Since cuffing season just finished, The Bachelor has started back up, and spring fever is around the corner, so you know what that means: LOVE.

This past week, I was watching The Bachelor. Arie (the Bachelor) was sitting with one of the women, Bekah, and they were discussing why he’s scared to be with her. She said it’s because he has always dated women who have needed him, but mostly he’s afraid because “he knows she doesn’t need him to complete her.”

This struck a chord with me because I realized I want to have Bekah’s outlook. As a single person, since what seems like forever, who watches their best friends fall in love and loves RomComs, I want to be my own person, and even if I find that person I want them to compliment me, not complete me.

I know this sounds like a cliche Pinterest board quote, but Bekah spoke some truth about how we should view and search for love. We watch movies and TV shows that tell us to find someone to complete us and many melt at the quotes about finding their person.

None of us are whole, we are all broken and bruised in some way. We have to find someone who can treat these bruises with care, not fix them.

So I urge you to start to become so content with who you are that whoever is lucky enough to date you next, you don't need, but want. There is a huge difference between needing and wanting someone. Needing someone means you can't live without them and wanting someone means you can live without them, but you don't want too.

I think we often forget that ourselves are more important than whoever we "need" to be with.

For those of you who aren't single and have lost your way, know that you don't need the person you're with, reevaluate if you actively want them and if you don't, know that you will be okay and choose yourself.

This is easier said than done, but Bekah's lesson is vital: You don't need someone to complete you.

You complete you.

Why isn't that enough?