Dating The Whole World

Dating The Whole World

Social media has created a new standard for how relationships should work. They used to be a very personal aspect of our lives, and now it has become an event for the whole world to watch.


Every part of our day is now being shown to the entire world.

The most personal parts of our lives are being shown on display, such as our relationships. Dating has gone from being a relationship between two people to a relationship with the whole world alongside them. If two people are dating, it is expected by many for there to be an official post on social media about it.

Whatever happens to that couple not only will affect them, but everyone else who follows them on social media.

When two people begin dating, it is expected of them to insert the date of when they started seeing each other in their Instagram bio and to post a picture with that person. When they post that photo on Instagram, their relationship is now official.

Back in 2016, Ariana Grande posted a picture on Instagram of herself cuddling with Mac Miller. The caption for the photo was "baabyyy". When that photo was released, everyone knew that it meant Grande and Miller were dating.

If someone does not post a picture with their boyfriend or girlfriend, then many people will come to the conclusion that they aren't in a relationship or that the relationship is fake. There is a lot of pressure on couples who are dating to prove their relationship is going well. They have to post it online to show everyone how perfect it is, even when it is not.

They want to come off as happy to the rest of the world because that is what society has taught them to do.

Many want to know about the relationships of people they know and even of those they do not know, including the good and bad parts of it. If a couple stops posting with their significant other on social media, everyone starts talking. They automatically assume that something went wrong in the relationship. Their thought process is that either one of the partners cheated on the other or that they just broke up.

Some people like to keep their private life private, but because of how invested everyone has become in each other's lives, there is no such thing as privacy anymore.

There is a huge need nowadays for people to have the internet validate their relationships.

This need for verification from others has affected the happiness and successfulness of couples. There is data that shows a negative correlation between levels of relationship satisfaction and social media use. People feel pressure to put their relationship online and look like the most perfect couple that others should be jealous of. They become obsessed with this need to have the most unflawed and idyllic relationship.

Social media has made couples have a distorted vision of what a happy and strong relationship should look like.

People love when they are in a relationship because it means they get to post a lot of photos on social media. When people get notifications on their phone that someone "liked" their post or commented on it, the chemical dopamine is released. This hormone makes people feel good.

The more someone gets to post a picture of themselves with their boyfriend or girlfriend, the more notifications they will receive. This means more dopamine released to make them feel good.

When couples are dating now, they need an audience to perform for.

In this case, the rest of the world is their audience. They post pictures together online and hope that their audience likes it. When they get a response from them, it makes them feel good and makes them want to continue to post more pictures together. Even if they are not happy in their relationships, they will still post because they have to keep up with their performance to keep their audience happy.

People want to see when a couple becomes official online, and then they watch the progress of that relationship. Society is basing whether a relationship is successful or not based off if that couple is posting about each other. Posting a picture of your significant other has become the equivalent of a guy giving his girlfriend his letterman jacket to wear around school.

This desire for wanting others to know that they are dating someone has always existed, but now, there is a lot more pressure.

Society has come up with a perfect version of what a relationship should look like. Everyone is just trying to live up to that expectation of being perfect and happy together all the time, even if it is a complete lie.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

While parts of the U.S. are beginning to re-open after months in quarantine, the future of date nights at home is still bright — because, let's face it, wearing masks to a fancy restaurant with your boo in the coming months just doesn't sound fun.

So, if you're looking to have a little romantic fun indoors, we've got just the games for you. Click through the slideshow below for 11 couples games that'll help you two become closer than ever.

Keep Reading... Show less

I've always been interested in any product that can get me the Jennifer Lopez-esque natural glow. I'm Indian and have medium-toned skin, so getting darker was never really the goal. Rather, I've always looked for a product that would even out my skin tone and cellulite, basically making my legs look Photoshopped.

Now more than ever we're craving that healthy, tan glow most of us only get after spending a week poolside with margarita in hand. We may not be spending an SPF-soaked summer hitting on our local lifeguards. But when we're going on socially-distanced walks outside, taking viral-worthy selfies, or just want to test out the best self-tanners for when you do finally get to show off all the bikinis you binge-purchased through your quarantine boredom, these are the best to ways to glow up, no matter your shade of skin, whether you have uber-sensitive eczema-ridden skin, or just want J-Lo glow, smooth legs.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Quarantine Checkup Week 10: It's Officially Summer, Even In Quarantine

An Odyssey panel discussion about all things quarantine.

