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Nothing In My Life Has Gone According To Plan, But I’m Actually OK With That

I'm just going with the flow.


When you go out into the adult world, you think your life will pan out as it does in all of those movies and T.V shows. You graduate, you get into your choice of Uni, you graduate again(on time), find your dream job and then everything that comes after is all a piece of cake. I mean as long as you stick to your "super-solid" plan, then nothing can really affect your "perfect" timeline, right?

Well, hate to break it to you but unfortunately, that isn't always the case. Well, for me specifically, things have not gone according to the regular plan from point A to Z. My "plan" has definitely skipped a few letters here and there, it's even thrown in some random poop emojis in there just for fun. But hey, at least looking back on how my life has been going, I really wouldn't change any part of it because I am actually Ok with where I am now and where I seem to be headed (fingers crossed).

A lot of the time when we are thrust into the world of being an adult, we are all forced into this notion that you need to follow a certain path in order to be and feel successful in your life. That can seriously mess up a person's view of themselves pretty early on if you need a reference on that, I am living proof of that self-deprecating person. When I first started my adult life, I went into things with the plan I was told growing up during my primary school years. Plan to attend the University of my choice, because I will get into it, attend and graduate in an allotted time, become very successful.

So, you can already guess when I didn't get into the first university I applied to and took longer than expected to get through school, and still now working on my degree, while not being this crazy successful person I had dreamed of being. It was pretty heartbreaking, and I dove into a major funk, which to be honest, I am finding myself at times still trying to get out of it.

Though, as time has passed and I have been able to take my life by the reigns, I noticed that this perfect timeline is not for everyone, especially me. I have come to accept that my perfect timeline is just taking each bump in the road as they come. Instead of comparing myself to those who seem to have their lives mapped out so perfectly, I have decided to step back and really figure out what I needed.

In doing so, I furthered my education on my own time, gained experience in my field, traveled and rediscovered my passions. I can now look at myself in the mirror and not focus on how far I am from reaching my original goals and timelines compared to those around me. Now I can see how far I have come in my own time and how I am more confident in myself.

So to really break it down, this forced perception of who you are and what you need to be doing, it's simple. Don't plan your life according to other peoples expectations. That will only lead to disappointment and a crumbling foundation in your own self-confidence. Trust the process and work hard, things will turn out the way they are supposed to when they are supposed to.

You've got this.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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