Healing Doesn't Happen Overnight

This Summer, I Learned Healing Doesn't Happen Overnight

After a terrifying accident, I learned an important lesson.


About a month ago I was chaperoning a youth group trip to Atlanta. We were leaving Six Flags and our small church bus was involved in a wreck. A pickup truck collided with the front driver's side of our bus. We skidded across three lanes of traffic, jumped a curb, and then hit a large pole on the side of the road. When we hit the pole my head was slammed into the seat in front of me, causing my lip to split right under my nose.

I was transported to the nearest hospital for some stitches and to make sure I didn't have serious brain damage. A few hours later, I was discharged. Thankfully our group was able to return to Savannah with minimal injuries. Needless to say, the experience was very scary.

I remember the entire accident and I remember it happening in slow motion. I remember thinking as we were traveling across lanes of traffic "this is going to be very bad, I need to be prepared to do everything I can to make sure everyone is safe and OK."

When our bus stopped moving I was frantically looking around evaluating how everyone was, until I realized at that moment that I was the one that was not OK. I ran off the bus and sat down covered in blood as the rain began to fall and wash the blood down off my face and down onto my shirt. My brain was in emergency mode. I wasn't actually processing much of my own situation.

The next day I headed back to Savannah and really had more time to process. I talked to my parents and had one of those nice long cries. I was able to look at the situation as a whole, I thought it was over it, except for the stitches I still had in my face.

A few days later I started my summer Calculus class. It was 55 miles away from my house which means I have been spending more than two hours a day on the road. I didn't think driving would be a problem after the accident. I was extra aware of the cars around me but I had convinced myself I was fine and ready to move on.

Three days into my daily drive I was driving in the left lane on the interstate. A large pickup truck with a very long trailer was about to merge onto the interstate. Instead of merging into the righthand lane, the truck decided to merge all the way into the left lane, basically right on top of where I was. My only option was to drive into the grass median on my left to avoid getting thrown off the interstate. I stayed in control of my car, but my emotions were out of control. I spun into a complete panic attack and began sobbing because my body and my brain remembered the feeling of the accident and how similar the two experiences were.

I had made the mistake of thinking that I could convince myself that I was fine (a mistake I often make). I was under the impression that I had allowed myself to process what had happened and I was ready to move on. What I forgot was that the body and the brain do not forget trauma so easily. I had forgotten how taxing emotional and physical healing can be. I was exhausted because when I closed my eyes I still saw our bus colliding with the truck and it was keeping me up at night. I was in pain because my neck, head, and lip were constant reminders of the week before. But most of all I was still so full of feelings that I had yet to process.

The fear, anger, compassion, gratitude, and love that I experienced through the entire experience are not feelings that can simply be felt and then put away, they are ones that I will think back to often and process for months to come.

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Remember Zero From 'Holes'? This Is Him NOW

"Mr. Slick Living"


"Holes" was one of my favorite Disney movies for a really long time. It came out in 2003 when I was about 5 years old. There aren't many actors from the movie that went on to stay in the public eye. Well, except for Shia LaBeouf. That man made several statements but even he disappears from the watchful eye of the media every now and then.

The actor from the movie that I have been most concerned with, however, is Khleo Thomas. I will admit, I had quite the crush on Khleo when he played young Hector Zeroni aka Zero in "Holes", despite him being a good ten years older than me. But I quickly lost track of him over the years.

So relatively recently I got on Instagram to do a quick search for him to see what he was up to. And, if I'm being honest, see if he was as cute as I remembered.

Low and behold, I did find Khleo Thomas and if anything he is more attractive than I remembered. Now, a quick reminder, we fell in love with him when he looked like this:


And now he looks like this:

Now, me finding him attractive aside, let's take a look at what he's been up to over the years. Even though he's been out of the public eye every once in a while does not mean he has not been busy.

Since playing Zero, Khleo Thomas has done a multitude of things. He has scored a few more acting roles in shows like "Bones" and "Sons of Anarchy". Khleo launched an R&B;/rap career. He has become a widely entertaining Instagram and social media personality aka Mr. Slick Living.

On top of all of that, Khleo has become a successful entrepreneur as well. Launching two clothing brands of his own and sprinkling in a little male modeling in his spare time. What doesn't he do?

Khleo has two successful clothing/merchandising brands by the names of "Goddesses Living Amongst Men" and "Slick Living Apparel". Both are founded on staying "aware" (Khleo has mentioned several times over on his IG about why he doesn't use the word "woke"). They also give vibes of staying true to who you are and presenting yourself as the goddesses or Awerewolves you are.

Much of Khleo's brand seems to be rooted in the fact that he is unapologetic about who he is, where he is from, and what he plans on doing with his platform. He makes hilariously honest videos on Instagram and isn't shy about taking a dance break, or several.

Fans of Khleo (aka Goddesses and Awarewolves) seem to love that he is so willing to launch discussions with them and actually respond. His blunt opinions and responses make him much more approachable to everyone that loves him and sets him apart from other celebrities in this day and age.

He seems very in touch with his audience and is honest about how he feels about himself and others. The whole point is to be truthful and be open. That's something that I can get behind in 2019.

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

"Get connected for free, with education connection"


This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.


Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.


Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.



You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.


You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.


The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers


You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.


The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"


The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution


This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi


Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters


You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs


Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.



Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets


Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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