Thanks to coronavirus (COVID-19), most of the United States has gone into its own version of quarantine. While no one loves this new way of life we're adjusting to, it's the necessity that will eventually help us fling open our front doors and frolic freely once again!

Premature thinking? Maybe. But while we're in the midst of this quarantine time, we're chatting about the most terrifying, the funniest, and the weirdest thing that quarantine has forced us into recently.

Keep Reading... Show less

13 Father's Day Shirts Under $30 To Gift The Dad Wearing The Same Two Every Day In Quarantine

You've been begging him to change it up, and now he won't have a choice.

Let's be honest: most of our dads are wearing the same shirts today that they probably wore while changing our diapers and holding our hands as we learned to walk. Sure, we love them for it. But whether you're quarantined with him wearing the same two shirts on rotation every week, or every time you FaceTime him, you know what he'll be wearing before he answers the phone, he needs to add some new items to his wardrobe rotation.

And you know dads — they'll feel guilted into using practically anything you were to give them. But these shirts are sure-fire ways to get him to switch up his wardrobe, and he'll be more than excited to wear each and every one of them. Plus, most of them are under twenty dollars, so no harm in dropping more than a couple in to your cart and letting Dad have his pick of his favorites.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

I Sat Down (Virtually) With Hollis Tuttle To Talk About Coronavirus's Impact On The Wellness Industry

Just because coronavirus has greatly impacted the wellness industry doesn't mean wellness stops.

If you're anything like me, your weekly fitness classes are a huge part of your routine. They keep me fit, healthy, and sane. Honestly, these classes help my mental health stay in tip-top shape just as much as they help my physical health.

Due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, gyms and fitness studios are facing temporary closure. Yes, this means my personal routine is thrown a curveball, but this also means the wellness industry is one of many that is looking at unemployment and hardship. Do I miss my Monday spin class? Of course. But do the wellness professionals whose worlds were flipped upside down have a lot more to overcome than a slight change of routine? Absolutely. Thankfully, if anyone can prove the ultimate flexibility, it's the wellness industry.

Keep Reading... Show less

My Boyfriend Has Changed Since Quarantine Began, And I Don't Know What To Do

"All he says is 'I love you,' which is great and all but OMG I can't get anything else out of him."

Each week Swoonie B will give her advice on anonymous topics submitted by readers. Want to Ask Swoonie B something related to dating and relationships? Fill out this form here — it's anonymous.

Dear Swoonie B,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, which has been the best year of my life (as far as i know). Well we go to different schools and are both very involved in sports and school activities which makes it hard to see each other. During this quarantine it is especially hard. Since we haven't seen each other in over a week things are kind of tense. He won't really talk to me much and I always check in on him to make sure he is doing well and to just see how he is, ya know being a girlfriend. Well apparently that is driving him crazy and I don't understand how. I'm not being controling or clingy, i'm just checking in on him. While this is happening, I also have noticed how he just doesn't really care anymore. I'll leave him paragraphs of sweet love letters to wake up to and I encourage him throughout his day but I just don't get it in return. I love him with all of me and I obviously care about him a lot. Also, I've compared how he talked to me before all of this has happened. He was so sweet and caring, texting me a lot and telling me he loves me and just making sure everything is OK but he doesn't do that anymore. All he says is "I love you," which is great and all but OMG I can't get anything else out of him. He is a little stressed at home with trying to find another job to pay for his car, constantly having to do things for his mom, being responsible for his siblings, and managing school. I know thats a lot but im doing a lot too right now and going through a lot of the same stuff he is but It seems to me he just does not care and i don't know what to do. Please help me or give me some advice on what to say, what not to say, what to do, what not to do. Anything at this point will help. Thank you!

If I had a dollar for every time I heard "these are unprecedented times," I'd be rich. But that's because it's true!

Keep Reading... Show less
Tower 28

On paper, Amy Liu appears to be one of the most intimidating women in the beauty business. Not only did she launch her beauty marketing career at legendary Smashbox Cosmetics, she went on to lead luxury, high-end brands like Kate Somerville and Josie Maran — just to name a few.

But sitting down to meet Liu for the first time in an underground New York bar over a year ago felt like meeting a friend I'd known since childhood. As she walked into the bar in a chic red dress, it was impossible not to feel her immediate warm presence. When she talks about her history as an entrepreneur (and truly, at heart, she always was one), you don't get the sense that she's selling you anything, though with her impeccable taste, I'd use anything that had her glowing review attached to it.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments