Why You Should Maintain Your Best High School Friendships

Hometown BFF's, Now From Different States...

From Connecticut, to Maryland, to Rhode Island, and back


It's truly crazy how drastically your life can change in a matter of days. One day you are sitting around a huge bonfire with your summer group reminiscing on endless car rides, trips down Velvet Street (if you know, you know), sleepovers, doing stupid things, and going to the beach at midnight… and the next you are living in a different state with people you have yet to meet. It is a crazy feeling. A ton of good has come from college - and I have hope that the second semester will be even better - but the change in your life causes changes far beyond moving into a dorm room.

After spending every day with these people around this bonfire, you begin to realize your drives to laugh, cry, have the occasional mental breakdown, Dunkin' runs, deep chats, and nights spent filling your best friend in on everything in your life are about to change for good. And it is hard to really understand how you will stay so close with someone so far away.

But, the best of friends prevail, nonetheless.

I met my best friend during my Junior year of high school. I have many who I consider my besties, but me and her clicked like sisters. It is cheesy, for sure, but I am not sure how else to describe it. Leaving a toxic friend group and finding more genuine people who would soon make our summer one we could never forget drew us so close. Having that person to text about any random thing, pick up at any point in the day, and be completely honest and genuine with advice and conversations is something I wish everyone can have.

Although I am up for making new friends and experiencing new things in this new place, as I always have been, it is hard to imagine how anyone could become so close to me, granted all that we have been through these past few years.

I have realized this past semester, more than ever, that these friends are the kind you must hold on to. Such genuine friendships, like the one I share with my best friend, do not come along so often in life. There are friendships to be made at every turn - especially in college - but ones built up by experience, years of growth, and happiness is ones that should be held forever.

Learning to make the extra effort, to make it work, is important.

Extra FaceTime calls, texts to make you laugh (and the occasional text war, when your thoughts are lost in translation), and plans to visit one another or fill breaks with more fun will keep your friendship in good shape. And when you are home, going back to your same old ways will help you reminisce and make you happy to be home.

When you get home from college, it is a strange thing how people gravitate toward the closest people they left off with - so find your people, especially your person, and keep friendships alive that is worth keeping. Just because your life is changing and you are in a new chapter does not mean you are supposed to give up something you had that was so great.

Make new friends, but surely keep the old.

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To The Soon-To-Be College Freshman Who Think They'll Keep Their High School Friends, Know This

You will maybe talk to 10 people back from your high school while your in college.


I know what you are thinking "Of course I am going to still talk to all my high school friends once we graduate." "You just didn't keep up with your friends." "I am going to talk to them every day."

Of course, you may be the lucky ones that go on to the same college and university, but if you follow your best friend to college then have you ever thought to yourself. "Did I choose my school based on if my friend(s) would go to college together." Obviously, it could be coincidental that you end up in the same place, but my argument is more on the idea of having friends that go to the same college on your list of important things once you move away.

Now if you are still reading and still in denial with what I am saying then continue.

Since moving away from home I have broadened my horizons and met more people then I could ever have imagined. I have met people that if I have not kept an open mind to them I would not be friends with them now. You will most likely choose the same type of friends that you had in high school if you do not keep an open mind when finding friends in college.

You also do not want to be that person who refuses to make other friends besides their high school friends. I hate to break it to you, but your high school friends will find other friends beside you when they leave for college/university. This time in your life is supposed to be "a new chapter" if you do not branch out of your comfort zone then you will be stuck in a little bubble for the rest of your life.

Not only will your friends in your high school class be making friends, but you need to make friends that are in the same stage of life that you are also in. Still talking to high school aged friends will limit you from conversations due to distance, lack of relevance, and just not going through the same stuff as you.

Sounds daunting? I know.

I am not saying that you can not be friends still with your high school friends. From time to time I catch up with mine to see how the school is going for them, and how they are doing, but I am building and forming relationships with my friends at college because you have had to start up from ground zero, and will be forming a foundation until we graduate.

Even when you have broken it is nice to hang out with your high school friends and talk about the good old days. My point to you is to keep an open mind and to not get upset when high school friends have moved on and found their new friends from school just like you.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.


1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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