Have You Fallen Victim To F.O.M.O.?

Have You Fallen Victim To F.O.M.O.?

It is the national epidemic expanding at a rapid rate, and the potential to catch it is right at your fingertips.

F.O.M.O. Fear of Missing Out.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, F.O.M.O. is the anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.

It is a national epidemic slowly taking over the globe, and you are in its direct path of destruction. If you have not already succumbed to the illness, I assure you, your time will come.

I have in fact been personally victimized by F.O.M.O. At first, I thought that this constant anxiousness and worry of being forgotten about was due to another struggle: only-child syndrome. (Although not included in the Oxford Dictionary, this disorder is hitting hard against only children everywhere, who feel they may be missing out due to a lack of sibling entertainment).

However, after some thorough research into the issue, I found the real culprit of my feelings - and it’s right on the surface.

Literally, a surface of technology that has taken over our lives. The screen of your mobile device is something that the average person in today’s society looks at 2,617 times a day, according to a study done by DSCOUT . That is a lot of exposure time.

With the astronomical spikes in social media use over the past few years, the stats show that this is where people get most of their screen exposure from. The average human spends one hour and 56 minutes, 8% of their day, on the top 5 social media platforms (Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube). Now in the grand scheme of things, that brings the exposure of technology, and the exposure of other people's personal lives, to an all time high. Never at any point in history have people's daily lives been easier to follow than in 2017. This is exactly our problem.

When we spend downwards of 171 minutes, 12% of our day as tested by ComScore Mobile Metrix , on our phones absorbing ourselves in other people's lives, we end up taking away from our own lives. Of course, we feel like we’re missing out because we literally are!

Between Instagram live videos and Snap Stories, I am fully aware of everything my friends (and also some random half-acquaintances) are up to at any given moment. With Snapchat I can literally track people’s exact location and see who else is with them. The easiest way to find my friends on campus is simply to open my snap maps rather than text a group chat - it’s faster than waiting for them to text back.

Every time I see a photo or video of people together without me, I get this panicked feeling like I have been forgotten about. What's the most ironic part of this though? The majority of the time this happens, I was invited along with everyone else! I made the choice not to go.

Yet once it's posted, all I can think about is all of the laughs I missed out on, and the inside jokes they will surely have next time I see them. The reality of it is that these photos/videos were probably taken within a 5 minute time period, and the most I missed out on was a quick laugh that no one will even remember tomorrow. But once the Snap Story is posted, it’s too late.

My brain is repeatedly beating myself up for the next 24 hours, full of regret and anxiety, and a promise to never ever ever under any circumstances miss out on anything ever again.

But there's an easier solution here! It is a cure I have found that may seem much more painful than other treatments, but the results are immediate. Turn off your phone. In less serious cases of the disorder, even just refraining from checking social media will do the trick! It all comes back to the same thing, exposure. If you aren't exposed to all the Snap Stories and Facebook posts, you won't catch the feels. You will be free from the emotional distress and mental side effects of missing out, and you will live a F.O.M.O. free life!

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5 Simple Ways To Keep Your Life's Bucket Full

The children's book "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids" by Carol McCloud teachers early elementary students what it is like to have their very own bucket

GPositive behavior is not practiced by many but preached by all. It is important to understand that everyone has an invisible bucket. The bucket may be emptied if you did an action that leads another to unhappiness. The key to life is happiness. Why not practice it?

The children's book "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids" by Carol McCloud teachers early elementary students what it is like to have their very own bucket. As an adult, it is important to be educated on how to treat others and fill another's bucket, whenever possible.

1. Say good morning

It takes two words. You could be out at the store, passing a classmate, or just wishing someone a good morning. Two words can make someone's dreadful day into a day worth living. Some people wake up on the wrong side of the bed and a simple greeting could help change their perspective.

Changing someone's perspective can alter their day. Have you ever thought, "Why is this person so mean... I didn't even do anything to them? A simple greeting could have changed the way they looked at their day. Be the person of change.

2. Be honest

I am sure you have told a lie. So what? Things happen and people tell a long tale or two.

But, in the bucket-filling world, you are dipping into another's bucket. You are trying to make yourself happy despite the lies you are telling. It is not good to lie and honestly turns out better in the end.

The best way to get along with people is telling them how you feel. Telling the person you do not like the way something is being handled or the way they act can help that person become someone you like... or at least tolerate.

3. Be careful what you say

When people post online, it could offend some while it may amuse others. It is important to understand that not everyone can take a joke. I have seen people get overwhelmed over content that may or may not involve them. Questioning online posts are ridiculous.

4. Engage in conversation

Is talking to people hard? Why not try and speak what is on your mind? It could be the hard truth, you being nice, or simply wanting to put yourself out there.

Make yourself known; you could be the talker of nothing or the talker of something. When you involve yourself in a conversation, make it memorable and unforgettable. Think before you speak and make sure you leave a lasting impression.

5. End the conversations

You want to leave a lasting impression. Make sure you end the conversation. Concise points leave a person with the acknowledgement that you cared about the conversation. Leaving your friends on "read" can leave them with the impression you don't care.

Putting friends off doesn't make you a good person either. Be there for your friends as much as they want to be there for you.

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