Nothing is ever easy in a break up, especially when you start seeing ex significant others' true colors. You fight, you make up, you fight again. It either ends badly, or ends suddenly without an explanation. The possibilities are endless when it comes to the who/what/when/where and why in a break up.

One thing I know to be true about every break up I’ve had is that after time goes by, my view was no longer tainted of that person. I could see who they really were as a person without my vision being jaded by my feelings for them.

I could finally see the truth behind all the lies they told and all the times where I thought something was up, but didn’t think twice about it because I thought they would never hurt me. Time really does show someone’s true character.

When a good amount of time goes by, sometimes it can make you realize that maybe you were more in love with them than they were with you. If they can suddenly go three months without asking how you are doing or seeing you in public and not say a word, then maybe they didn’t really have all of the feelings they said they did.

As time heals everything, it can show you an outside perspective on why things went wrong in a relationship and the true meaning behind the split. You begin to realize that not everything was how it seemed throughout your relationship and, that their priorities have shifted.

On the other hand, sometimes time apart can bring you closer together. Sometimes people need time apart to figure out what is really important to them and figure themselves out. But, if month after month you see that all they care about is drinking or their latest tinder match, than that’s when it’s time to let go.

This time showed you that you’re better than waiting around for someone who hasn’t been thinking about you. Don’t wait around for anyone to value you, and most importantly, value yourself.