I feel like there’s an awful stigma about girls asking guys out. I know it stems from popular movies promoting waiting for your “knight in shining armor,” (The Perfect Man, anybody?) but if you wait for that guy you’ll end up with an idiot in tin foil.

We are worth so much more than that.

I’m a girl and I asked out the guy that’s been my boyfriend for seven months. Not to make you believe I wasn’t scared to do it or nervous rather because I was. I’d asked out two or three guys I was interested in while I was in high school and they all turned me down and friend-zoned me. This guy, my boyfriend, was different.

I felt we could talk about many things and I had this feeling even back then that he was going to be important and special to me. I don’t think I was prepared for even all the crazy fun we’ve had. Just last week we celebrated my promotion and our seven month anniversary. We talked as if it were our first time talking.

Girls shouldn’t always make the first move, but if you like the guy and you’ve been friends for a little while, go for it. What do you have to lose? He says no? Isn’t that what guy’s experience when asking girls out? Granted, yes that no might sting for a little bit, but you got your answer without playing any games. You don’t have to play games to get the guy you want.

I feel that guys and girls should be able to ask each other out without there being some sort of stigma behind it. Say you’re already dating; you want to go to some event downtown somewhere. You’re just going to say, “Hey babe, or their name, do you wanna go to this event? I think it’s free and it looks like fun.” Whoever is doing the asking isn’t even going to think about the fact that they are asking their significant other out on a date.

Why is the first date so difficult to ask someone out to? I think it’s the movies we’ve watched so frequently (I know I did!). The thought that an entire relationship hinges on whether or not the first date goes well might be hanging over our heads.

At this point why bother? If you’re putting that much pressure on a date then you’re taking away from learning about the person you’ve just asked. That’s the entire point of a relationship, isn’t it? You want to see if this is the person you can see yourself with for the rest of your life. This is the 21^st century, isn’t it? Why do we believe that the guy has to make the first move?

If a guy wants to make the first move, that’s perfectly fine. If a girl wants to make the first move, she’s needy or desperate. This is SO not the case. Maybe we’re independent and don’t feel like waiting for the guys to make the first move. Maybe we want to see if they like us for sure without playing games trying to find out.