To The Girl Who Deserves Better,

I want to give you, the girl with a broken heart, a few pieces of advice. Whether you're trying to heal, you feel unlovable, like you will never find another person to love you or any combination of the few, I want you to know that you are worthy of love.

Eventually, one way or another, love will find its way back to you. I have gone through this heartbreak, and so have my best friends, and it is hard for anyone to stomach. No matter how many times I repeat phrases like, "You don't need him," or "It's not your fault, so stop blaming yourself," the heartbreak seems to live on.

As somebody who has experienced heartbreak, I know that there are times when you might feel like you can't live without a boy and they mean the world to you. So, when things go south you feel lost, broken and you don't know what to do next. I'm here to tell you that girl, you do not, and I repeat, do not need him.

I understand that you need to get all of the emotions out there, so cry, or punch your pillow, or find a safe way to express your feelings, and just take some time to wallow in your emotions. Then, surround yourself with people that actually improve your quality of life. I am sure that there are so many other amazing people in your life and you just need to get yourself out of that mindset that you need him to survive.

Also, the breakup, or the termination of the relationship, was not your fault. That guy who dumped you probably had a stupid reason for leaving you in the dust. If that guy couldn't understand how beautiful and special you are, why would you think that he deserves you? He doesn't. However, I promise that your unconditional love for him will be treasured more by someone that can give you that love back.

So many girls start talking to a guy, thinking he is interesting when realistically he's usually a 5/10 if that. Now, I'm not just talking about physical appearances, because don't get me wrong, there are people with awful personalities that look like models. Girls find a few things that they like about a guy, but disregard the other small facts about them that really matter and sometimes we should all be careful.

Finally, I don't know why people think that "being nice" is a bad quality. There is nothing wrong with being nice. Sure, there could be a guy who is super hot and mysterious, but also leaves you on read and treats you like trash. Why would anybody want to play games like that?

Genuinely nice guys will want to hear about your day and treat you right. Usually, they are right in front of you and you don't even see them. Open your eyes and give them chance because usually, they are the ones who get the girl and stay with them.

I know I am not you but I have been in your position and I have friends who have been as well. We have all been in the situation where the type of guys we have been crushing on, usually leading to us having more trust issues or cry more than we smile. You are so deserving of a nice man who genuinely cares about you and your wellbeing.

So, let the heartache take its course and forget about the guy who ended things with you. Date the man who would give anything to see you never cry. Your perfect man exists, so forget the boy that is holding you back.

From,

A Girl That Understands