In college, it's frankly a reality that people use substances -- whether that's alcohol, weed, or something even stronger. Many think of it as "just part of the college experience" or "just part of being a young person," but sometimes someone's so-called casual use of drugs might not be so casual. It might actually spell trouble.
I'm not suggesting you should try to police those around you -- that's not your job to manage everyone else's life. However, if you notice warning signs with one of your close friends when it comes to drug use, it might be time to step in and try to help them. After all, addiction -- to anything -- is easier to fall prey to than you think, and it can happen to anyone. It can have serious ramifications too, including huge costs, a physical toll on your body, and can lead to years in prison. The average length of incarceration for drug-related offenses in California is 38 months (over three years!), but it's even longer in other states across the U.S.
So, with all of these scary things in mind, how can you tell if a friend might be dealing with a drug problem? Here are a few red flags to look out for.
1. Personality changes.
It turns out that drug addiction can literallychange someone's personality -- the thing that defines who they are. If a friend begins to act secretive, selfish, manipulative, has mood swings, loses interest in favorite activities, or exhibits other similar personality changes, it might be a sign that something is going on that they need help with, maybe even a drug problem.
2. Money problems.
Is your friend suddenly not able to pay for anything anymore? Are they behind on their rent? Maybe they don't order anything and say they're "not hungry" when you go out to eat? These are just a few examples, but a change where a friend suddenly seems to be struggling financially can be a red flag. Supporting a drug addiction can be incredibly costly after all. Important note: This is NOT to say that those with less money should be assumed to be drug users -- rather, it's warning sign to consider in addition to other warning signs, especially if it's a sudden change.
3. Physical changes in appearance.
In addition to lifestyle and personality changes, you may also notice something different about your friend's appearance if they're struggling with a drug addiction. Some of the common signs are decaying teeth, loss of body weight, dry or bloodshot eyes, sores on their body, pale skin, and even hair loss. You may also notice your friend getting sick more often than normal, due to the effects of substances on their immune system.
Hopefully none of these red flags reminded you of someone. But if they did, then it might be time to step in. Even if it's not a drug problem they're dealing with, they might need some support on something that is going on in their life. Approach them with kindness, listen more than you talk, and try your best to empathize even if you don't understand what they're going through. There's a reason you chose to be friends with them in the first place -- even if they've gotten themselves in a bad spot, there's a good person in there who might just need a little help.