Growing Up Is Harder Than We Thought

Growing Up Is Tougher Than We Thought It Would Be

Remember when all we had to worry about was who we were playing with on the playground?


Isn't growing up weird?

Your priorities change. Your friendships change. Your interests change. But most importantly, who you are as a person changes.

Things happen. You make tough decisions. People come and go, sometimes for the wrong reasons. Promises are broken. People change.

People tell you they love you when they don't. People make empty promises. The people you thought would never hurt you, do. The ones who hated you always secretly wanted to be your friend or were jealous of you.

Your family grows apart. They pick sides. Some members are favored over others. Things drive them apart.

Your friendships will change, too. You're no longer chasing each other on the playground. Instead, you're working opposite schedules telling each other how much you miss the other without actually hanging out. The friendship grows weaker and you just let it crumble because that's what happens when you grow up.

You'll get into a relationship. You'll think they're perfect and that you're going to marry them until something drives you apart. You'll experience your first heartbreak and swear off dating until you fall in love again, and then the cycle repeats.

School becomes harder. College is different than high school. Your professors don't care if you show up to class. Your mom won't pack your lunch every day for you. You aren't reminded to do your homework or when to go to to bed. You have to become independent for the first time in your life and that's scary.

The things that used to interest you now bore you. The bands you used to listen to are lame now. Instead of spending your Friday nights with your parents watching movies, you're hanging out with your friends until 3 a.m, regretting it when you have to wake up at 8 for work.

Most of all, it becomes scary when you stop to think about how much you've changed as a person. As you continue to grow up and become an adult, you will experience things that you may not have experienced before.

You have two options. You can either let it make you or let it break you.

As much as I wish I could go back, we can no longer spend our days running around on the playground and taking a nap. We now have to work a job in order to be able to just barely afford the bare minimum and give up our social lives. We have to learn how to make it on our own because our parents aren't going to be around forever.

We have to learn that nobody is going to be there for us. Friends say they'll be there no matter what happens, but they have their own busy lives and often forget about everyone else.

What happened to being little with no responsibilities? When all we had to worry about was who we were playing with on the playground?

Man, I wish I could go back. Growing up is tough.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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