The Way To My Heart Is To Love Jesus MORE Than You Love Me

The Way To My Heart Is To Love Jesus MORE Than You Love Me

I love Jesus more than I love you, so you should love Him more than you love me too.
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Lately, it seems like EVERYONE I know is either getting engaged or married or is in a long-term relationship. Me? Not so much.

I'm single... very, very, very single. I have friends who keep trying to set me up on dates or even better (sarcasm) ask me why I'm not in a serious relationship.

I don't really have this big elaborate reason other than, it's simply not my time right now.

I believe in the power of God's timing. His timing is always exactly right, and our timing is well... our timing. Our less than perfect, less than ideal timing.

I don't believe in dating someone just so I can update my relationship status on Facebook and match all of my friends. This isn't a leather jacket that you and all your friends bought to match that you can all throw out when it's too small for you guys to wear anymore.

This is another human's life, and it's not right to date just so you're dating.

When I meet someone who I believe is someone I should take that next step with and "let him out of the friend zone" I think I'll just know. I'll know because God will be telling me that I'm supposed to open the friend zone gates and let this person out on the other side.

See, I'm not impressed by you just because you're the starting quarterback for a division one school. Sure, that's definitely impressive in its own right, but that's not a reason for me to date you.

A reason for me to date you?

Love Jesus more than you love me.

Yeah, you heard me correctly. You need to love Jesus and God more than you love me. You need to be following him with all of your heart and growing and walking in your faith every single day.

I believe that a relationship should be centered around God. A relationship centered around anything else isn't going to work for me.

Shame me for being single all you want, but I won't enter a relationship with someone who can't encourage me and lead me to grow in my relationship with God and push me to be a better me each and every single day.

God is at the center of my life, and for those friend zone gates to open, He needs to be at the center of yours too.

And if you're saying, "But, how could I possibly love something more than you and be OK with it?"

To that, I'd simply answer, "I love Jesus more than I love you, so you should love Him more than you love me too."

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Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

No, checking his location every hour does not make me psycho.
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He has come up with describing my actions sometimes as “psycho girlfriend.” As much as this bothered me at first I started to realize there is nothing wrong with my “psycho” actions.

I don’t monitor who my boyfriend hangs out with and I don’t care who he texts, I trust him, but I do watch other things he does.

I probably check his location about once an hour, maybe more if he isn’t texting me back.

This isn’t some way for me to find out if he is with another girl, it’s so I can ensure he isn’t dead in a ditch somewhere. If he was on Snapchat five minutes ago but hasn’t texted me back in 45 minutes, yeah I’ll call him out on it but I'm not actually mad. If he is with friends and not answering me, it’s cool. I just want to be able to make sure I know where he is and that he is alive on a regular basis.

I make him keep his read receipts on for me.

I don’t care if he leaves me on read, I just need to know he is seeing what I’m saying. Half the time, I text him random facts or thoughts I have throughout my day, those don’t always need a response back. However, I do want to know he is acknowledging me through reading my texts.

Yes, from time to time I will spam him and make him respond to my messages so we can make plans or I can know what he is doing with his day but it’s not like I plan out his every move for him or care if he is getting drunk with the boys on a Wednesday, not my issue.

I don’t ask for all of his time or anything. I know he is a busy person. All I ask for him to text me back on a regular basis (once an hour to be exact), for him to allow for me to know where he is at all times and to get one night a week with him.

I don’t plan to show up where he is or anything, I simply just like to know information and get a weekly time with him. I don’t care if I only see him that one night a week, I just want one night with a movie or dinner or snuggles so I can get my boyfriend time.

The rest of the time he is his own person, and I couldn’t really care less about what he does in that time.

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From The Girl Who's Going Through The Unknown Trials And Tribulations Of Being Newly Single

Being newly single can be hard, for reasons that don't incorporate your ex
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SO, I just got out of a THREE YEAR RELATIONSHIP and things have been a challenge and a half. Not for the reasons you may think because if we are being completely honest and cruel, I have no emotion towards the ghost of this mans past but that’s beside the point. My problems lie where people least expect since according to everyone that hasn’t been in an aggressively long relationship, this is my time to go crazy and glow up.

WELL, THAT’S THE PROBLEM.

I am expected to suddenly master the single lifestyle and become Kim Kardashian in the span of literally two months. But this is simply not the case, and I’m sure most newly single ~ladies~ can relate.



I literally have no idea how to be a single human. I mean, I’m fine by myself, I actually prefer being by myself, but how does one flirt? Find dates to formal? Just be a normal, single woman? I am confused, and I think I will remain confused for a long while.

This past week, I tried to FEED A MAN A CHIP FROM MY FANNY PACK while at a party because in my mind, that was normal, flirtatious activity. Not only did I try to shove food down a man's throat, but I was also wearing a fanny pack. I have so many questions for myself that will most likely be answered with time, but until then, I will continue, through trial and error, to figure out the art of being #single.

I also really dislike the hype of “glowing up” post-relationship because that takes TIME. Every girl that has been in a four-day relationship takes to Twitter or Instagram to show their dramatic (and immediate) post break up, glow up. WELL, let me tell you something.

This is not the case for those of us who were in it for the long haul. I AM STILL TRYING TO FIGURE MY ISH OUT, I DON’T HAVE TIME TO BODY BUILD AND MASTER MY SKINCARE ROUTINE. I’m still trying to figure myself out because this is the first time in three years that I have been completely alone with myself for this long.

I’m working on an internal glow up and succeeding too, which is why the world needs to GET OFF MY BACK. Hopefully, this summer will be the season of external change but until then, plz don’t expect much :-).



SO, basically, the point of this article was to try to explain that being newly single can be hard for reasons that don’t incorporate your ex-man's, because to be honest, getting over them can sometimes be the easiest part if the breakup has been long past due.

The hardest part lies in trying to figure out who you actually are without someone directly related to your identity. I still have people from my hometown asking me how he is and what he’s up to, and TBH, I have no clue, but I can assure them that Frankie is doing just fine.

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