Being Happy All The Time Not Good Mental Health

Being Happy All The Time Is Not Good For You

It had to be said.


Alright, alright, alright, before I begin, I am not upset right now. In fact, I'm not even close to being sad, despite the fact that I have two finals scheduled tomorrow and far too many APs in a few weeks. This is not an article about personal frustration. This is an article about why you cannot, and should not want to be happy all the time.

It's lovely to be happy. Happiness is this surge of that good-good, that rush of positivity and smiles that makes you want to sing in the shower and dance down the street. Happiness is a great feeling to share with those you care about, to share good news and good times with those that matter.

But as much as you try, you cannot be happy all the time. It is impossible to be happy all the time, and what's even more foolish is to chase happiness. Happiness should be invoked, not chased. It should be a feeling that finds you, not a feeling you are always trying to find, even when it's clearly not there.

People that often chase happiness find it difficult to deal with other emotions. If you are always chasing happiness, it means you are not okay when you are sad, angry, or afraid. You do not want to come to terms with your emotions, but want to transform it into happiness so you don't have to deal with it. Usually when people display themselves to be happy all the time, they are simply not accepting that they are feeling other things.

It is okay to be sad, and to cry about what affects you. Sadness is natural when something bad happens, when you get a low score on a test or a relationship breaks off. Instead of trying to feign happiness, it is better to embrace that emotion, understand it, and channel it into something that drives you to make better choices and achieve your goals.

It's the same thing with anger. Being angry is such a powerful emotion that it's almost too scary to handle. Instead of pretending like everything is okay and you're happy, dealing with your feelings and understanding the cause of your anger is more productive. Listening to what made you mad, thinking of how you can prevent it, and understanding how to deal with similar situations in the future will not only make you better at dealing with a wide variety of emotions, but will also help you understand your own likes and dislikes better.

When fearful, or anxious, or simply dreading something, understand why. What's the worst thing that will happen? Why are you afraid, and what can you do about it? Being absolutely fearless may sound super strong on paper, but it takes a lot of work to diminish even a single fear and you cannot do that if you are pretending to be happy.

Happiness should not be a standard, but an emotion just like any other one. Feeling like you have to be happy all the time is unnecessary pressure, and it doesn't help that everyone around you (in real life, and on social media) seems to be having the time of their lives, all of the time. Being happy is great, but feeling other emotions is necessary for self growth, and for getting through life just a little bit more emotionally healthy.

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Summer In College Is For More Than Just Working

No, you're never to hold to have fun in the summer.


There should never be an age where you stop having fun in the summer. The weather is nice, there are always things to do, and everyone is just naturally happier. So, regardless of whether you're 7 or 21, I'm talking to you.

During the year it can be hard to find a routine unless you are a very put together person. Sadly, I am not. Even when I tell myself I'm going to eat healthily, work out, and stop procrastinating, I usually don't follow through with that. At school, I find myself in somewhat of a constant catch-up mode. When I feel like I'm ahead on my homework or studying, that usually means I'm behind on being healthy in other aspects of my life. That is why I love summer. It's a chance to reset the clock for a second and catch your breath.

I get that having an internship or working is important for your post-graduation life, but having fun is important for your college years too. When you get a job in the real world, summer is going to look a lot different for you. That is why it's best to take advantage of the time now. This doesn't mean turning down that work experience, it means doing things other than just working.

First things first is finding a hobby you enjoy that you don't do at school. Pick it up for a little over the summer. Why not? For me, this is yoga. For whatever reason, I find myself too nervous to attend yoga classes at school. I have absolutely no reason to be anxious about doing something I like, but I am so I take the time to attend a few classes a week in the summer.

Secondly, try reading. Before you make that look of disgust on your face, think about the last time you read a book of your choosing. If it was recently, then kudos to you for managing your time well enough to do that. If you are not that person, then hello! I am talking to you. I am not a fan of reading because I usually associate it with homework. However, I find that when I have the time to browse the book section of a store for a few seconds, I find multiple books that jump out at me. During the summer I take the opportunity to read a little here and there. The nice part of leisure reading over school reading is that there's no deadline. You can read what you want when you want to.

Finally, learn something new. Again I usually associate learning with things that I am required to learn for my major. Learning something new that interests you is a different kind of rush. When I'm bored in class, I make bucket lists of little things I want to learn about. They can be big or small. One time I wanted to learn how to knit. Don't ask me why my 19-year-old self thought it would be sweet to sit on my porch in the summer knitting, but I did, and I'm kind of sad I didn't pursue that interest. When might I ever have time to learn how to knit again?

These might sound like quirky things to do, but you're young. Make a bucket list and try to cross one thing off each weekend. If you're like me, then you're a little scared of growing up. Scared you won't be able to accomplish all the things you want to. But, the fact of the matter is no one is going to make you accomplish them but you. So, take some initiative and do them. Summer is for more than just working; it's time to live a little and reset the clock.

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The Types Of People That Watch Movies


This past weekend I saw the movie of the life time, Avengers Endgame. It was the culmination of 10 years in the making and no there will not be any spoilers in this piece of writing. I however noticed the same trends that occurred each time I went to the movies. The I saw the same people, however they were just in different bodily forms. When my eyes were not glued to the screen out of sheer anxiety and thrill, I managed to catch a quick glance at the type of people that plague our good theaters.

To start off, there are always those people that are good people and don't disturb the movie experiences of others. These are the quiet people, the ones who keep their eyes on the movie and focus on nothing else. These are the people we should all aspire to be, with their bloodshot eyes from not blinking as to not miss a single moment of the movie. While I am not always the Eyes Glued To The Screen movie watcher, I can say with assurance that I am a somewhat follower of this rule. I think everyone should learn from these people.

Next comes the traditional On My Phone Like A Idiot in the movie movie watcher. This is by far the most annoying of all the people that come to a movie. Like I came to be entertained and I paid good money for this, I didn't pay 14 dollars and 31 cents to hear some girl gossip on her phone to her friend about how her boyfriend didn't bring her flowers or some middle aged man attempt to close a business deal while his kids were watching the movie. Either leave your business at home or for the courtesy of others, at least leave it outside the theater. No one brings me more anger than these people just because they don't know any common courtesy or manners.

If your at the movie, you might get hungry or thirsty so its normal for people to bring in some food, most typically being popcorn. This is fine and all but don't chew so loudly that it sounds like Jurassic Park to the person next to you. Or don't sip up your drink in such a way that it makes the people around you wonder how your mother raised you. I call this person, the Slurper. Just, be chill and watch the movie. At least your not like the On My Phone Like An Idiot where you're an inconvenience to the whole theater.

Movies are a great way to get distracted from the horrors that are our personal lives. They are solace for some people, giving us a place to escape from reality. So please, don't disturb the kind movie goers who just need a break from that relentless school, job, or even family. Just give them their peace. So sit down, turn off your cellphone, and enjoy the movie.

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