

After an almost year-long break, I re-discovered the series in sixth grade. I hadn't realized that there was a companion series to the first, in fact, a continuation - The Heroes of Olympus. I lapped up "The Lost Hero" and "The Son of Neptune" with greed, and eagerly awaited the arrival of "The Mark of Athena" the following year.

One of my most vivid memories of middle school was sneaking downstairs the morning of the Kindle release of "The Mark of Athena", sneaking past my parents' bedroom as stealthily as I could in the wee hours of the morning to get my kindle and immerse myself in the world. I believe I finished it in about two days. For the next two books in the series, I followed the same pattern: get up early, read it as fast as I could get my hands on it. "The Blood of Olympus", the last book in the series, came out in my freshman year of high school. After finishing the second series, I shelved my much-loved paperbacks for good, and turned myself to other literary pursuits. I eventually relocated to Virginia, and went to college. Percy and friends were almost forgotten until my first year at the University of Virginia.

I was devastatingly alone my first semester at university. I didn't know what to do with myself, entombed by my loneliness. However, at the bottom of my suitcase, I found my old Kindle Paperwhite, with both of Percy's series neatly installed for me. I made a resolution with myself: I would reread both series, reading only at mealtimes where I sat alone. By the time I was finished, I wanted to see where I was compared to when I started.

Re-reading the series was like coming home. It was nostalgia, sadness, and ecstasy wrapped into one. I delighted in revisiting Percy's old haunts, his friends, his challenges. However, it was sad, knowing I had grown up and left them behind while they had stayed the same. It was a riveting memory train which made me look forward to meals, and eased my loneliness at school. Gradually, as the semester progressed, I was reading on Percy's tales less and less, as I found my friends, clubs, and organizations that gradually took up more and more time.

I still haven't finished my re-read, and am about halfway through "The Blood of Olympus". I've come a long way in the almost decade since I first received that tattered copy of "The Lightning Thief", and I still have some ways to go. So thanks, Percy, Annabeth, Grover, Jason, Piper, Reyna, Nico, Frank, Hazel, Leo. Thank you for growing up with me. I'll never forget you.


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