Here’s to the girls who in some concept, chose the “bad boy.” Whether that be the literal bad boy, such as drug using, rule breaking, overall bad influence; to the not so obvious bad boy, who was different, exciting and made you work for his affection. Don’t get sucked into the stigma that nice guys are boring. Nice guys aren’t always boring, they're nice and caring, and affectionate. Furthermore, don't get sucked into that stigma that you need a guy at all, because you don’t.
Here’s to the girls that have been putting up with that boy more than she should. The boy who has been ignoring her existence for days and only talking or hanging out when it's convenient for him (like something he has to mark off his checklist so she doesn’t leave) or just taking her for granted. You’re better than that. Don’t waste your time. I know it's so easy to want him to want you because he doesn't just give his attention out to anyone, but stop. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and no time to waste waiting around for him.
If your goals in life have something to do with a boy, it's time to reevaluate — you can do so much more. No matter what it seems like right now, despite how much time and effort you’ve put into it, it’s not worth it. Think about it, has he put in the same time and effort? You can’t force someone to appreciate you, so don’t bother trying. It’s not worth your time
Here's to the girls who are sticking with a boy even though he has done you wrong. You don't have to deal with him making you the butt of all his jokes, forgetting your birthday, or telling you your goals and aspirations are stupid. Remember you should be a priority. You are more than that boy.
Don’t be scared to let someone who will treat you right into your life. Don’t be scared of change, be excited to let go of your baggage. In our generation as millennials, we have been molded into a group of people who care more about how they look online than what their life is really like. Relationship goals are a myth. Forget about what other people think and start focusing on what is best for you. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
Here’s to the girls who need to hear how truly amazing they are. Please listen when I say all of this. Don’t let yourself drown in all the questions of what you did wrong. You didn’t mess up, he just doesn't value you. You are beautiful. You are inspiring. You don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.
As Melissa Etheridge says “You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.” You can do more alone than you can with that boy dragging you down. You are strong. You are independent. So, let me be the one to tell you, you deserve better.
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