If you are still trying to figure out what you are going to get people for the holidays here is a piece of advice, don’t give them jewelry.

I am not someone who has an affinity for jewelry. This has turned out to be more of an inconvenience for other people in my life than I would have ever thought. When I was younger I was told: “You don’t like jewelry, so I have no idea what to get you.” My initial response to this was confusion, how the heck was that the only gift idea you had for me. Anyone who knows me is aware that I am not crazy about jewelry.

After years of experiencing similar incidents, I realized I was in a unique position to try and understand the thought process for those who seemed to get stuck on the idea to give jewelry as a gift to others. What I learned was the people who were frustrated they couldn’t give jewelry to others hadn’t put any thought into the person they were trying to get a gift for.

I am not saying this goes for everyone, it only pertains to the ones whose default settings are to give others jewelry as a convenient gift. In their mind, they think jewelry is a catch-all item that they can give to anyone and everyone. I have run into this way of thinking a lot, it might be because I am a girl and we are all supposed to like jewelry, right?

If you are someone who likes to give others jewelry there is nothing wrong with that. Instead of just buying some random item, pick something out that adds character specific to the one you want to give it to. I understand that the appeal of buying a random piece of jewelry was to limit the amount of thinking but even a tiny thought makes all the difference. A small detail like their favorite color is enough to show you put thought behind your gift. A more thought-out piece could relate to an interest they have, for example, if they are into science a necklace with a molecular structure design on it could be perfect.

The thought put behind a gift is what makes them special and shows your love and care. That is why if you only give the gift of jewelry to be lazy, you shouldn't give it.