Friends come and go throughout life. Often times they show up to teach us a lesson or to help guide us in the right direction, but the most valuable ones are there to help make life better. Some people are meant to be apart of our lives only for a short while, however if you are ever lucky enough to meet someone that will stick with you through everything, you just may have found your BFF Soulmate. I do not really believe in the term ‘soulmate’ in the sense we are only to be with one person our entire lives, but rather we are meant to connect with many other people. In this case the word ‘soulmate’ simply means that the person who has had an impact on your soul, someone who sees through your facade, sees past all of your imperfections, and even when they see you at your core they still love you unconditionally. I am lucky enough to just say that I have a few wonderful best friends. I do not take value in the quantity of ‘friends’ I have, or the amount Facebook friends I have. I have found what truly matters is the quality and solidarity of my friendships. Great friends are hard to come by these days and it's not like you can just stop at BestFriends R’ Us to find the perfect match. It took a lot of growth, honesty, and being completely raw with someone to realize that I have found another human being whose soul has captivated mine. I believe that God places certain people in our lives for a reason, and He placed one particular person in my life to bring me through rainy days, to bring the hidden smile out, and to inspire and adore me. Personally I have always believed that you do not need to be blood to be family.
My parents and I suffered a tragedy when I was just 4-years-old, my younger sister passed away at the age of 2. Through everything that happened I believe she was a huge reason that we found God, and a community that uplifted us, but also is the reason I have always longed for a sister. Personally I believe that is what I have found, and maybe you have found your BFF soulmate too. Here’s how I knew I found my BFF soulmate:
1. No matter what mood you're in they can make you smile.
Even on your worst days you can count on this one person to make you smile. They just know exactly what to say, do, and bring to lift your spirits up. Without a doubt a person that has this capability is very difficult find.
2. They actually listen to you, even the rambling.
If you are anything like me, then you over think everything, and could talk for hours on end about something pointless or important. Either way, everyone needs someone who can listen to your rambling, but also tell you when you should be quiet. Sometimes I just need to be told I talk to much, or that I am being ridiculous, it helps calm me down from a rampage. Some people do not want to be straight forward or they do not care, and it is so important to have someone that is truly honest with you but will listen to what you have to say. Shout out to those besties who can listen to your awkward rambling.
3. You can tell them anything and everything.
From the latest exciting details of your life all the way down to scary inner deep thoughts. You can tell them your scary perspective on the world, or just how obsessed you are over something or someone. There is never any judgment or harsh opinions being forced down each other's throats, because you both understand one another and always keep an open mind over other's experiences. Sometimes there can be concern, but somehow it always comes off in a loving in caring way. One of the best feelings is when you are talking with someone and it is like they are stealing the words straight from your mouth, because you are both so in sync with each other.
4. They always have your back when no one else does.
This person will always back you up, and always defend you. When others doubt you or do not believe you, this friend will be there to stand by your side when no one else will. There is a nice safe comfortable feeling knowing there is someone out there that is just as crazy and weird as you are to be by your side.
5. You get emotional over the same things.
Come on, everyone needs someone they can get all emotional with! It always makes things better when someone is feeling the same way as you, and with this person you always seem to be on the same emotional level.
6. The distance doesn't change the relationship.
You could be 1 mile away or 5000 miles away, but you do not let that interfere with the amazing friendship that you share. You may not get to talk every single day, but you both understand how busy life can get and that you will catch up as soon as you both have a spare breath. Sometimes months or years will go by, but when you finally see each other the whole world stops while you embrace them, and realize nothing has changed at all. This is the type of life long friend to look for in my opinion.
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