To The High School All-Star Turned Sub-Par College Athlete

To The High School All-Star Turned Sub-Par College Athlete

You still have something to be proud of

I know this is hard, you were once the star of the show and had everything going for you. College has humbled you into a state that you might not have wanted to go to. It was nice to be the center of all that attention, you were the one that everyone talked about. As you left the kingdom of high school you fell into the pool of the athletes who are in fact just as good as you, if not better. You might not have expected it, but this is the reality you now face. Out of the 2% of high school athletes that receive a scholarship to an NCAA school, you probably weren't one of them. Truthfully it is ok and it does not mean you are less of an athlete then them.

Your school newspaper or athletic headlines might not ever read your name. There is this moment where you sink into disparity and realize that you may never play competitive sports after college is done and over with. You were given four years to better yourself and now it feels like you have let down everyone around. Well no you didn't, your mind is lying to you. If you did everything in your power to stay in shape, work on your technique, and take every chance to play your sport then you did not let anyone down. Sometimes we must give up things in order to find out what we can gain.

Why have you set such a high standard for yourself?

I am going to be honest with you, I of all people should not ask that question. Like most I am probably the hardest person on myself. I am my biggest critic and nothing no one says ever changes my mind. I expect perfection of myself and in sports there is no such thing as perfect, you can always get better in some area. You may not get to see the field, court, track, etc. as much as you would have liked when you first entered college. College athletics is competitive and it is mainly about winning and if you cannot help contribute then your coach won't put you in, your parents can't call up your coach and fight for you. It is up to you if you are willing to put in the work.

Your worth is not determined by your ability to play sports!

I know it has probably been apart of your identity your whole life. Being in the spotlight is amazing, of course you want everyone to know your name. Also remember that you are in college to get an education for the future. It is hard to sometimes put aside a sport you have beloved since childhood. I might have to do that and I can tell you it will be one of the hardest decisions I will have to make.

Even though it would seem that you are an average player in college and to you it might not be good enough. But there is still something that you need to be proud of. Out of the thousands of high school athletes you were chosen to play a college sport. You made it! That childhood dream of getting a varsity jacket and then going off to college and playing a sport came true! Not many people make it to where you are. So congratulations you are still allowed to be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. Being in the spotlight isn't everything, you are still playing a sport in college. This is no easy task.

Stop being so hard on yourself and just enjoy the time you get to compete and wear your school's jersey with pride. You didn't have to pay for your gear, you got that for free. You are more on the team than those people who sit in the stands and cheer you on, be proud of yourself for you have worked hard. You won't always be the best everywhere you go and that doesn't mean you need to shy away and feel bad for yourself. Go out there and try your best and leave it all on the field, that's when you know you've made it.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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