As I scroll through my various social media profiles, I see one of two things. On a good day, I’ll see both: 1) Couples expressing their love on social media or 2) Couples expressing their anger on social media.

Both of which are, admittedly, cringe-worthy at times, but the latter blows my mind.

I’m sure we’ve all seen the “Would you give up social media for a healthy relationship?” post, oftentimes accompanied by a photo of a happy couple. My answer to that question is simple, really: Why should I have to?

Asking if I would give up social media for my relationship to be a happy one is a question based on the idea that I can’t be happy if social media is involved. I’m sorry, but that’s just not the truth. Here’s why.

If my relationship is a healthy one, between two mature people who are on the same page with their desires and goals, social media should not hinder that. Why? Because, if it’s a healthy relationship, we talk out every disagreement. I don’t tell my Facebook feed that I’m mad at my significant other before I tell him. That’s not how it works. In fact, I don’t tell my Facebook friends at all.

Wow. What a concept.

If my relationship is a healthy one, I don’t need a Woman Crush Wednesday post to prove that you love me, just as you don’t need a *cringe* Man Crush Monday post to be able to fully understand my love for you.

If my relationship is a healthy one, Facebook and Instagram posts, tweets, and likes, make no difference. They shouldn’t make a difference. To two people who are in a mature relationship, they don’t make a difference. Why? They’re too busy achieving their goals, and paving their way for their future, to care. Social media is not a priority. I don’t have the time to check and see if you liked my selfie. And if you didn’t, so what? I know you love me, and clicking ‘like’ doesn’t change that.

The above ideas are not me choosing to give up social media for my significant other, they’re me respecting my relationship enough and being mature enough to realize what needs to be on social media and what doesn’t. Once that is learned and understood, why should we have to give up Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, just so our relationship can survive? Why should that be an option at all?

If you need everyone you associate with on social media to know about your relationship to make you feel validated, it makes me question whether you’re in the right relationship to begin with. If you’re with the right person, social media validation is secondary, if it’s a factor at all. Why? Because, face-to-face, in the real world, the here-and-now, the love you share is enough for both of you. Social media presence doesn’t matter.

“Would you give up social media for a healthy relationship?” No. Why? Because I have no reason to.