I've been the girl obsessing over a man who wouldn't give me the time of day. Was it worth it?


Did I cry about it for days when he wouldn't be bothered to text or call me?

Yes.. sadly.

Not my proudest moment, but I learned a lot.

I learned that significant others come and go. Some people have to go through so many heartbreaks until they find the right person. While others find that person early on. There is nothing wrong with not having that person yet. Honestly, in my opinion, it's better to not have found that person yet. That just means you have more time to be selfish and be in love with yourself.

I'm telling you right now, it's freaking amazing. I can genuinely say I like being alone right now. I'm in this weird state of not wanting a boyfriend but just really wanting to be surrounded by my friends and people who love me. It's weird because for the first time in my life I don't feel lonely. I'm single but I'm happy.

I like the freedom of having people telling me how beautiful I am and attempting to flirt with me. I like being able to hang out with my friends and not feel guilty or as if I'm not pleasing my significant other. I love the freedom.

I love having the time to focus on my friends, sisterhood, career, volunteering, my dog, etc. Life is stressful as it is that adding on boy drama right now would just make me go ballistic. It's not worth the extra stress when I know deep down now is not the time to get into something.

Listen, I'm not against relationships or love. In fact, I think I truly deserve an epic love and until I find something close to what I want, I'm not putting my heart on the line. I know now that I am way too valuable to let just anyone be with me. It's just not going to work that way.

At this very moment, I would rather spend time with my forever friends than waste time with a guy that may or may not last. It's just not worth it unless he's the one.