An unfortunate trend that seems to have come with the storm of technology and the fear of talking to someone in person is that of messaging a girl on Facebook. I personally have had this happen to me many times since I graduated high school, oftentimes from guys I’ve never talked to before. Here’s a news flash for anyone who thinks this is a good idea: it’s annoying and it’s transparent. In my personal experience, it’s usually happened after I changed my profile picture to some well-angled selfie or other. It’s like a “oh hey let me message that girl on Facebook because she looks alright in her profile picture, not because I’ve ever talked to her or even know she is.” Here are some different variations of “trying to pick you up” Facebook messages I personally have received:
"Hi how are u I don’t know if you remember me but we met a while ago"
"Hey" (and then, when I didn't answer), "Hey u want to hang rn"
"Hey! How’s it been?"
"Heeey! How are you"
"Hey your really pretty we should get to know each other"
And, side note, these are mostly from guys I’ve never met and/or don’t know who they are. Here are some that my roommate has received:
"Hey I know we haven’t talked in a while but I think you’re really cute and I think we should hang out some time"
"Hi" (and then, when she didn’t answer), "Would you rather me text you?"
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Now, the point of this article is not to complain about how stressful it is to be hit on. Not at all. I simply find it really annoying that a lot of guys think it’s a good move to message a girl on Facebook, whether they know her or not, and try to hit on her. I mean, maybe it works for some girls, but in my general experience, it’s usually “so, guess who messaged me on Facebook last night? So weird” (cue eye roll). I feel like there are so many other ways to catch a girl’s interest—for instance, ask her to hang out the next time you see her. Shoot her a casual text about something that reminded you of her.
But if you don’t know what reminds you of her, because you’ve never met her before, then don't message her on Facebook! It’s pretty simple, actually. Facebook is not Tinder, and it’s not meant for messaging random people because you like the way they look in their profile picture. It’s a social media platform to stay connected with actual people that you know, or maybe to stalk people that you don’t know, but not to hit on strangers from high school. It basically comes across one of two ways: creepy or objectifying. So just don’t do it.