An Open Letter To My High School Best Friends

An Open Letter To My High School Best Friends

No matter how distant college makes us feel, we'll always be best friends.


Dear best friends,

Thank you.

The most important thing I could possibly say to you is thank you. Thank you for spending all of the best years of my life by me. You've been sticking with me from elementary school to middle school, to high school, to college. And what would I do without you? I just want to reflect on how much you mean to me.

Everyone always says "you are who you're friends with," and every time I hear that I think about how lucky I am to have friends like you. Because of you, I had a great childhood through to high school experience. We did everything together and looking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way. I couldn't look back and ask for better best friends.

You guys made it all worthwhile. I'm so lucky to have had such a great growing-up experience because most people can't say they had friends as great as mine.

Up until college, you've lived every great memory of my life with me, and now all of a sudden you're not by my side anymore. It still feels weird sharing with you the goings-on of my life, because, before this, we were always together, so we never had to discuss our days. We already knew what happened because we were there.

Going from seeing each other every day in school for 10 years straight and hanging out all the time to being hundreds of miles away at college was not an easy transition, but it got easier with time. Being away from you always makes me realize how much I really miss you guys, and how great of a time we always had together.

I always look forward to breaking from college because I know it means I get much needed time with my forever gal pals. Although the days of having sleepovers every weekend, and taking the same classes together, and driving around late at night singing at the top of our lungs, and being on the same sports teams have ended and the tassels of high school have turned, I still love hanging out with you as much as ever, so days, when we're all in the same city, are always the best days.

We may not see each other as frequently, but we never fail to talk every day. Although we may not tell each other everything anymore, and I always feel out go the loop, I know there are going to be great stories to hear when we're finally all together.

In the end, even if we aren't as close, I know you guys are my absolute best friends no matter what. I know you're the ones I can call if I ever need anything. I know you'll always be there to answer my texts and talk to me when I just need to rant about my day.

I know you'll always pick up my FaceTime calls, and I know I'll always have besties back home to hang out with. I know that one day if I get married, you'll all be standing by my side in bridesmaid dresses.

Thank you for maintaining a long-distance friendship. Thank you for doing your best and always checking in, even if it isn't always easy. Thank you for not letting our friendship drift, even though we're all at different schools doing our own thing. Thank you for everything. I was honestly blessed with amazing friends.

I am endlessly grateful for you. See you so soon!

Your Lifelong Best Friend

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It Is OK To Have Guy Friends That Are Literally Just Guy Friends

Some of my best friends are guys and sometimes they are better friends than girls are.


Lately, I have come to the realization that some of my guy friends are better then some girls I call my "friends". Ever since middle school, I have always had many guy friends that have always been just guy friends, and nothing more. Some girls had a problem with it back then and they still do now, maybe because they are jealous, or maybe because they feel left out. However, I decided a long time ago to keep those guy friends for reasons like...

1. They Don't Take Things So Seriously

You can always joke around with them, and they will joke around with you right back. You can be as nice as you want or as mean as you want to them, and they will always take it as joke. I think that sometimes girls have a difficult time deciphering between when you are being serious or when you are joking. Most of my guys friends tend to not things too seriously at least 75% of the time.

2. They Are Always Honest

When I need a blatantly honest opinion I always ask my guy friends (and my mom). I do this because guys do not really care about whether or not their response will make you mad. Also, guys do not think about if their answer will benefit them personally or not before they answer.

3. They Genuinely Listen To You

Not all the time. But when I am upset, they are always the ones most concerned. Some of my guy friends take over the "big brother" role when it comes to some situations. My guy friends always listen to my problems or just the same old rants I give all the time because if something is wrong, or something has hurt me, they want to know, in order for them to try and fix it.

I am not trying to say that my girl friends are not my best friends either, and I really do have the best best friend. But sometimes, it just feels good to hangout with my guy friends. Guy friends, that I have never had a romantic relationship or feelings for and they have not had for me. These guys have always been there, and for that I am grateful.

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Please Spare Me From The Three Months Of Summer Break When People Revert Back To High Schoolers

They look forward to swapping stories with their friends at the local diner, walking around their old high school with a weird sense of superiority, and reminiscing their pre-college lives.


I know a surprising amount of people who actually couldn't wait to go home for the summer. They look forward to swapping stories with their friends at the local diner, walking around their old high school with a weird sense of superiority, and reminiscing their pre-college lives.

Me? Not so much. I don't mean to sound bitter. It's probably really comforting to return to a town where everyone knows your name, where your younger friends want you around to do their prom makeup, and where you can walk through Target without hiding in the deodorant aisle. But because I did this really annoying thing where my personality didn't really develop and my social anxiety didn't really loosen its grip on me until college, I have a very limited number of people to return to.

If you asked someone from my high school about Julia Bond, they would probably describe her as shy, studious, and uptight. I distinctly remember being afraid of people who JUULed (did you get high from it? was it illegal? could I secondhand smoke it and get lung cancer?) and crying over Algebra 1 in study hall (because nothing says fun and friendly like mascara steaks and furious scribbling in the back corner while everyone else throws paper airplanes and plays PubG Mobile).

I like to tell my college friends that if I met High School Julia, I would beat her up. I would like to think I could, even though I go to the gym now a third of the time I did then. It's not that it was High School Julia's fault that she closed herself off to everyone. She had a crippling fear of getting a B and an even worse fear of other people. But because she was so introverted and scared, College Julia has nothing to do but re-watch "The Office" for the 23rd time when she comes back.

Part of me is jealous of the people who came into their own before college. I see pictures of the same big friend groups I envied from a distance in high school, all their smiling faces at each other's college football games and pool parties and beach trips, and it makes me sad that I missed out on so many friendships because I was too scared to put myself out there. That part of me really, really wishes I had done things differently.

But a bigger, more confident part of me is really glad I had that experience. Foremost, everything I've gone through has shaped me. I mean, I hid in the freaking bathroom during lunch for the first two weeks of my freshman year of high school. I never got up to sharpen my pencil because I was scared people would talk about me. I couldn't even eat in front of people because I was so overwhelmingly self-conscious. I remember getting so sick at cross country practice because I ran four or five miles on an empty stomach.

Now, I look back and cringe at the ridiculousness because I've grown so much since then. Sure, I still have my quirks and I'm sure a year from now I'll write an article about what a weirdo Freshman Julia was. But I can tell who had the same experience as me. I can tell who was lonely in high school because they talk to the kids on my floor that study by themselves. I can tell who was afraid of speaking up because they listen so well. I can tell who was without a friend group because they stand by me when others don't. I can tell who hated high school, because it's obvious that they've never been as happy as they are now.

My dislike for high school, while inconvenient for this summer, might be one of the best things to happen to me. I learned how to overcome my fears, how to be independent, and how to make myself happy. I never belonged in high school, and that's why I will never take for granted where I belong here at Rutgers.

So maybe I don't have any prom pictures with a bunch of colorful dresses in a row, and maybe I didn't go to as many football games as I should have. Maybe I would've liked pep rallies, and maybe I missed out on senior week at the beach. But if I had experienced high school differently, I wouldn't be who I am today.

I wouldn't pinch myself daily because I still can't believe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I wouldn't smile so hard every time I come back from class and hear my floormates calling me from the lounge.

I wouldn't well up when my roommate leaves Famous Amos cookies on my desk before a midterm, or know how to help the girl having a panic attack next to me before a final, or hear my mom tell my dad she's never seen me this happy before.

If I had loved high school, I wouldn't realize how amazing I have it in college. So amazing, in fact, that I never want to go home.

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