the type of feelings the love of your life should give you

how you know when you've met the one

It was unexpected and neither of us were looking, but he is hands down the best thing to ever happen to me.


Growing up, I was never the girl who always had a boyfriend or was involved with a guy. I just did not see the point in pursuing a relationship with someone if I didn't see a future with them. Given that that was my perspective on dating, I had never been in a relationship before the one I am in now. Some people may think it is weird for a nineteen-year-old college sophomore to just now has her first boyfriend, but I think it's special that I waited to date until I found someone special.

Given that I had no relationship experience when I met Jake, I didn't really know what to expect when it came to having a boyfriend. I had an idea of what it would be like based on relationships my friends have been in, but that still wasn't personal experience or knowledge. When I say that Jake exceeded every single expectation I had, I mean it. I've never felt more loved and cared for than I do now. He has made me the happiest girl in the world, and isn't that what we all search for in a partner?

Sometimes when you meet a guy/girl in college or at any point in your adult life and develop feelings for them, you kind of hesitate to get into a relationship because commitment can be a scary thing. Especially nowadays with cheating being such a common and widespread issue. One of the biggest signs that Jake was the one for me was that I wasn't hesitant at all to commit to him. In fact, I have never been more excited to do anything in my life than commit to him and be his girl. Beyond that, I have never been more proud of anything in my life than I am to call Jake mine. He never fails to show me how much he loves and cares about me each and every day, and I do the same for him. Because of this, neither of us ever questions how the other feels. We always know, which results in neither of us ever getting jealous or scared of being hurt because we know that no one could ever come between us

In addition to how easy it was to commit and how happy he makes me, Jake does so many little things that mean so much. For instance, holding my hand whenever he gets the chance, making me breakfast/lunch/dinner, holding doors open for me, doing my dishes, giving me his favorite shirts/sweatshirts to wear, encouraging me in anything and everything I do, telling me I'm beautiful each and every day, and so much more. It's the little things like that that he does that show me how much he truly does love me. Those aren't things that every guy does, those are things that the right guy does when he really loves his girl.

While having an unbeatable connection is definitely a major factor in why Jake is the one I'll be spending the rest of my life with, another major factor is our similar lifestyles and aspirations. We both workout nearly every day and eat extremely healthily. So, when we are together, neither of us has to change our routine in order to accommodate the other. We do the exact same things we normally do every day, it just makes them a million times better because we are doing them together. Furthermore, we have similar career aspirations, and we want the same things when it comes to our future.

Between the love we have for each other, how similar our lifestyles already are, and are nearly identical visions for our future, I know that I've found the man I'll spend the rest of my life with. He makes me the happiest person, and I am so extraordinarily blessed to have found him. I can only hope that other people are as lucky as us when it comes to love. I feel nothing but excitement for my future with Jake because I know it will be full of happiness, love, and amazing memories.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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