Ladies, If We Could Stop Hating On Each Other In 2017, That'd Be GREAT

Ladies, If We Could Stop Hating On Each Other In 2017, That'd Be GREAT

We need to lift each other up, not put each other down.

Newsflash: nobody is perfect, no matter what you see on the exterior.

I bring this up because I recently overheard a girl rate another on a scale of 1-10 -- ‘a solid 7 or 8’. This was based solely on physical appearance, which struck me as a very shallow, harsh thing to say about someone.

It’s 2017. Why are we still stuck on the idea that women need to resemble porcelain dolls in order to be attractive? Not only that, since when is it OK to tell other women that they are not meeting these standards?

It’s human nature to be judgmental on occasion, and beauty is such a subjective topic. However, this does not make it OK to openly criticize other girls for things that you think they could be doing differently. My main issue with this mindset is that girls know how hard it can be to live up to such high standards. Flawless skin, long hair, toned legs, flat stomach. Does this ring a bell? Yes, these are all things that probably you’ve longed for at some point -- and not all of us have them. Attractiveness is not something that should be measured on a quantitative scale. I was appalled to know these ‘ratings’ are still used in a serious context -- that should have been left in middle school, if you ask me.

To everyone who still picks apart other people for their ‘flaws’: stop it.

I put ‘flaws’ in quotations because there’s no clear definition of imperfections. Maybe that girl with a very athletic body wishes she was a little less toned; someone else would kill to look like that. Perhaps the girl with perfectly tanned skin wants a less intense skin tone; another girl pays ridiculous money for that same look. It’s all about perspective, ladies. Think about that the next time you outwardly tell someone that they could afford to drop a few, or learn how to do their makeup a bit better. How would you feel if someone reinforced your own insecurities? Aren't you already consumed with your own thoughts about how you could look or feel better? That's what I thought.

At the end of the day, it's all about how you feel when you look in the mirror. If you're not happy with yourself, change it or embrace it. Either way, do not ever tell another girl that she's not a 'perfect 10'. I can guarantee you that she already feels that way about herself, and doing so will not help the cause. We're all in this together.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.

Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.

Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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The Importance Of Friendships

The thing about friends is you never know when you're going to need one.


In your lifetime you'll probably have quite a few friends. There will be the ones that come and go, sent to you for a reason, casual pals, and so many more. But the most important friends are the ones you make and stay by your side when you did not even know you needed them.

Sometimes life gets crazy, and it takes all kinds of twists and turns. You get wrapped up in yourself, your school work, and your extra activities. You forget to reach out because you're kind of drowning, but keep saying, "I'll get to it eventually." And as eventually never comes. it doesn't matter. Because while you're in the middle of acting like a hot mess, your friend texts you and says, "Hey, haven't seen you in a while. Wanna grab dinner?" And all of a sudden your worries melt away, at least for an hour, as you sit and chat and catch up. Just because you forgot about your friends, does not mean they forgot about you. And that's why friends are important.

Then you just have this really bad day. Just out of nowhere. Your week was going average, no major exams or assignment. But you start feeling down and just need a good cry. But this is the worst when you're alone. So what do you do? Call up your number ones, pick up some ice cream together and sit around, sad until life feels good again. And that's why friends are important.

But then sometimes you're having a really great day. The kind where everything falls in line. You got an A on your exam, made it on the bus right before it left, and just heard you got an interview. Now, you don't want to sound braggy, even though you totally want to brag. So you can't just tell anyone. So you call that person for you, and they start hyping you up even more, and despite their own terrible day. Because they know they can be happy for you even if things aren't going well for themselves. And that's why friends are important.

And of course, with college comes struggling with classes —the kind of struggling that entails you sitting at a screen for hours upon hours without really knowing what's going on. And you're scared to get help because you're 100 percent sure the problem here is that you are stupid. But you pick up the phone and explain to your friend who aced the class what's going on. And she really doesn't judge you at all. Just helps you with a smile on her face. And that's why friends are important.

There are so many moments in our lives that we just need to share something, feel something, or do something with another person. And that is why friends are important. They're there for you and ready to share all of these moments with you with an open heart.

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