I know what you're thinking: how can a girl who has never even been in love help with heartbreak? My answer is, I don't know. Maybe this article will be helpful, maybe it won't be. But I do know that if you are heartbroken, you are willing to take any advice to help ease the pain that you felt when he walked away. So, this is what I've got for you.

When he decided to sweep you off your feet without asking, everything felt right. The sun and moon aligned, at least that's what you felt, and the heart that you felt was empty before him became full. He was the missing puzzle piece to the complicated puzzle that you created within yourself, only he wasn't.

I think as humans it is an instinct to believe that we need love to complete who we are. That in fact, love is our missing puzzle piece and that we aren't ourselves until we find it. I'm not saying this isn't true, we all want to give love or feel loved. What I'm saying is, love is much more than the guy who you now only remember as the one who has broken you.

Love is a lot of things. Love is the coffee you drink in the morning or the poem that you write during your free time. Love is going for long walks to clear your mind or having quality time with your best friend whenever you guys are free from a night of school work. Love is a long phone call from your mother who you haven't seen in a couple of weeks or FaceTiming your little sister just to see her sweet smile. However, you have forgotten about these things. You forgot about these things because you thought that love only came in the form of him. You thought that he made you, you.

The truth is, you were you far before your souls met. Only you were discovering yourself and he was meant to be a part of that process. So don't believe it was a mistake, because it wasn't. Everything truly does happen for a reason. But, that doesn't mean you need him to complete that process. You never needed him, but you were looking for him. And when he finally came, you made him what you needed.

I'm here to tell you that you had what you needed before it became him. What you needed was to discover the love within yourself. And now what you need is to remember that that love is still there. The heartache is only temporary. I guess my job here is to remind you that only you will ever complete yourself; it is the things you love, not being in love. You were strong before him. You were independent and that girl still lies within you, you just have to search for her. You are so amazingly made and no guy will ever change that. It may feel like the end of the world now, but I have watched people overcome this, just as you will.

I'm not saying it will be easy. You grew used to him. You knew everything about each other, and now he has disappeared with your secrets carved within his bones. It is okay to miss him, it would be unnatural if you didn't. It is okay to hold on to the memories because memories are meant to be remembered, but let them be just that.

One day, you will wake up and remember the life you lived before you allowed a guy to take it away from you. And when you do, everything will make sense again. One day, you will meet someone else; someone new or even a new version of him. Maybe your heart will be broken again but that's okay. You are indestructible and you will stand tall. Even if you don't believe in that, I do, I believe in you. Heartbreak is a learning process and it is okay to experience it. But you get to choose what defines you and don't let it be this. Be strong for your heart's sake, because you are strong, even though it may not seem so now.

The thing is, you were once me, and I will one day become you. But I hope that when I watch my heart lay on the floor in front of me, somebody reminds me that I was me before anyone made me believe that I needed them to become whole. That is why I am here for you. You need to be reminded that you are beautiful and that your puzzle was never incomplete without him. You are not incomplete now that he is gone. There is a greater plan for you and you will reach it in time. Find something you love and find love within yourself. Because, you my dear are love and you are loved even when he isn't the one loving you. You are loved by someone much greater. Someone who is always there, and will never leave you.

Give love to others, and love will fill you.