From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

I would rather find out when I am that age.

I always see articles about people wishing they knew a certain number of things before they turned a certain age, like 17 Things I Wish I Knew At 17, and I just call bull.

I don't think knowing any of those things would have changed anything.

Those number of things that you didn't know, you learned by having your own experiences and those experiences shaped you to be who you are by teaching you a lesson.

Now I'm not saying that the things on those lost aren't valuable, they are. But they're not going to be valuable before you turn that age because of your most likely going to try to avoid going thru heartbreak and your not going to learn how to cope with that situation or you're going to miss out on that part of life.

If someone had told you that certain thing you wish you knew, you wouldn't have paid any attention to them because we as humans never listen to other peoples advice unless we want it and the only advice we really want are the ones we're looking for.

Also knowing what the lesson is going to be teaching you prevents you from actually learning the lesson it's teaching you. You would've been waiting for it to happen or trying to prevent it from happening which leads you to have the actual experience whether it's good or bad.

I like to learn things on my own. If I knew everything that was going to happen when I turned 16 then I would have just stayed in the house and got homeschooled, because nobody wants to go through losing close friends or getting rumors spread around about them. But that stuff it apart of life and if you don't go thru it in high school then when it happens later what are you going to do.

I think that life after college and life while in high school are relatively the same. You still have the drama and the gossiping and the secret crushes.

I know high school is the worst stage of life because you have your insecurities that you always think about and some people like to use them against you. But if someone told you "oh sooner or later those insecurities won't mean as much as they do now" will you believe them? The answer is no, because we're stuck in the now, and right now those insecurities are weighing you down so you think they will weigh you down forever.

High school is more of a test for real life, and if you know all these certain lessons before you turn 15 or 17 then your not going to learn anything. Sometimes you need to go thru the heartbreak or lose one of your close friends for you can learn how to emotionally get over it.

Growth and knowledge come thru these experiences you have throughout life. Knowing the lessons before your personal experience gives you neither growth or knowledge because that experience helps you be who you are at this moment. So why reminisce on how you wanted to know certain lessons when you could just live in the moment and learn one by one.

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Let's Be Wise Owls In The New Year

Taking time to fly.

As most college students know, there is a month-long break in the middle of the semester used for visiting family and friends, picking up extra hours at work, and most confusingly, taking an entire class within the span of four weeks.

I’ve always struggled with the idea of getting the same amount of credits for a shorter class in an even smaller period of time. Repeatedly have my professors been unable to finish our material due to a lack of time, or false confidence in our class' ability to understand and retain information.

Even worse, I’ve grown into an aging, spiteful Amazon book reseller when my textbooks go unused. If every class was a month long, imagine how many different things we could learn in a shorter period of time (kind of like the way a syllabus is set up, except this time there will be no interruptions).

I know you’re wondering, “what about scheduling?” (cause we’re all sticklers for the rules). My response to that is there’s a reason I’m not working as a Registration Advisor (let the dream live on).

As 2018’s spring semester begins, I reminisce about the activities that filled my time: binge-watching "The Crown," dragging myself to work, spending time with family, jet-setting to London, reading a strange but recommended book of poetry about a princess (google it), and most of all, taking time to relax and breathe.

We all want to be the smartest one in the room, whether it's creatively, academically, or criminally, and taking time to breathe and then dive into the madness is a good thing. Imagine, a robber prioritizing by month when to complete the heist; “January is recon, February is when I’ll land the security guard position, March, I just want to make best employee, so let’s go for the money in April.”

With pacing, prioritizing, and patience, we can influence the course of events from now until December.

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A Letter to My 13 Years Old Self

If you only knew

If there were things I could've told you back then, trust me I would've. Like even though ninth grade might've felt like the worst year of your life, senior year wouldn't turn out to be all that much better. I guess it's true that things always come full circle. I would've told you that you'd get denied from your top choice college, but the one you'd end up in is for a reason. Even though you'll be nervous at first, you'll end up loving it.

There are a lot of things I've learned since I was 13. Like how to love yourself even when everything feels like its going wrong. Also, when you find the right people, surround yourself with them because they'll only encourage you to prosper and bloom into a better person than you were the day before. That even if most of the people in high school kinda (definitely) suck, you'll make amazing new real friends your first week of college.

If I could've told you that the brown-eyed boy with braces you met on Halloween when you were 14 would completely change your life a few years later, I definitely would have. If I could've told you that things can always get worse, no matter how bad they get, I would've until you believed me. Because even if things get bad, or really bad, there's always something better around the bend, you just have to get there.

Things change. A lot. People change, places change, thoughts change, you'll change. Everything changes and sometimes its for the better and sometimes its not, but thats part of the beauty of figuring your life out. Right now, you want to be a journalist or even maybe a zoologist (until your mom told you that was silly, turns out she was right). You hate science and math now, but in a few years you'll be majoring in environmental engineering and even making the Dean's List.

My point of this is that you're going to feel defeated a lot in your life, but every time you'll just come back stronger and conquer more than anyone expected you to. You'll spend your life proving people wrong and surprising them with just how much you can actually accomplish in this little time we have here on Earth. Things will get hard and sometimes you'll fail, but as long as you try again and learn from the experience, you'll always succeed eventually.

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