I Had One Goal In College And That Was To Make A Best Friend

I Had One Goal In College And That Was To Make A Best Friend

Darn right I achieved that goal, and this person is the best person ever.

Prior to starting college, I did this week-long leadership boot-camp type thing. At the end of this week-long boot-camp, I made a goal to achieve by the end of my freshmen year. When I made this goal seemed like it would be an easy one to complete, but in reality, it was the hardest and most-time consuming goal of my life.

This goal was hard to achieve, but the reward that came with achieving it was amazing. While trying to achieve this goal, I went through the ringer several times and I felt like I wasn’t ever going to achieve it. Well, one day after a date that didn’t happen because I got stood up, I realized that goal was achieved.

No, my goal was not to be stood up, my goal was to have a true and genuine friendship in college. There were many moments when I thought that this goal was accomplished with certain people, but after some time those people weren’t good people in my life and they left my life. All throughout my freshmen year, I was searching for that best friend that everyone around seemed to have found already.

It was depressing, and one day when I was feeling down, one of my friends said that it takes time to build that level of friendship. No true friendship comes from a 20-minute conversation, just because people look like they are best friends, doesn’t mean that they are behind the scenes. That friend that told me this advice is the person who I consider a best friend now.

We met at this “leadership boot-camp”, and then we started grabbing breakfast with two other people from this “boot-camp” in the fall semester. We started texting and getting close, then this semester we joined the same sorority. Our friendship continued to grow because we are into the same things.

This friendship took a long time to develop and flourish because we are both incredibly busy people. However, I still made an effort to keep in touch with her because I felt comfortable around her and she is one of the only people at college who I feel that level of comfort with. Also, whenever something good happened in my life she would be the first person from Delaware that I would text with the good news.

Then when I didn’t get an opportunity that I really wanted, she would be one of the first people I texted, and she would lift me up. She would give me this second-wind to continue putting myself out there for opportunities. This person is such an amazing person.

Throughout all of this, she was being this true friend and we were developing this friendship that I have been craving for forever. She was a true and genuine friend that had my back, and I wasn’t realizing it at the time. When I was writing my book, I would send it to her and she would comment on how good it is, making me feel good for writing it.

I’ve recently started to read my book, and I can tell you that it’s not that good. However, her being the good friend she is, she made me feel good for writing this book. This person makes me feel empowered and confident in the things I venture out to do.

Anyways, there was this fateful Friday night that I realized she was that friend I had been looking for. It took all year, but better late than ever. This also showed me that everything happens for a reason.

On one Friday night, I was supposed to go on a third date with a guy who I had been talking too on and off. We went on two dates before, life got really busy and we would talk here and there. He seemed wishy-washy and throughout the moments that we talked and saw each other, I was never confident that he interested in me.

This guy said he was, and even calling me girlfriend material one random night. Then he wouldn’t follow up with it, and it was this mind-game that I didn’t pay any attention to because I did not have the time to pay attention to his game. I was simply living my life just trying to manage it.

One day we saw each other after that time he called me girlfriend material, and I remembered how cute he was. We would send a text here and there, and one day I wanted to reconnect with him, so I asked him if he wanted to go on a date. He said a yes and we scheduled that date.

The day of the date is here, and I go to the place where we agree to meet. I texted him that I was there, and he never shows up. I got stood up, and I was feeling a lot of emotions. The place where we agreed to meet had a Dunkin Donuts in it, so I grab some coffee. Then I see some people from my sorority, I start talking to them and we began to laugh.

This was a great way to get my mind off of it. However, when I went back to my dorm I was really lost and kind of upset. I began texting my friend, and she’s angry at him.

I wasn’t there yet, I was more distraught and upset. No, my friend was pissed off, and it felt good that she was pissed off because, in the weirdest way possible, it made me feel better. Having someone be pissed off for you shows that they care about you, and that they don’t want to see you upset, that feels really good.

As this was happening, the boy texted me saying that he “just woke up” how convenient. I sent this to my friend, and we decided that I am going to leave this boy on read and that he was trying to make me a backup plan. I am sorry, what?

No girl should ever be a backup plan, we should be number one choices. All girls should be first choices and that’s a fact of life.

Anyways, this conversation turned from me sulking to be one of the most empowering conversations I have had in my entire life. All because of my friend, and that’s when I realized that this friendship was a true and genuine friendship. I have this girl’s back, and she has mine.

Realizing on a night when you get stood up is amazing because I am the person that values friendship over having a romantic relationship, and that night was the perfect example as to why. The good and true friends will stick around in the dark moments, and boys just can be really sucky at times.

To this friend, thank you for being my true friend. You’re a gem of a human being and I cannot wait to see the amazing you’re going to do with your life. Delaware is incredibly lucky to have you.

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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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19 Things Anyone Turning 19 In 2019 Should Definitely Know

As my 19th birthday approaches, I wanted to share a few things I learned in the past years that you might need to hear.


As 2019 begins, my birthday approaches. Similarly, for those turning 19 in 2019, there are many pieces of advice we should all try to follow as we grow a year older. With each year comes more and more wisdom (hopefully) so this year should be no different! Enjoy this list of advice that we can all aspire to achieve during our nineteenth year!

1. It's OK to say no

I'm the type of person that likes to please everyone. However, I've learned sometimes it's necessary to politely decline.

2. You'll never please everyone

Like I just mentioned, I strive to satisfy everyone in my life which I've learned isn't possible. Every person has a different viewpoint, and that's OK.

3. Taking time for yourself is perfectly fine

Want to stay in on a Friday night and binge watch Netflix? Go for it! You deserve it!

4. Taking care of yourself is healthy and necessary 

Take the much needed time to take care of yourself- eat healthy, take a long hot bath, or pray. Whatever works for you!

5. If you have a gut feeling, follow it

Gut feelings shouldn't be ignored, they're usually there to push you to do something you secretly want to anyway.

6. Sometimes indulging is OK

If you want a cookie, have it. Sometimes you need a little comforting.

7. Go to church

I've never once attended church and regretted it. Ever.

8. Stop comparing yourself to others

It's time to stop wishing you looked like the Instagram models and start realizing how great you are.

9. If you feel like something should be said, say it

Within reason, if you have the urge to say something you should respectfully say it. Most of the time you'll be glad you did.

10. Change is inevitable 

At 19, life is one change after another. Sometimes it makes you feel uneasy, but it's just a part of life that's crucial to building who you are.

11. Crying is normal

Trust me, everyone cries at this age (especially in college). Some people are just better at hiding it.

12. Breaking a routine is OK

For me, breaking a routine made me feel as if my life was messy. In reality, it just means you have to accept the curveballs that are thrown at you.

13. Recognize the people that help you

Give credit when it's due. Let those important people in your life know how much you appreciate their help.

14. Go outside your comfort zone

Most new opportunities in your life don't come within a little stretch beyond your comfort zone.

15. Take other opinions into consideration

Keep an open mind! I find that listening to other viewpoints helps me justify my own opinion.

16. Keep in touch with your family

I know that these years are busy and you're off doing your own thing now, but remember to call your parents. It'll probably make their day.

17. Use your resources

Sometimes this can be uncomfortable, but there are so many resources that can be used to help out. Utilize them, it will make life so much easier.

18. Your opinion is valid

Don't let anyone or anything crush your feelings. Your mind is important and your voice deserves to be heard. Never quiet yourself at the expense of someone else.


This is a big one (hence the capital letters). You're the only one building the future for yourself, so why waste it doing anything that makes you unhappy? Be your own advocate for your happiness.

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