Acknowledge when it is necessary to apologize.

It is ok to apologize when you are giving bad news or made someone else’s life more difficult than it should be. But also knowing when to stop is very important. Think about it. If someone keeps telling you the same thing over and over again it begins to lose its actual meaning. Make a genuine apology but do not give into thinking the more you apologize, the better the situation will be because that is usually never the case.

In most situations, an apology is not required.

A lot of people get in the habit or saying sorry so much that they begin to believe that everything they do requires an apology. Also, if you start saying sorry to everything you may begin to feel like you just can’t do anything right. No one wants to feel that way. The only person that can change that is yourself. Actually speaking out loud makes your mind believe your words. Stop saying it, stop believing it.

Notice who you tend to apologize to the most.

Sometimes the problem is not you but it is the people you are surrounding yourself with. Do you always feel in the wrong when you leave a friend? Notice that and be conscious who you let in your life because once you start to feel undermined and start apologizing a habit begins to form which harder to break than just cutting them off right when they make you feel undermined.

Why do you say sorry?

A lot of what happens in our childhood is the root of why the way we are. Try to remember where you came from. Was there always a teacher that blamed you for things that weren’t your fault but you had to apologize anyway? There could be a long line of grievances that you haven’t let go off yet. Dig deep to your roots and you will find peace.