You are probably thinking, who in the world would give me permission to be selfish? Well, I will, for about five minutes. Something I have learned when it comes to social interactions, my job, school, or really anything that requires my intentional involvement is that occasionally, the most selfless thing to do is be selfish.

I can imagine there are some puzzled looks by now because that last statement seems like an oxymoron; I used to think so too. Deep down, we all suffer from the guilt complex, which leads us to over-committing ourselves and being spread far too thin. We charge through our lives, barely having a moment to breathe. It often seems like we don't stop until a burnout forces a mental, and sometimes emotional, breakdown. These breakdowns might look like not being able to wake up in the morning, lashing out at loved ones, or simply sobbing.

There are times that I have almost just waited for the next burnout. I didn't always know how to say no, and therefore the burnout required me to shut myself at home and not do anything. Here is an interesting idea, how about people start making the "selfish" decision to occasionally say no or ask for a rain check?

If we considered taking these "selfish" times during hectic seasons of life, it could actually be considered selfless. What I mean by this is by choosing to say no to an obligation that could pile stress and exhaustion on you, it will help you rest and recharge. It can be extremely difficult to give up a task that you feel you must do, but when it comes down to it, in order to do your best work or be the best friend/spouse/family member you are capable of, it takes being rested and not collapsing under pressure. The people around you will notice the difference. You can respond without being quick or distracted, and you will find that you are able to live more selflessly. Instead of focusing on the lack of rest or quiet you are experiencing, you will be able to participate more fully in the life you have been called to.

So, I am giving you my permission, take a "selfish" day. No, I don't mean check out of life completely, but do one thing for yourself that is restorative and relaxing for you amidst the chaos. There are times, I do promise, that the most selfless thing to do is be selfish.