From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

I would rather find out when I am that age.

I always see articles about people wishing they knew a certain number of things before they turned a certain age, like 17 Things I Wish I Knew At 17, and I just call bull.

I don't think knowing any of those things would have changed anything.

Those number of things that you didn't know, you learned by having your own experiences and those experiences shaped you to be who you are by teaching you a lesson.

Now I'm not saying that the things on those lost aren't valuable, they are. But they're not going to be valuable before you turn that age because of your most likely going to try to avoid going thru heartbreak and your not going to learn how to cope with that situation or you're going to miss out on that part of life.

If someone had told you that certain thing you wish you knew, you wouldn't have paid any attention to them because we as humans never listen to other peoples advice unless we want it and the only advice we really want are the ones we're looking for.

Also knowing what the lesson is going to be teaching you prevents you from actually learning the lesson it's teaching you. You would've been waiting for it to happen or trying to prevent it from happening which leads you to have the actual experience whether it's good or bad.

I like to learn things on my own. If I knew everything that was going to happen when I turned 16 then I would have just stayed in the house and got homeschooled, because nobody wants to go through losing close friends or getting rumors spread around about them. But that stuff it apart of life and if you don't go thru it in high school then when it happens later what are you going to do.

I think that life after college and life while in high school are relatively the same. You still have the drama and the gossiping and the secret crushes.

I know high school is the worst stage of life because you have your insecurities that you always think about and some people like to use them against you. But if someone told you "oh sooner or later those insecurities won't mean as much as they do now" will you believe them? The answer is no, because we're stuck in the now, and right now those insecurities are weighing you down so you think they will weigh you down forever.

High school is more of a test for real life, and if you know all these certain lessons before you turn 15 or 17 then your not going to learn anything. Sometimes you need to go thru the heartbreak or lose one of your close friends for you can learn how to emotionally get over it.

Growth and knowledge come thru these experiences you have throughout life. Knowing the lessons before your personal experience gives you neither growth or knowledge because that experience helps you be who you are at this moment. So why reminisce on how you wanted to know certain lessons when you could just live in the moment and learn one by one.

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18 things all college kids think during their first week home of summer break

Because it's so nice to be home, I think?


1. Ahhh, it's so nice to be home

Buckingham Palace ain't got nothing on this place

2. OMG my pups!! I missed you doggos so much

Just accept my love. Pls. Love me back, I've been gone for 8 months. I'm begging.

3. Wow this queen bed is so big

*cue sleeping in a starfish position*

4. Finally a bedroom to myself

Headphones? I don't know her.

5. But wait, it's kinda scary sleeping in a dark room alone again

"Hello? Are there any ghosts in here?"

6. Sooooooo, no more meal plan?

Are you sure the local Chick-Fil-A doesn't accept meal swipes?

7. Who am I supposed to annoy at 2am if my friends don't live down the hall anymore?

2:30 AM: "Mom? Dad? Wanna go get french fries with me? Maybe watch a movie?"


"Okay maybe tomorrow...Sorry for bothering you. Okay good talk!"

8. "Mom you're going to do my laundry now, right?"

I mean it's kinda your job isn't it?

No? Okay yes ma'am I will do my own laundry no problemo, aye aye captain!

9. Me and my friends are going to spend every day together

*Me talking to myself through the camera on Snapchat*:

"So we're approaching day four with zero human interaction. Pretty good work, but we could do better!"

10. Yes, final grades are in! Can't wait to see what I got this semester!

*Slowly closes computer screen*

11. Do I really have to ask my parents to leave the house?

*Doesn't Ask*:



Mom: "Oh honey you're an adult now, you don't have to ask! Come and go as you please!"

12. Chores? Yea no thank you.

They've been doing them without me for months. They're all set.

13. Wait, so forreal though.. do restaurants in town take my meal plan?

Bank Account: $5.93

*Whispers to worker* "I won't tell if you don't. Just swipe my school ID, see if it works."

14. Will my Juul set off the fire alarm in my bedroom?


*Rips Juul*

15. I kinda underestimated how weird it would be to hang out with people from my high school again.

"Oh no you haven't changed a bit Janice! Your baby is so cute lol."

*Awkwardly laughs*

16. Why do my old friends have new friends?

I don't like this, not one bit.

17. Can they tell that I'm not really listening to their stories about school?

"Yeah haha Delta Sigma Mu sounds sooooo dope Chad, that's ~wild~ that you had late nights three times a week lol!"

"Oh you snuck into the football stadium when the gates were unlocked?? That's crazy, you're crazy, school sounds... crazy!"

18. I'm bored. How long until I can go back to school?

Is it too late for a summer intersession?

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Even If You Aren't Friends With Them, They Still Deserve Your Respect

You will always have to work with people who you may not favor or they may not favor you, but being respectful gets you far in life.

My parents have always been a major source of inspiration, for as long as I can remember. They always demonstrate great parenting skills. And, most importantly, they own up to their mistakes.

Part of being a successful parent is giving the right advice. My parents always know what to say and when to say it. Even if their words that they offer me are the brutal truth, it still inspires me to be better every day.

The best piece of advice my parents gave to me is that you don’t have to be a fan of everyone in your lifetime. However, everyone deserves respect. In other words, “kill them with kindness.” If I had a dollar for every time I have heard these words, I would be rich.

I feel as if these words have shaped me as a person, and they help me understand what is important in life. You will always have to work with people who you may not favor or they may not favor you, but being respectful gets you far in life. If you show respect, it becomes contagious. Others will respect you more.

Also, when you show that others’ rude acts do not bother you and all you do is kill them with kindness, it is a satisfying feeling to show that you are the bigger person in a situation like this. There are many times in life when people will treat you with disrespect; however, just because someone does not give you respect doesn’t mean you also have to treat them the same way. Being kind, showing respect, and having manners are always qualities that people look for in others.

If there is any advice I would pass down, it is exactly this that my parents always remind me of.

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