If it hasn't happened to you, it's at least happened to someone you know. Whether you're telling it to yourself or are constantly hearing it from your parents, close friends, or even the last person you rejected. You have probably been told once in your life to not be so picky when it comes to finding your next partner. Girls seem to get it a lot more than guys do, that our expectations are too high and that if we don't lower them then we will never find true happiness.

Well, I'm here to tell you that that could not be farther from the truth.

How many times have you been out with family and friends, and as if right on cue, someone in your little gang points across the room, claiming they have just found the next love of your life? You take one look and can instantly tell that this man or woman of mystery is just not right for you. But of course, as soon as you state that, you get bombarded with comments on how you're too picky or need to lighten up and give them a chance. Of course, it will only make matters worse if you've been single for more than a couple months. Sometimes that doesn't even matter.

Would it really hurt you to give this new stranger a chance, no, of course not? But sticking to your values and morals is more important. If you have the feeling early on in a conversation with a potential partner that it will not work out, then you should go with your gut feeling. You should never feel ashamed to turn someone down. You definitely should not feel pressured to be with someone you are not interested in because you are worried about how others, and that individual, will perceive you.

There is someone out there that will understand you and that you will not ever question your feelings for.

They may be about to run into you on the street the day after tomorrow, or not until you are walking your dog five years from now. No matter when you meet the one you are meant to be with, you will meet them at your own pace and in your own time when you're ready.

Also, just because you are single, does not mean you are any lesser of a person that needs to quickly jump into the next available relationship she can. Use this time to work on yourself. Self-care, career goals, favorite hobbies, uplifting grades. This time is just about you becoming the best version of yourself you can be. If you are constantly worrying about "filling a hole in your heart" you will constantly be limiting your personal happiness, which stands president over everything else.

No matter what is going on in your life at this moment, make sure you are happy about it. Find yourself and the type of person you want to be. Don't let others try telling you what or who you need in order to be happy, because the only person that can make that decision is you.