To The Girl Telling Everyone 'What It's Like Not Being In A Sorority'

To The Girl Telling Everyone 'What It's Like Not Being In A Sorority'

Oh boy, here we go.

To The Girl Who Wrote "What It's Like Not Being In A Sorority At Rowan University",

Hi, how ya doing? Good? Okay, because we need to sit down and talk about a couple of things you recently put on the internet.

Recently, you made an Odyssey article about what it's like to not be in a sorority at your university. Though I completely understand how you feel, I think you should hear the Greek community out. Let's sit down and chat for a bit.

My personal experience in Greek Life has been a blessing in many ways. First off, I didn't pay for my friends. Sure I pay dues, but I was recruited amongst seven other well-established sororities on my campus and I chose to go through recruitment just like everybody else involved. Part of being in a sorority is making that financial commitment. Just like any other commitment or organization, just like a sports organization, for example, you have to pay for the uniform and the opportunity to participate, right? Now, let's move on.

Secondly, don't talk about something if you don't have first-hand experience from it. Though what you see on the outer circle might be perceived as such, it does not mean by any means that your statements are true. I personally believe that Greek Life is for the bettering of people's relationships with the rest of the school community, and I'm coming from a school in which only approximately 12% of the campus is involved with some form of Greek Life. Sure, you see the people jumping and chanting during the first weeks of the semester, but you know what? We recruit women with leadership potential, a bright personality, and women who were in search for the same qualities that we had when we came to college. We need to go through this process, especially with schools in which several thousands of girls go through recruitment each year.

Third of all, we all have hardships in life. I've been put on academic probation before, as my Greek community sets high standards for GPA requirements, and sometimes I have too much on my plate and can't obtain that. That doesn't mean I should blame my sorority for it, it means that I should take ownership for my actions and choices in life. I urge you to think about how your perception of Greek Life actually reflects the actuality of it

I agree with you on one particular thing you wrote, There are so many other ways to meet people and connect with people... You're right, there's no doubt about that. However, can you really consider two organizations different when they both have a very close bond with their members, they are required to pay dues, they have matching apparel on occasion, and they are seen together in public quite often? From my experience, being in Greek Life has been nothing short of a miracle, as I found individuals who believed and me and carried me through some of the darkest times during college. And you know what? I found that here at Odyssey, too. Same thing.

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I Went Out Of My Comfort Zone And I Couldn't Be Happier

Informal recruitment - I didn't know I needed you

Greek life.

Those two words were something I wanted to stay very much away from my entire life.

I went through high school never wanting to go through the process of rushing and getting rated by other people. To me, it seemed demeaning and time-consuming and absolutely draining.

That is, until my second semester of college.

I am now realizing I did my first semester of college very wrong. I focused on school and my academics very much, which is great, but my social life lacked. I had a few friends, but my weekends were spent inside binge watching Grey's Anatomy on Netflix.

I think I went out a total of three times my first semester. Coming into the second semester I knew I needed to change that and put myself out there.

I am not opposed to nights in, it's just that I am more introverted than I am extroverted, so my introverted tendencies will make me want to just stay in bed a be comfortable.

Large groups of people are also not my thing. So the times I did go out I felt very overwhelmed and I knew only two or three people when I did go out. I needed to realize that I was at a university that was states away from my home and I needed to make friends.

So, with that, I signed up for rush for the beginning of spring semester. That lasted about all of two weeks before I sent an email saying I couldn't do it anymore. I could definitley do it, I just panicked thinking about two full weekends of screaming girls and smiling 24 hours a day. I couldn't bring myself to do it.

After the rush process was complete I felt a little down. I was disappointed in myself for not trying and pushing aside my insecurities and my fears. Then, I found out about informal recruitment.

For those who don't know, informal recruitment is another process of joining a sorority, just minus the long days and screaming and singing. Now, this did sound better but I was still so nervous. I wanted to make a good first impression and I was nervous about putting myself out there.

I had absolutely nothing to be nervous about.

I signed some papers, met with and got to know some of the girls and then boom. I was in.

This was EXACTLY what I needed. I was able to sit down in a calm environment for more than twenty minutes and really get to talk to someone. It was through this process that I found my home. I have never been more comfortable or enjoyed getting to know people as much as I have the past few weeks.

Now, two weeks away from initiation, I have no regrets and I am loving the experiences and new friends I am making. I have met so many wonderful people and I have felt so welcomed by everyone.

All that free time I had before? Yeah, that is definitley gone now, but I am just fine with it.

I stepped out of my comfort zone a little and I found my people and the place where I belong and I couldn't be happier.

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