Honesty Hour

Honesty Hour

Breaking down walls about the things that matter most.


I don't want to hear something impressive. I want to hear something real; especially in a world of one-sided friendships, perfectly edited posts, and everyone trying to keep it together. You need it for you. I need it for me. We need it for us. The shallow end has very little to offer us in the long run. One day at a time, little things and small words will add up to big victories and greater progress.

You will get there and I will too.

Lately, I can't stop thinking how God wants me to stop running and start living; even in the here and now. Even in the uncertainty of this season. Even in the pain. Even in unexpected circumstances and timing of my life.

It is in the here and now that He is working and using things—hard things—to change me and you. Situations can cause my life to truly begin now or make me quit. The choosing is up to me.

There are little victories in life that we hardly stop to notice. Progress is happening every single day. You got up. You called a friend. You reached out to someone. You were gentle with yourself. You ate well and took good care of your body. You replaced your negative thoughts with positive ones. You prayed and read when you'd rather sleep more. You said no and you said yes to things. You asked for help when you needed it. You did what you've been putting off. You showed up. You gave it your best. You didn't do everything, but you did something. Don't give in to the thought that you can't or admit defeat. Keep going and celebrating. Just keep going.

Keep going when the nights are dark and long, make you believe all sorts of lies.

Keep going when you think you'll never recover from that heartbreak or forget him.

Keep going when your person is no longer your person, and you've had to move on without a piece of yourself.

Keep going when others don't support or celebrate you like they should.

Keep going when you lose that precious friend or family member to cancer, suicide, or illness.

Keep going when you don't want to trust anyone anymore and you find yourself not even knowing how to.

Keep going when your expectations go unmet and hope seems only like a glimmer.

Keep going when you have failed and your dreams have been broken into tiny, shattered pieces.

Keep going even when you don't want to acknowledge the pain surrounding you.

Keep going when you're struggling to stay or see beauty in your tomorrow.

Write down your daily victories and watch as you begin to be able to look back at all the progress you have made. Everyday that you are living and fighting is worth celebrating. I've started to write small hope notes too—reminders to keep alive and hold onto even when we don't feel like it.

1: I hope you know this is not the end. There is more to life than what you know now. Light is on the other side of this; sometimes you just have to fight to see it.

2: Even if it is just a glimmer you see of hope each day, hold onto it. You need it for yourself. You need help to go on when you think there is no way you can. You can and you will just you wait and see.

3: Stay and keep choosing to stay; even when happiness looks far away and your world is a dark, thick fog. Or when everything seems to be big, unclear, moving fast, and you are full of fear. You will not be left behind. Staying is hard, but worth it, because diamonds come from pressure.

4: Wherever you're at, know that this is not where your story ends. You're on a page and maybe feel stuck in a particular chapter, but not for good. Not everything lasts forever; in fact, very few things actually do. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and do the next thing. Before you know it, you will be turning the page to another chapter. There can be another ending besides the one you know by heart.

5: What others say of you, think of you, and even what they do to you doesn't change the masterpiece that you are. Not everyone will see you for who you really are, but those that do will see a heart of gold.

Remember, you and I will make it—one victory at a time. Keep hope alive for yourself and the person next to you. Let's be real, honest, and present for each other in doing the thing this year!

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The Burning Of Notre Dame Has Actually Strengthened My Catholic Faith

Corinthians 5:17 says, "Old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."


Every year, Palm Sunday is the start of Holy Week in the Christian faith. As the most sacred time of the year, those who believe Jesus died on the cross for our sins hold these days dear in our hearts. 2019's Palm Sunday, however, is now held in infamy. The very next day, the precious Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris started to burn.

As the world now knows, the famed and historic Notre-Dame de Paris was spontaneously engulfed in flames on April 15, 2019. The cause has not yet been identified precisely but is most likely due to complications during the $6.8 million renovations the cathedral is currently under. Completed back in 1345, the nearly 800-year-old church has withstood the test of time relatively well.

Until now.

The modern world watched as one of the biggest treasures of the past burned away before our eyes, Twitter even erupted in an unprecedented coverage of this world-wide tragedy as many took to social media to pour their condolences and share memories of this French icon. Religion, race and personal beliefs aside, the world collectively grieved and lent support.

While this is truly a loss on a global scale, the blow comes as a particularly harsh one to the Catholic community after a particularly difficult season of Lent. From the Pope addressing allegations of sexual assault, to backlash over the controversial theatrical release of the film "Unplanned", this latest development seemed like a cruel joke in the days leading up to Easter Sunday. I myself felt affected by this fire hundred of thousand miles away in North Carolina. One of our most beloved holy churches was ebbing away in front of us and all God could do was watch.

