God Isn't Blessing You Because You're Not Blessing Others

God Isn't Blessing You Because You're Not Blessing Others

We must give in order to receive.

As Christians, we know that by accepting Jesus into our hearts and by believing Jesus died for our sins, we are saved and will gain entrance into Heaven. As Christians, we are fully aware of the importance of repenting for our sins and following the Word… But oftentimes we don’t look beyond that. Being a Christian is more than just obeying what you read in the pages of The Bible. It is about loving those and working hard for those around you, just as much as you love and work for God.

I catch myself frequently thinking about everything that’s wrong in my life. I focus on what needs to be fixed or improved, what I need strength and faith for. I pray and pray and pray… But it seems like I can only ever get halfway there. I thought to myself that maybe it was my prayer technique. I researched for days, trying to figure out how to pray effectively.

It wasn’t that.

I thought that perhaps my faith was just weak and that God was working on His own time. I was patient, never allowing myself to doubt the generosity of God.

It wasn’t that.

I thought that maybe it was because I needed to be more grateful, to praise God for everything that was right in my life, instead of dwelling on the negative. I thought that maybe my bitterness was blocking my blessings.

It wasn’t that (although it is very important to express gratitude on a daily basis).

I wracked my brain, wondering why I, a good Christian for the most part, seemed to never be able to progress not only physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. I felt like I was stuck in the same spot, economically, socially, and spiritually, unable to transform my situations or myself into something of greater value. I pray every day, barely sin (and repent when I do), attend worship sessions. I even sing in a Christian a capella group, for Christ’s sake. So what was the problem?

The problem is that I’m not a good Christian. I’m a ‘paper Christian’, a person that follows the rules, but doesn’t live the life. Yes, I worship with other Christians around me, yes, I pray to God and I have a great relationship with Him, but what am I doing for the world? How am I upholding my duty as a Christian in relation to those that aren’t saved? How am I upholding my duty as a Christian, simply by loving mankind and serving those around me?

Jesus is the epitome of the perfect human. He is kind, gracious, forgiving, and most importantly, he is a humanitarian. As Christians, sometimes we focus too much on what we’re doing in our own lives and not what we’re doing in others. It is our duty to spread the Word and to help others, not just to pray and avoid sin. Those things are important, but they are not the only things God wants for us.

In order to receive blessings, we must bless others, and that’s a realization I came to after months and weeks of struggling. I had to remove myself from my personal bubble and realize that I cannot call myself a Christian if I am not extending the love God gives to me to other people. Heaven is God’s domain, the Earth is ours. It is our responsibility to carry out his teachings and apply them to our lives to make the world a better place. If you find yourself asking why God doesn’t answer your prayers, think first about what you’ve done for someone else recently. God is giving, but it is not a one-sided relationship: we must give back as well.

“One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the Lord, And He will repay him for his good deed” (Proverbs 19:17).
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Just For Clarification, It Is Possible To Be BOTH A Christian Woman And A Feminist

A clarification of God's intention for men, women, and their value.


I read an article recently about a young Christian woman who said that she didn't believe that God intended women to be equals. Here was the Title, "I'm A Christian Girl, And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals."

I read the article, mostly because the title was a little unsettling, and understood where she was coming from. It held a great intention and standing in Scripture coupled with a passionate affection for Jesus, which I adore. However, the language and word choice could be used to reinforce the notion that Christians and God view women as lesser than men.

And so, I wanted to clarify a few things to ensure clarity. The idea that God views women as less valuable than men is truly and wholeheartedly not true. There is so much significance, value, intention, meaning, and need for women. And men, equally are as vital, so valuable, full of meaning, and so uniformly needed. And to put both of them on a scale to weigh out our equality in significance and value almost feels... completely unnecessary and out of place. Both men and women hold an equal degree of worth as persons, as they have both been made in God's image and are heirs together of eternal life.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1: 27
There is neither Jew nor Greek, thee is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:38

We cannot reproduce one without the other. We depend on each other for the very carrying on of our beings. And we depend on each other in a lot of other contexts too.

I'd like to open this up to a little bit more of a dialogue because I think there's some disconnect between how feminism and equality are understood and defined as in today's context. So just to be clear on exactly what we're talking about, here are some definitions from dictionary.com of the key terms that this topic revolves around:

The definition of equal: being the same in quantity, size, degree, or value.

The definition of equality: the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.

The definition of feminism: the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.

The definition of a feminist: A person who supports feminism.

Just a quick disclaimer, people have adopted various definitions of these terms in today's culture. For my purposes, I will be referring to the definitions listed above.

So, essentially a feminist is someone who supports the state of equality in status, rights, and opportunities relative to men. Under that definition I, a Christian woman, would define myself as a feminist. In a general view, I support and encourage the state of being provided the same opportunities, rights, and status as a woman, and essentially as a human being.

With that being said, however, I also believe that men and women are different, and have been given roles within the family setting to fit those differences. Here is one passage that describes a woman's particular role in a marriage.

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands." Ephesians 5: 22-24

I think the word submit immediately scares us as women. It scares me a bit, to be 100% honest. But after being married and realizing that leadership is so important, and us working as a team together is hugely vital to our marriage, the roots of this message are being realized and understood further in my own life and as a wife.

The type of submission described here is not the obedience children owe to their parents. Nor is it stating that all women should submit to all men. This submission is in a specific marital context for the work of a harmonious and healthy marriage. It goes on to command the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. The husband is to be a leader that loves, cherishes, listens to, and protects his wife. We have both been given a responsibility and a role to ensure that our marriage is working toward one common goal. That we are on the same page because ultimately we are on the same team.

So although men have been granted a role of leadership within a marriage, this should in no means imply that we are not equal to them. Equal in quantity, quality, degree, or value. There are millions of angles and coatings to this subject, so please forgive me for the gaps that I haven't addressed in this small fragment of writing.

I feel like there are millions of layers to how God sees us as people, too. He has created us, putting pieces of Himself of infinite worth and value into our the heart of hearts knitted in each of us, both male and female.

I hope you know that we are valuable.

You are valuable.

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A Prayer For The Future Husband You Can't Wait To Meet

I pray that he knows our marriage is already covered in so much prayer.


Dear God,

Thank You for this life that You have allowed me to live. Thank You for the opportunities that You have placed in front of me and the people I've encountered along the way. Thank You for the people that are still here, encouraging me and always lifting my spirits, and for the people who have left because they taught me everything You intended for them to.

Even though I sometimes don't like to admit it, thank You for constantly showing me that everything is in Your will and Your timing. Thank You for always showing me that Your will is always has been better than mine, and it always will be better than I could ever dream of. Thank You for every failed relationship. While it was painful at the time, You always showed me that there is someone better suited for me somewhere out there. Through all the past, present, and future frustrations, I know that You are preparing the man of my dreams, and he's just not ready yet.

I pray that he is constantly seeking You in all that he does.

I pray that You get all the glory in His life.

I pray that You are preparing him to be the leader of our family, leading us to You and leading us down the paths that point back to You.

I pray that he loves me like You love the church.

I pray that he knows our marriage is already covered in so much prayer. I can't wait to meet him.

All my love,

Ally Mishell

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