How I Fulfilled My "New Year, New Me" Goal In 2018

How I Fulfilled My New Year, New Me Goal In 2018

On December 31st, 2017, I promised myself to try to be happier in 2018. Here's what I accomplished.

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I started to improve my physical health

Listen, I am not one to work out. at all. When I started playing soccer in kindergarten, I quit the first week because I ran up to my mom crying about the sweat on my forehead. But I vowed to myself that I would start taking better care of my physical health in 2018, and now I am healthier and stronger than I have ever been before. I try to stay active every day (most of the time) while being mindful of what I'm eating, and oh boy, it has worked wonders.

I became more self-aware

I've suffered from anxiety pretty much my entire life. It's been hard to manage now that I'm on my own in college, but in 2018, instead of being self-critical, I started to set goals for myself. It's all about progress people!

I removed myself from toxic relationships

Friendships can be just as unhealthy as serious relationships. I experienced both in 2018, and I learned how important it is to put my happiness first, always. If you have experienced something similar, know that it's always okay to talk to someone about how you're feeling. You are important, and your feelings are valid.

I worked 24/7

School has always been my number one priority, and when I graduated from High School in 2018, I promised myself to push even harder in college. I have learned so much being in Architecture school. It has truly made me a better person all around.

I tried something new as often as possible

A year ago I hated coffee, tea and broccoli (weird combo, I know). Since I've started school, my entire being has been replaced by Starbucks coffee and matcha tea. Seriously, that stuff is so good. I started to love these things because I really did put in the effort to try something new. This doesn't just apply to beverages, either. I also tried yoga, fashion, and hiking!

I opened up

Throughout my life, I have deflected any and all serious conversations with humor. It was just so much easier to pretend like nothing was wrong rather than confront it. But I knew that I couldn't fulfill my wish of becoming happier if I continued this unhealthy approach. So, I started to talk about my problems. There's no shame in confronting your past, whether that means you talk to a therapist, a friend, or a family member. Just have a conversation.

I changed my appearance

I've had the same long, straight, dirty-blonde hair my whole life. I thought that after a good 18 years, it was time to switch things up. Mid-2018, I got some Zooey Deschanel bangs and auburn hair. Along with this, I started buying clothes at thrift stores, which really helped me find my style.

I decreased my screen time

A few times during the year, I gave up social media for a few weeks. Those breaks taught me how important it is to stay awake and active. I try to remind myself every now and then: "What will I remember and value more: aimlessly scrolling on Instagram all day or going outside to take my dog on a hike?" It works every time.

I explored the world

Now I am as broke--if not more broke-- than your average college student. On average, I have about $2.00 in my bank account... yeah. However, there are other ways to travel. It's sometimes best to travel locally! I started camping and driving in order to see more of my hometown.

I began to love myself

The hardest part of it all was trying to accept myself for who I am. There are days where I am positive, half-full and confident, but others where I want to burrito myself in a blanket forever. But I'm starting somewhere, and I am proud af of myself for it.


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17 Things I Learned From Dr. Cristina Yang In Preparation For 2017

2016 was tough, but Dr. Yang can help you have a better year this year.
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2016 was tough. It was a year of transition, pain, difficult decisions, moving forward, and a whole lot of binge watching Grey's Anatomy on Netflix to help me through the rough patches. Here's 17 things I learned from Dr. Cristina Yang in preparation for 2017:

1. Every Woman Should Be Known For More Than Just Her Good Looks

There are more important things in life than what you look like. At the end of everything, when lots of years pass, beauty fades, and brains remain.

2. Sometimes You Just Have To Be On Your Own.

Sometimes the only person you can count on is yourself. That's when you can become a force of nature.

3. It's OK To Keep Some Things To Yourself.

Not everyone needs to know your business, and not everyone that you're really close to has to know every detail of your life. Choose what you share with people very carefully.

4. It's OK To Not Need No Man!

Being a "strong, independent woman who don't need no man" is an important first step in becoming a better you. After all, you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first.

5. You Set The Standards For Yourself, So Raise The Bar High.

Greatness can only be achieved if you push yourself to new levels. So, forget being average, and strive for greatness.

6. Sometimes You Can Only Handle Focusing On One Thing At A Time.

Don't bite off more than you can chew, especially if you're going through a difficult time. Focus only on what you can handle in any given moment.

