Dear Guys,

First off, I want to thank you. You have decided to love a girl even though she has a past that is most likely less than pretty. Maybe she has had someone hurt her worse than she ever knew she could be hurt. Maybe she had someone physically do something to her that has left scars on the inside and the outside. Maybe she just never knew what it was like to be loved. No matter what it is, I want you to know that her past isn’t her. She will have bad days. She will say things to you that don’t have anything to do with you, because she is just used to people not loving her or not being there for her or just not caring.

When you get angry she’s going to apologize. She’s going to cry and tell you it isn’t you, it’s really her. She’s going to feel guilt for days because she feels like things are always her fault. And I know it’s going to be hard on you. It’s going to make you upset and question her, but I just ask you to give her time. Tell her why it upsets you, but don’t dwell on it. Trust me, she thinks about it a lot already and she is working on making it better. She’s got lists on her phone of all the things she needs to fix. She screenshots every time you send her a text telling her how beautiful she is or how you love her or snaps of her smiling because no one ever did that for her. She is beyond grateful to have you in her life, sometimes the past just gets to be a lot to handle. But trust me, she will get better. She has already gotten so much better.

She’s becoming the person she used to be or always wanted to be everyday. And you’re helping her, even if you don’t know it. They say that people are only given battles that they can fight. She was given a lot of hard ones, but that’s because she’s a fighter. And she’s going to fight for you and fight for happiness. So don’t let her go because there will be a day when she has no more battles left to fight and she’s going to want you to be right there holding the victory flag with her. So when things get hard, take a deep breath and remember that she loves you and even if she can’t say it she wants to tell you thank you.

Sincerely,

All of the girls who have been hurt before