How The Holidays Change When Your Parents Are Divorced

How The Holidays Change When Your Parents Are Divorced

Change is hard, but sometimes it helps you to see what is truly important in life.

Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. The world is covered in pretty lights and sometimes the outside is even decorated with glittering, white snow. But, sometimes the warm, happy, family scenes depicted in stories, movies and pictures, change. It can be really hard to adjust to a new life of two households and two sets of traditions--some old, some new. But sometime's, it's actually kind of worth it.

When my parents first got divorced, I struggled. I was never super happy about change and I was not accustomed to feeling pulled in two directions. But, nobody was. This was news for everyone. As the years go by, my parents have begun to understand the new traditions they have established and this pull has become less pronounced. Both understand that it's still a big deal that my sister and I eat dinner with my dad's family on Christmas Eve and that, on Christmas Day, the schedule flips each year. And, when things come up, my parents have gotten better at communicating what needs to be done to make things run smoothly. It didn't start that way, but after a few years, the bumps have been smoothed out.

The biggest change I noticed, however, was not that I'm less stressed at this time of year or that, (wow) my parents are understanding of each other's wants and respectful of new traditions that have been created. The biggest change had to do with what I found most important about the entire holiday season.

It's really annoying to be fed three Thanksgiving meals over the course of 10 hours. It's exhausting to switch houses halfway through Christmas morning or New Year's Eve. But, it's worth it. Why?

What really changed when my parents got divorced wasn't the crazy schedule, it was the change from enjoying the traditional parts of holidays to just enjoying the presence of the people I love. Nobody likes feeling pulled in a billion directions by family and nobody likes traveling a bunch in one day to make everyone happy, but it's so worth it. When you get older and are not home every day to see your family, holidays become so important just to catch up for hours.

You can talk about how crazy your professors were this last semester and let everyone know what exciting plans you have for the spring. You can hug your dog and play fetch in the house for hours even though you know you aren't supposed to. You can hug your cat and catch up with your sister on how crazy her schedule has been the last few weeks preparing to dance the lead in "The Nutcracker." And, even when you're running around like a chicken with your head cut off, at least you're doing it with family.

Even though they annoy you sometimes, family is what makes all of this worth it. Change is scary and change is hard, but sometimes change can help you identify the most important things in life and appreciate precious time with family.

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11 Feminist Halloween Costumes You Don't Need Cleavage To Feel Sexy In

If you’re looking for the most scandalous outfits to wear this Halloween, this may not be it.

If you're a socially conscious f eminist, you'll know sexy shouldn't be defined by anything other than what you make of it.

However, when most people type in "sexy Halloween costumes" into their search engine, they might be looking for tight bodysuits or something that shows a little more cleavage. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not knocking out bunny ears or mesh tights. However, it might be time to stretch what that definition means.

I've gathered a few costume ideas that are sure to make a statement this Halloween while representing some of the most iconic women of our time. So, here are the ten best Halloween costumes for forward-thinking women like us!

1. Rosie the Riveter

Who better to show that we are equal and can do a “man’s job” just as good (or better) than Rosie the Riveter? This outfit is bold and inexpensive. You may even have this in your closet!

2. Marilyn Monroe

"I am very definitely a woman and I enjoy it.”

More proof that you can be beautiful in pants or a dress. Embrace the beauty within.

3. Taylor Swift

“I don’t really think about things as guys versus girls. I never have. I was raised by parents who brought me up to think if you work as hard as guys, you can go far in life,” Taylor Swift said in an interview with The Daily Beast.

Enough said.

4. Hillary Clinton

President or not I’m still with her. Just like feminists and activists before her, she has paved the way for modern women to stand up for themselves and have a voice.

5. Susan B. Anthony

Susan B. Anthony proved any woman could turn her dreams into a reality. She helped remove limitations and showed women to be fearless. Fast forward 97 years and women can achieve even more than. Yes, we still have more to accomplish, but we’re definitely nearing the horizon!

6. Amelia Earhart

Not only was she an American aviator, she was also the first woman to ever fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Talk about goals. This Halloween, you can defy gender norms just like Amelia did.

7. Frida Kahlo

Surrealist painter Frida Kahlo explored the depths of her identity, culture, gender, class, love, and loss. Through her persona and her artwork, she defied feminine beauty and gender stereotypes in a time where women had few rights and were viewed as submissive. Who ever said you had to get your brows waxed anyway?

8. Birth Control

Hands off my birth control!

This might be sound a little kooky, but isn't that what Halloween is all about? This year, make it a point to express how you feel through your costume. Women need to stick together! So, let's dress up as birth control to remind the GOP we will not accept another restriction.

9. Wonder Woman

Adding Wonder Woman to our list was a no-brainer. She’s a crowd favorite, especially the way Gal Gadot represented her in the new movie.

Overall, Wonder Woman is a symbolic character that reminds us anyone can be a hero. The days when only little boys looked up to their favorite superhero are long gone. Now, kids and adults of any gender have a badass female superhero to fawn over.

10. Madonna

More than 30 years ago Madonna broke the barriers of what men wanted women to be. In a time where women were expected to follow certain rules, her attitude and bravery overcame those norms. Shoutout to "Hocus Pocus" for the inspo.

11. Rey from "Star Wars"

In "Star Wars: The Force Awakens," Han Solo's new protégé Rey is loaded with martial skills anyone would admire. Daisy Ridley plays the franchise's first female protagonist with a strong feminist persona. Rey refuses to be defined as "just a woman" and is definitely no damsel in distress. Instead, she is a fighter, survivor, and all around badass.

This Halloween, don't just be brave. Be Rey.

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I Tried Hatching Chickens In My College Dorm Room

It didn't work the first time.


A month ago, I had the idea of hatching chickens after seeing a video of a Korean man hiking with dozens of chicks running after him. I saw the video and was immediately like *yes I want that*. After some quick research, I discovered hatching chicks are fast and didn't sound too difficult. An incubator was around $20, and each chicken egg is under $2. Within an hour, I placed orders for an incubator and 7 chicken eggs.

A week later, they both arrived and I immediately got to work. I did research while waiting for my supplies to arrive so I could have a handle on things as soon as the eggs arrived. I learned about temperature control, turning, and humidity controls.

Chicken eggs hatch surprisingly quickly. The process only takes 21 days from putting it in the incubator. I didn't have automatic egg turning in my incubator, so I turned my eggs 3 times per day like clockwork. I controlled the temperature and refilled the humidity tray consistently. After 10 days, I candled them to see which ones seemed to have viable embryos. I threw out one egg which clearly had died to protect the others from contamination. The rest seemed like possible successes, so I kept them.

However, some factors were out of my control. About a week in, my apartment complex had a power outage. For about six hours, my eggs had no temperature control and the humidity slowly faded away. I was terrified, but it was out of my control. Another event - I had to go out of state for a day, and the eggs were not turned as many times as they were meant to. Also, around day 20, the outlet came loose and it was about four hours before I realized. Again, the eggs didn't have temperature or humidity control. Since it was so close to hatch day, that may have been the last straw.

The eggs didn't hatch. I would be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed, but I admit I made mistakes. I was very confident that at least one of the eggs would end up hatching, but here I am: chick-less. I will definitely be trying again, as soon as possible, so stay tuned for imminent success!

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