7. In This Life You Get What You Accept, So You Just Have To Stop Accepting Crap.

Along the lines of, "you are who your friends are" falls the idea that what you accept is what happens to you. So, stop accepting crap from yourself and others, and crappy things will stop happening to you.

8. Pain is a real thing. You will feel it, and it will hurt.

Life is hard. And sometimes very painful. But you have to allow yourself to feel the pain as it comes, otherwise it'll only hurt worse later on.

9. Sometimes The Best Things Happen After We Hit Rock Bottom.

Many of us know what it feels like to hit rock bottom, but only a few of us know what it feels like to pull yourself up out of that. Choose to be like the Phoenix, and rise from the ashes.

10. You Have To Put Yourself First, And That's OK.

You have to choose what is best for you. If you're constantly doing things for the approval of others, or to help others and neglect yourself, you will burn out and face more difficult times. It's OK to put yourself and your needs first.

11. The Most Painful Experiences Are The Ones We Learn The Most From.

The most painful experiences we endure are also the ones we learn the most from. We have to find the strength within ourselves to learn from those mistakes and to choose to never let them happen again.

12. It's OK To Be Dedicated To Your Work.

There are worse faults to have than being a hard-worker.

13. A Little Bit Of Competition Is Healthy.

Healthy competition is a great way to relieve stress, keep your body healthy, and your mind focused. Shoving as many hot dogs as possible down your throat may not be the best choice, but hey, to each their own!

14. Even The Strongest Of People Need Someone They Can Count On.

Everyone needs someone to be their person. You've got to find your person and never let them go.

15. You Can't Fix Your Problems If You Let Them Cripple You.

"The first step is admitting you have a problem." Well, if that's true then the second step must be working towards fixing the problem is the only way you'll overcome your problems.

16. It's OK To Let Your Guard Down With The Right Person.

Often times after we endure traumatic experiences we put up walls and never trust anyone again. This can actually do more harm than good. It's OK to tear those walls down for the right person.

17. When All Else Fails...You Just Have To Dance It Out.

Sometimes you just have to get out of your own head and let loose for a little while. Take a break, throw on some uplifting, upbeat music, and throw yourself a mini dance party...even if you're dancing alone!

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This Year, I Will Stop Worrying About Situations That Have Not Happened

Worrying about every negative outcome is a dreadful way of protecting yourself.

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I remember crying in the airport, ridiculously anxious and scared of a horrible situation that had not even happened, for one instance. I typically make myself sick over the fear of a bad outcome in the future, but this toxic way of thinking is no way to live a healthy life.

In short, it is anxiety, but instead of just classifying it as anxiety, I have found that most of the times I am upset or worried is when I am depicting a horrible outcome in my head of what life could spin in to. It is my way of protecting myself, thinking of every upsetting scenario and going through the ways of how I will handle it in my head prior to it happening. It can sound somewhat logical, but my mind got carried away with it.

It didn't end up being a thought-out method with plans of reaction for negative outcomes, I would end up worrying about things so bizarre and so unlikely to happen and it would completely consume me. It robbed me of happiness. Worrying about unreal and unlikely situations sent me into spirals of crying and anxiety, and not for any real or plausible reason. I would spend the whole day staring at the wall, unable to speak to anyone because my worry was so consuming, or finally meet my breaking point and just erupt in tears and have to explain to the people around me that I am basically crying for no reason.

There is too much life to live to live every day by the lingering thought of "What if something bad happens?" I have too many good days ahead of me to be spent worrying, and a handful of bad ones that should not be made worse by worry or fear. Life is good, and it is almost frightening because it has been very good for a while, perhaps this is why my mind wants to prepare for the worst, as the daunting thought of things being "too good" comes into play.

Even when bad days come, and they will, I will handle them. I have noticed that when life is so hard, I get through it, and I look back thinking "Damn. How did I ever get through that?" I take pride in the fact that when bad days, situations, and periods of life do occur, I always, always handle them. But, in the meantime, I would like to savor my good days instead of worrying about not-yet-existent bad days.

So, this is a big step for me, but I am going to try and do this. I know it will bring peace to me, and a lot of people who surround me. This year, I will stop worrying about situations that have not happened.

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