How to Help my Little One Focus

5 Tips To Help Your Little One Focus

For the stubborn and the easily distracted

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For the stubborn and the easily distracted

Distractions

Everyone who has a little one knows how easily they seem to be distracted by the simplest of things. Getting them to focus on any task at hand can be a huge challenge. So how do you get them to focus on what you need them to without driving yourself up a wall? One of the easiest ways to do this is to remove distractions. Having a designated work area for things like homework or at home activities will help to separate your little one from areas they may deem more fun. It might be a good idea, based on how your child learns, to make sure the place is also quiet. With no noise or "fun" interruptions, your little one will be forced to focus on the task at hand more closely.

Stubborness

We all know a child who is endearingly termed "hard-headed." Unless they want to do a specific thing, they aren't going to do it anytime soon. These loving little ones try to decide when they're ready to do things and tend to assume a position of obstinate defiance if told they have to do it anyways. So how do you help said hard-headed child on task? For some parents, bribing their children works to get them to focus long enough to complete a task. Bribes may include sticker rewards, candy or special toys. For other parents, consequences follow if the little one continues to fight to do their work. This may include losing T.V. time, losing special toys or being forced to sit quietly in a timeout. Repetition also seems to be one of the other approaches to combating the stubbornness. The hope is that eventually, the child will cave just to get the parent to stop repeating themselves.

Take A Break

One of the better ways that have been discussed for improving focus is on having a period of time in which the little one can take a break. Being overstimulated or having a rough day can cause focus to be easily disrupted. Allowing for breathing time lets your little one have a much needed time away from work or school in which they can just focus on being a kid. This can be anything from a play break, outside time, nap time or whatever happens to let your little one breathe a little bit easier. Later, come back to whatever you were trying to get them to focus on and see how they improve!

Routine

Most little ones end up on some sort of schedule and in a pattern of actions that they go through every day. Once set in this routine, it can be hard to get them to focus on other tasks that they may feel fall outside of that routine. Focus can be drawn away by little things that you hadn't noticed were part of the routine beforehand. Fortunately, this one is pretty easy to correct. By making whatever activity a part of the little ones daily routine over the course of a few weeks, the little one should adjust to the new focus object. Also, letting the little one know that this was going to stay as part of the routine will also help. Communication and repetition, in this case, are very important for success.

Step-by-Step

This one may seem a little more like a common sense thing. However, allowing your child to process each step of their work or activity may help to alleviate the frustration that leads to focus issues. In breaking down an assignment or activity, the little one can focus on one thing at a time. This can be especially important in homework or science projects that include more than one part to them. All of their attention can be placed in easily checked off parts instead of seeming like a ginormous, unattainable task.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.
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It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.

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It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)

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Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)

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Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)

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Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

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Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes

6. VEEP (HBO)

HBO

Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)

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Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)

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Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)

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Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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