Have You Fallen Victim To F.O.M.O.?

Have You Fallen Victim To F.O.M.O.?

It is the national epidemic expanding at a rapid rate, and the potential to catch it is right at your fingertips.

F.O.M.O. Fear of Missing Out.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, F.O.M.O. is the anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.

It is a national epidemic slowly taking over the globe, and you are in its direct path of destruction. If you have not already succumbed to the illness, I assure you, your time will come.

I have in fact been personally victimized by F.O.M.O. At first, I thought that this constant anxiousness and worry of being forgotten about was due to another struggle: only-child syndrome. (Although not included in the Oxford Dictionary, this disorder is hitting hard against only children everywhere, who feel they may be missing out due to a lack of sibling entertainment).

However, after some thorough research into the issue, I found the real culprit of my feelings - and it’s right on the surface.

Literally, a surface of technology that has taken over our lives. The screen of your mobile device is something that the average person in today’s society looks at 2,617 times a day, according to a study done by DSCOUT . That is a lot of exposure time.

With the astronomical spikes in social media use over the past few years, the stats show that this is where people get most of their screen exposure from. The average human spends one hour and 56 minutes, 8% of their day, on the top 5 social media platforms (Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube). Now in the grand scheme of things, that brings the exposure of technology, and the exposure of other people's personal lives, to an all time high. Never at any point in history have people's daily lives been easier to follow than in 2017. This is exactly our problem.

When we spend downwards of 171 minutes, 12% of our day as tested by ComScore Mobile Metrix , on our phones absorbing ourselves in other people's lives, we end up taking away from our own lives. Of course, we feel like we’re missing out because we literally are!

Between Instagram live videos and Snap Stories, I am fully aware of everything my friends (and also some random half-acquaintances) are up to at any given moment. With Snapchat I can literally track people’s exact location and see who else is with them. The easiest way to find my friends on campus is simply to open my snap maps rather than text a group chat - it’s faster than waiting for them to text back.

Every time I see a photo or video of people together without me, I get this panicked feeling like I have been forgotten about. What's the most ironic part of this though? The majority of the time this happens, I was invited along with everyone else! I made the choice not to go.

Yet once it's posted, all I can think about is all of the laughs I missed out on, and the inside jokes they will surely have next time I see them. The reality of it is that these photos/videos were probably taken within a 5 minute time period, and the most I missed out on was a quick laugh that no one will even remember tomorrow. But once the Snap Story is posted, it’s too late.

My brain is repeatedly beating myself up for the next 24 hours, full of regret and anxiety, and a promise to never ever ever under any circumstances miss out on anything ever again.

But there's an easier solution here! It is a cure I have found that may seem much more painful than other treatments, but the results are immediate. Turn off your phone. In less serious cases of the disorder, even just refraining from checking social media will do the trick! It all comes back to the same thing, exposure. If you aren't exposed to all the Snap Stories and Facebook posts, you won't catch the feels. You will be free from the emotional distress and mental side effects of missing out, and you will live a F.O.M.O. free life!

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18 Things That Happen When You Get A Good Roommate

Not every roommate story is a bad one.

Whenever you hear about roommate stories, they're almost never good, and they usually scare you into never wanting a roommate. "Did you hear her roommate steals her clothes?" "Her roommate doesn't shower!" "Wow, her roommate doesn't talk at all, and doesn't do laundry." From what I hear, there are more bad stories than good. That is why I consider myself lucky, because my roommate is nothing like one of those bad stories. When life hands you a good roommate after talking to about 40 girls through Facebook, a few things happen.

1. You always have someone to talk to.

2. You know each other's schedules, and whenever you both have a break is an exciting time.

3. You'll never have to dance alone.

4. You always have someone to do something with, even if it's just walking down the hall.

5. You both look out for each other, because this is your first time without your parents.

6. You always have a shoulder to lean on when things get tough.

7. Borrowing each other's things is a daily thing.

8. You TRY to help with each other's homework and assignments.

9. They're encouraging when it comes to boys. (Unless they're a f*ckboy.)

10. They're your biggest support system and your personal cheerleader.

11. They never forget to wish you luck on a big exam.

12. They accept how gross you are in the morning and not so pleasant sometimes.

13. You both know each other's favorite and least favorite things.

14. Leaving each other notes saying goodbye before class if you don't see them is normal.

15. Saying goodbye for breaks is upsetting.

16. Not seeing them all day is upsetting.

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18. You found a best friend for life.

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22 Signs The Girls You've Met In College Will Be Part Of Your Girl Gang For Life

To the lovely ladies I've met in college that I can never imagine my life without again


Let me just be the first to say, I honestly don't know how I survived the majority of my life without you guys.

Attending college out of state in a completely new area and not knowing a single soul, I was petrified of the idea of starting over. I had a great group of friends at home, and I wasn't ready to begin this new chapter of my life. Hearing my parents and family friends talk about the people they met in college only stressed me out even more because, what if I didn't meet "my people?"

Luckily, that's when you guys came along, and my life was changed forever.

1. You genuinely care about each other's happiness.

2. Talking 24/7 is absolutely necessary.  You basically have a 2nd boyfriend.

3. You know absolutely everything and more about each other...even the details that may be TMI.

4. Regardless of how dramatic it is, you can rely on one another for advice on absolutely anything.

5. You can't go more than 2 days without seeing one another...it's just not allowed. It feels like your 2nd boyfriend has mysteriously gone missing.

6. And when you go out together for a girls night, all hell breaks loose.

7. The best way to solve your problems is with each other, and a full glass of wine.

8. Somehow you lasted 18 years without them in your life, and you wonder every day how that was possible.

A friend like you is something I've always prayed to find, and I am so thankful I did.

9. You willingly shower each other with compliments like it is your job.

10. They give you that reality check every here and there when you are being more than overdramatic.

11. When something amazing happens, you immediately go to one another to celebrate.

12. They're always your support system no matter what.

13. They'll most likely be in your bridal party because they're the only people who will keep you mentally sane.

I wouldn't want anyone else beside me on my special day.

14. Staying mad at each other for long is just not even slightly possible.

15. You probably hate the same people, for the same reasons.

To the boy who screwed over your best friend, the girl who's secretly in love with your boyfriend, and the professor who gave you a bad grade, me and my best friend most likely talk about you!

16. No one will ever mistreat them, because they would have to go through you first.

17. You're right beside them when something intense is about to go down.

Neither of you will ever go through drama alone anymore, you've always got a go-to girl.

18. They're always loyal to you and your friendship, and fortunately, they're stuck with you forever.

19. Some of your best memories are with each other.

20. They always feel like sunshine when they're around.

The people who feel like the color yellow are the type of people you always want to keep in your life.

21. You will never allow a boy to make each other cry.

22. You remind them daily how much their friendship means to you.

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