God Must Be Your Source Of Happiness

God Must Be Your Source Of Happiness

Everyone in your life could be gone in a flash, but God is always here.

Recently, I traveled back home for a few days then to Texas to see family and my boyfriend, who just graduated from basic training, for Thanksgiving. It was the best and quickest week of my life. It was wonderful having a break from the craziness of college and see people I haven't seen in forever.

My boyfriend and I hadn't seen each other in three months and two of those months were without communication while he was completing basic training. Finally seeing him after so long was the best thing ever, but that day and a half went by way too fast.

When the time came to leave I was a mess. I held it together until I waved goodbye as we were driving away. I cried the entire way back to my aunt and uncle's house, just ask my mother. She endured a five-hour car drive of an incredibly emotional girl who cried in the middle of McDonald's.

Then, thinking I had gotten all my crying out of the way, I cried the next morning sitting at our gate in the airport. It wasn't that quiet crying either. It was the gross, noisy crying. All I wanted to do in that moment is leave the airport and drive right back.

Later that day, at the Chicago Airport, I had to also part ways with my mother as she had a flight going to Ohio while I was to go back to Syracuse. To say I was a mess the rest of the day is an understatement.

Once the school week began I hated waking up. The moment I woke up I got that feeling in my stomach. You know the feeling where you are so sad you can actually feel your heart breaking and your stomach is in knots? That is what I felt almost every morning of that first week back.

I missed so much. I missed home and my mom and my dad and my brothers and my friends and everything that is familiar to me. I missed my boyfriend and I cried over the fact that he wasn't coming home for Christmas and I didn't know when I would see him again.

The uncertainty of everything scared me. It made me so nervous and anxious and sad. I started wishing I could rewind back to summer so that I could be so incredibly happy again before distance came in between me and everyone and everything I loved.

That first week back at school I called my mom almost every night. My boyfriend was still without a phone until the next week so I had gone right back to reality. I went from actually being with him in person to not talking to him at all again.

I felt like I was using my mom at first. I felt bad for calling her just because I needed someone to fill the void. Then, I realized just how much I needed to talk to her. She told me something that has been on my mind ever since.

She told me that no one person can be my source of happiness.

Her exact phrase went something like this:

"Brandon cannot be your source of Happiness, Caitlin. Happiness starts with you being content with YOU. You need to figure out YOU and do what you want for YOU. Not me, not Dad, not Brandon. We can all be gone tomorrow. Live YOUR life - God will fill in the blanks."



I never even thought about how everyone I count on and rely on to make me happy could actually be gone in the blink of an eye. All these people in my life could be gone from my life and then what do I do?

Now, the chances of everyone in my life disappearing in the near future is slim to none, but this really got me thinking. As much as I say I believe and trust in God and how I put my life in His hands, I really don't allow Him to be the beholder of my happiness.

I count on everyone else in my life to be my source of happiness. I need to start looking to God more and, when all these uncertainties in my life come about, know that He is in control. He has my whole life planned and that all I need to do is trust in Him and I will be happy.

God must be my source of happiness. He is the one who will always be that constant rock in my life. He will ALWAYS be there. While I know the people in my life care about me and love me and support me as well, God will never be gone.

My relationship with God is always going to be a constant. If I trust in Him everything will be okay.

I still am so grateful for all the people in my life and yes, I am still a tad emotional about being apart, but I am working on focusing my happiness on the Lord. My mom and dad and brothers and friends and boyfriend make me SO incredibly happy, but I need to strengthen my relationship with God as well.

Focusing your happiness in God will make life so much better. Having loving and caring people in your life is so important and so wonderful, but God needs to come first. He is your one, true source of happiness.

So, I leave you with this simple bible verse:

Psalm 68:3

"But may the righteous be glad and rejoice before God; may they be happy and joyful."

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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When Should I Eat?

You should typically eat when your body tells you to, not your craving or friend.


Do you find that you are not hungry for dinner when you sit down at the usual time? How about lunch? Or breakfast? Or even when you snack? For me, it is usually dinner time when I feel this way. Perhaps after the first dish, you work up an appetite and go up for seconds. Later, you think, "why did I do that?"

We have been trained to eat three square meals at certain times of the day, at least I was. It is something our parents did and their parents. But here is something I have learned, not everyone should have the same eating patterns. Digestive systems differ per person and each individual requires differing amounts of calories for every day. For me, I have a sensitive digestive system. I have learned the hard way when I decided to eat seconds or eat when my body said it wasn't hungry.

Recently I have changed my eating pattern after reading Mark Divine's "The Way of the SEAL." To those who don't know, this book has heavily influenced my life and I wrote an article about it. In one section of the book, he gave a quick suggestion on eating habits. He said that the three square meals a day comes from the Industrial Revolution days when people had specific schedules. He said that the body should be fueled as needed through eating. Not only did it benefit his health, it freed up his breaks at work to focus on other things. At the same time, he states that it is okay to break the rule once in a while to enjoy life.

Even though his book didn't focus on nutrition or eating habits, this small section caused me to analyze my patterns. I realized that I was having calorie-rich meals when I wasn't hungry and that it usually caused indigestion. Plus his advice just sounded like common sense, eat when you're hungry. So I decided to start doing this. The result: I felt healthier and experienced less indigestion. And something seemed right about it.

If you consider it, our body sends us many messages on what to do. When to go to the bathroom, when you're cold, etc. People typically listen to their body in those situations, but not so much with food. The obesity epidemic in society is evidence of that. Obviously, there are other factors that have caused the obesity problem, but self-control with eating is not encouraged enough. Therefore, I believe people should check for a hungry message from their body before eating. As much as it will cause some odd schedules for meals or quick snacks, it will be beneficial for health. And checking the quantity you eat is important as well.

Another important part of eating is what you eat, which is one we hear about frequently. Another personal observation I have made is that when I eat healthier foods, especially fruit, my mood can get more positive. Probably because healthy fruits and vegetables don't give me the sick feeling after eating a sugar-filled brownie. Believe it or not, a healthier diet can improve mental health according to a study in New Zealand. So why not eat healthier to be in a better mood during the week?

I am not a health nut nor am I against enjoying life with a piece of cake once in a while. But I feel strongly about eating the right foods at the right time. I have gotten weird reactions from some people when I don't eat lunch for a long time or I talk about my eating patterns. I don't care since I know it is good for me and others. For some people, they need three square meals a day at certain times because that is when they are hungry. Like I said before, everyone has different eating patterns. Yet most of our eating should occur to satisfy hunger, not just for the sake of taste or socializing. If every person decided to eat healthy foods in the right quantities based on hunger, I think the health of the nation would improve.

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