However, despite all that, we must look forward.

Despite much of the church being reduced to ash, some of the priceless artifacts and objects that were hidden away in the cathedral have been able to survive the ordeal; such as the crown of thorns, numerous pieces of art, the rose windows, the altar cross shown above and the iconic bells of Notre Dame. Once news of this broke out, I was strengthed to my core knowing God was indeed there.

It seems like such an oxymoron to see such a tragedy as a sign of hope, yet the Bible itself is full of those. The 7 plagues that tormented Eygpt, the Great Flood, and even the death of Christ as examples.

As children of Christ, we are told at a very young age to never question his plan. He is all knowing and has a way of making everything fall into place. God sensed that Catholics were in the midst of a troubling time and brought us this opportunity of a new beginning. The burning taking place during Holy Week can also be taken as perfect timing.

The whole premise of this week revolves around the death of Jesus at the hands of Pontius Pilate, yet miraculously returned three days later before joining Our Father in Heaven, the cathedral can very well do the same and return better than before.

It is a devastating loss but already we are seeing evidence of joyous aftermath. As I noted before, people from all walks of life are offering support and condolences to a faith they were scorning just a week prior. Priceless artifacts have miraculously been recovered and plans for rebuilding have already started. This is a sign of a new beginning, that God is backing us through it all.

Do not question His plan, just have faith. The rest will fall into place.

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Dear Future Baby, I'm Already In Love With You

My heart is already so full of love and your worth even though you aren't here yet.


Even though I don't know you yet, I already love you with my whole heart. Someday you will be more than a dream; you will be a living reality. I don't know what will happen in between now and when you're born, but I can't wait to meet you. It doesn't matter if you are a girl, boy, learn differently or look differently than others. It doesn't matter if you are long or short, tiny or a cute little chunk. It doesn't matter if you look like me, your Daddy, both of us or have a look completely your own. You will be special and perfect, because you will be mine and because you are human.

Nothing could make you less human, less perfect, or less mine.

As long as your heart is beating and you are breathing, nothing else will matter more to me. The circumstances and timing surrounding the beginning of your life will not determine whether you are wanted and loved. It doesn't matter where I am or what I may have to give up, you will be completely worth it. There will never come a day when all lives are not precious or valued to me.

You will be given a chance to live and love this beautiful life.

I am deeply saddened that I can't give this to every little one who doesn't get a chance. I will speak for you and protect you until you can for yourself. I will do everything in my power to see that you are never harmed. With me, you will be safe, understood and loved unconditionally.

I hope one day in the future that I am able to be blessed with the gift that I'm certain you will be. I can't wait to hold you in my arms and tell you all the words that I've had in my heart for so long. When I look into a little one's eyes, I am reminded of you too and the person you will become. You will cry and you will laugh.

You will learn to walk and you will crawl. You will fall, but I will help you get up. You will be afraid, but you will also be brave. You will learn and you will grow through all the choices you make and the person you become. I can't wait to meet you and be a part of that.

Even when it's dark, you don't have to be afraid because I'll be right there.

I'll hold your hand and walk with you until you don't need me to anymore. And whenever you're older, if you need me, I will be there too. I'll always just be a phone call, visit, and hug away from you. I may not be able to be your side all the time when you're older, but I will carry you with me in my heart. We will walk through your first day of school, first heartbreak, first time pursuing your dreams and more — together.

It will be OK even when the world seems to be falling apart; we have One holding us that will mend it. God will be there and I promise I'll be there too.

The world and the people in it can be cold and cruel, but don't let that scare you. You can be both soft and strong if you keep your kindness. Showing love and serving others can go a long way. It may not change the situation every time, but it will always change you. Keep hope and love in your pocket for yourself and for others.

It doesn't take a lot, but it does take one person to start. There will be days you need it. It makes a difference and will help to make the world a sunnier place. I believe in you and can't wait to see the impact you make.

You can turn rain to sunshine when you see all the negativity, but choose to focus on the positive.

Life won't be easy, but you can come to me about anything and we can face it together. I know all the stories that have made me who I am today, and you will have those too. You can confide in me about the mistakes you made, the weaknesses you have or the secrets you keep.

There isn't anything too small or too big for you to bring up. I wish I could fix everything wrong with this world and protect you from all the hurt and darkness. While I can't always do that, I can be someone you can rely on to listen and care.

I will never regret loving you fully or how much I am trusted with in return.

I will be your safe place no matter how young, old, small, or big you grow. You will always be one of my greatest and sweetest gifts and I hope to be that for you too.

Darling, no matter who you become and where you go, I want you to never forget how much you matter. You are never alone, regardless of what others make you feel like and what the lies in your head tell you.

Little does not mean, and never will mean, worthless.

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