You Become A Boss Lady By Encouraging All Women

You Become A Boss Lady By Encouraging All Women

A boss lady does not compete with other women; she lifts them up.

A boss lady is a self-loving queen, a rebel and a big-hearted woman who recognizes her worth in all situations. Every girl wants to become a boss lady and every girl has the potential to be a boss lady.

There are some key characteristics that every boss lady has, which elevates her energy and allows her to have grace even in the most challenging circumstances. Here are 10 critical traits of a boss lady:

1. She lifts her fellow women up.

A confident and mature woman can find the beauty in all women around her and not feel threatened. Rather than comparing herself to others or feeling the need to put other women down, she will uplift the women in her life without hesitation. A boss lady does not compete with other women because she knows that we are all unique and absolutely beautiful in our diversity. No man will ever cause a boss lady to insult a fellow woman or feel threatened by another woman.

2. She takes care of herself.

A boss lady values her health and sets aside time to work out or take fitness classes that she enjoys. A boss lady will eat well (the majority of the time), stay hydrated and make sure that she is treating her body with love throughout the week. The self-care also means adequate sleep, allotting time to relax and finding some kind of therapeutic outlet (spirituality, art, sports, etc.). She is confident in her own body and loves herself exactly as she is.

3. She isn’t afraid to be wrong.

A boss lady knows that she doesn’t know more than she does know. She is hungry for knowledge, speaks up in class and takes calculated risks to push herself toward growth. A boss lady does not have all the answers and is self-aware enough to know that. She desires a life-long education, remains humble and is not afraid of making mistakes. A boss lady who truly values her education will ask questions in class and speak up.

4. She knows her values.

A boss lady has her convictions and will stick by her moral code. Possessing confidence and strong values, a boss lady is not easily swayed by the opinions of others in her life. She will respect herself and everyone she comes into contact with, act with kindness and will continue to be the woman that she is in her heart and soul.

5. She cares for others.

Every boss lady needs to recognize the importance of care for those around her. Without compassion, empathy and the desire to have a positive effect on the world around her, a woman is not a boss. A boss is not consumed by her ego, image or materialistic advances. A boss lady will be an advocate for others and will find ways to be involved in helping others by investing her time and heart to whatever causes that she is passionate about.

6. She appreciates her blessings.

That means the boss lady gives gratitude to her family and her mentors, and constantly is reminding herself of all of the gifts that she was given. The boss lady does not allow herself to take a single day for granted and is aware of all of the privileges that she is given. A boss lady will use her blessings to continue working to make those around her happier and healthier.

7. She is a loyal friend.

A boss lady does not talk ill of her friends. A boss lady knows how to forgive friends and is aware and works on her own shortcomings in any friendship. A boss lady is a supportive friend, a non-jealous friend and a friend that knows how to listen without judgement. A boss lady knows that her friends are not her competition and loves to see her friends succeed.

8. She is self-reliant.

A boss lady can go it alone if she needs to. A boss lady is not afraid to spend time with herself. She will never rely on a man for validation or for comfort. A boss lady has the confidence and strength to be independent and recognizes the value in that quality. No boss lady will wait on a man who disrespects her, be petty over the past or will over-identify with the man in her life. Instead, she will demand respect, remain independent and build her partner up with an open heart.

9. She is always looking for opportunities to grow.

A boss lady knows how to turn adversity into opportunity. Through positivity and problem-solving skills, a boss lady is able to make the changes that she needs in her life and loves seizing any opportunity for growth that she can. She is not afraid to ask for help, to reach out to others and to seek out avenues to expand her skill sets, career and network. The boss lady isn’t afraid to hustle and work hard for what she wants. In fact, she loves the feeling of earning success and being active.

10. She doesn't let other's judgements keep her down.

Unfortunately, some people love to see other people struggle. Once you start doing well for yourself, you will become aware of who has the best intentions for you. Watch who supports you, who fades out of your life and how people act more than they speak. A boss lady rises above gossip, doesn’t concern herself with rumors and is able to move past the negativity that people might throw her way. Ultimately, the boss lady knows her truth and no one can take that away from her.

Blessings to all my boss ladies. May we rise together and continue to lift each other up with authenticity, love and genuine appreciation for each others spirits.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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My Body Is Not Your Conversation Topic

I'm not up for public consumption.


I'm skinny. There is seemingly nothing wrong with that. I'm a bit underweight but I am healthy. My body does everything I need it to do and I take care of it well. There is a privilege in being skinny; I can shop for clothes my size relatively easily, my body type is represented in the media constantly, etc.

There's nothing wrong with having a healthily thin body type — women are beautiful at every size. The only problem with being skinny is that I don't want to be. I have struggled with my weight and body image for a long time and it is my own problem to deal with, but some days people around me make it worse.

Being skinny makes me feel small, insignificant, like a child. People say the weirdest things about my body and act like it's a compliment. In high school, I wore a pencil skirt to school and was with my friends in the office. An administrator came up to talk to us and commented on how skinny my legs were, then proceeded to gesture to her own leg and ask me if she could give some of her "fat" because I "needed it." It's funnier now but at the time, I was so uncomfortable and too shy to do anything but give her a courtesy laugh.

I didn't wear skirts for a while after that. Those kinds of comments make me feel seen in the wrong way; it makes me want to disappear. There have even been people who are bold enough to invade my personal space and touch me, then tell me — in amazement — that I'm "really skin and bones." It's weird and awkward and truly doesn't add anything to a conversation. It's actually the easiest way to get me to end a conversation, as well as a relationship, with you.

In a day and age where we share almost everything online, it's become the norm to discuss and analyze people's bodies. They're the ones putting it out there so we should be able to nitpick them to death, right? Wrong. Commenting on someone's body, size, health, etc. is never okay and should not be considered commonplace. I know I'm skinny so I definitely don't need anyone to remind me. The sky is blue but we don't point it out every day, do we?

Leave people's bodies alone. You truly never know what somebody may be dealing with in terms of their body image. And no, you're not entitled to know. I don't tell everybody who makes a comment about my body that I've struggled with my body image since I was 13 because they simply don't deserve to know. Don't put people in a position where they have to defend their own body.

I'm taking my power back lately and not giving anyone a courtesy laugh when they make a joke or comment about my body. Instead, I'm just telling them to shut up, and I encourage you to do the same.

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