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10 Ways To Protect Your Mental Health While Being Single On Yet ANOTHER Valentine's Day

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I've always envied Valentine's Day — ever since I left elementary school and Valentine's Day parties ended. I couldn't shoot my shot and give my crush the best Valentine card in his Tonka truck Valentine's Day box and I didn't get any sweet-tarts from my crush in return. As soon as middle school began, people seemed to find themselves in relationships. Soon, Valentine's Day at school was flooded with girls squealing over the teddy bear their boyfriend gave them or guys beaming at the picture their girlfriends gifted to them.

I hated going to school on this day and high school only made it worse.

Singing grams would go around for those who wanted to show how much they loved their partner by purchasing a song for $1 to have sung in front of everyone showcasing their love. Lockers would be filled with notes and confessions of love.

I would always get in a depressed headspace when Valentine's Day came around because I knew that I wouldn't be getting any flowers, candy, or love letters in my locker at any point.

I had to grow out of that and realize that Valentine's Day wasn't just a day for couples in love, but for me to love myself, so I began to take steps to protect my mental health for a series of single Valentine's Days.

1. Do not wish you were another couple

This is possibly the worst thing you could do and this is why I began to develop a hatred for Valentine's Day. Do not wish you were Brittany and Josh from next door or Thelma and Paul from your childhood neighborhood.

2. Do not hit up your ex

Do not, under any circumstances, text your ex. Either you are allowing a toxic person back into your life or enabling a toxic behavior within yourself. Let them stay in the past and move on.

3. Take a yoga class

If you live in a bigger city, find your favorite spa that you've been dying to go to and take a yoga class to meditate and protect your mind from all of the red hearts and pink balloons. If you live in a smaller city and don't have the opportunity to take a yoga class, get on YouTube and search for good meditation videos.

4. Get a massage

Forget about the couples who are getting their massages and get one for you.

5. Eat at your favorite restaurant

Don't let the fear of spending Valentine's Day keep you shut inside of your house with a tub of Ben & Jerry's and Netflix. Get dressed up in your best outfit and treat yourself to dinner! You deserve it.

6. Enjoy Galentine's Day

Girls, get your other single friends and enjoy Galentine's Day with drinks, good food, and lots of laughs. It's okay to be surrounded by friends instead of lovers on the day of love.

7. Go visit a nursing home or children's hospital

There are plenty of other people who wish they could celebrate Valentine's Day with loved ones, but can't, especially those who are in nursing homes. Gather some friends or take it solo and deliver some cards to residents in nursing homes or go help some kids in your local children's hospital make Valentine's Day cards for mom and dad.

8. Avoid drowning yourself in work

I know many people who would rather overwork themselves than go out on Valentine's Day. Don't do it. This will cause you to burn out and become more irritated than you already are. Work during the day and leave when the office closes.

9. Journal

I have a special journal that details every Valentine's Day ever since I was 14 years old and it's just for Valentine's Day. Write down your thoughts and feelings or just consider it a new way to appreciate yourself and reflect on your life.

10. Take up a new hobby

I've found that on Valentine's Day, I personally like to learn something new or pick up an old hobby I let go. Lately, I've been practicing speaking the language of love itself, French. Learn a new language or learn to fix a car, whichever suits you.

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10 Ways To Protect Your Mental Health While Being Single On Yet ANOTHER Valentine's Day

Sometimes, you have to treat yourself to some self love on the day of love.

1. Do not wish you were another couple

2. Do not hit up your ex

3. Take a yoga class

4. Get a massage

5. Eat at your favorite restaurant

6. Enjoy Galentine's Day

7. Go visit a nursing home or children's hospital

8. Avoid drowning yourself in work

9. Journal

10. Take up a new hobby

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

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Email the professor

Attend the first class

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Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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