From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

From The Girl Who DOESN'T Want To Know Anything, Before Any Age

I would rather find out when I am that age.

I always see articles about people wishing they knew a certain number of things before they turned a certain age, like 17 Things I Wish I Knew At 17, and I just call bull.

I don't think knowing any of those things would have changed anything.

Those number of things that you didn't know, you learned by having your own experiences and those experiences shaped you to be who you are by teaching you a lesson.

Now I'm not saying that the things on those lost aren't valuable, they are. But they're not going to be valuable before you turn that age because of your most likely going to try to avoid going thru heartbreak and your not going to learn how to cope with that situation or you're going to miss out on that part of life.

If someone had told you that certain thing you wish you knew, you wouldn't have paid any attention to them because we as humans never listen to other peoples advice unless we want it and the only advice we really want are the ones we're looking for.

Also knowing what the lesson is going to be teaching you prevents you from actually learning the lesson it's teaching you. You would've been waiting for it to happen or trying to prevent it from happening which leads you to have the actual experience whether it's good or bad.

I like to learn things on my own. If I knew everything that was going to happen when I turned 16 then I would have just stayed in the house and got homeschooled, because nobody wants to go through losing close friends or getting rumors spread around about them. But that stuff it apart of life and if you don't go thru it in high school then when it happens later what are you going to do.

I think that life after college and life while in high school are relatively the same. You still have the drama and the gossiping and the secret crushes.

I know high school is the worst stage of life because you have your insecurities that you always think about and some people like to use them against you. But if someone told you "oh sooner or later those insecurities won't mean as much as they do now" will you believe them? The answer is no, because we're stuck in the now, and right now those insecurities are weighing you down so you think they will weigh you down forever.

High school is more of a test for real life, and if you know all these certain lessons before you turn 15 or 17 then your not going to learn anything. Sometimes you need to go thru the heartbreak or lose one of your close friends for you can learn how to emotionally get over it.

Growth and knowledge come thru these experiences you have throughout life. Knowing the lessons before your personal experience gives you neither growth or knowledge because that experience helps you be who you are at this moment. So why reminisce on how you wanted to know certain lessons when you could just live in the moment and learn one by one.

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To All Incoming Freshmen, When You Get To College, Please Don't Be THAT Freshman

I am pretty sure we all know who I'm talking about.


As we are all counting down the days to return to campus, students are looking forward to meeting new people and reuniting with old friends. And then, there is the freshman.

We have all been there. The eagerness and excitement have been slowly building up through months of summer vacation, all waiting for this moment. I understand the anxiousness, enthusiasm, and insecurities. The opportunity to meet new people and explore a new area is very intriguing. But let's be real, you are here to make memories and get an education. So here are a few pieces of advice from a former college freshman.

1. Don't be that freshman who follows their significant other to college

This is the boy or girl who simply can not think for themselves. The 17-year-old puts their own personal goals and interests aside to sacrifice for a six-month high school relationship. This will more than likely end at an end of semester transfer after the relationship has been tested for a month or two in college life. So if you want to really enjoy your freshman year, make your own decisions and do what is best for you.

2. Don't be that freshman who lets their parents pick their major

"You are not going to school just to waste my money."

This is a statement you might have heard from your parents. As true as it might seem, this is definitely not a good way to start your college years. If you are not majoring in something you can see yourself doing, you are wasting your time. You can major in biology, go to medical school, and make the best grades. But if deep down you don't want to be a doctor, you will NOT end up being a good doctor. When it comes to picking your major, you really have to follow your heart.

3. Don't be that freshman who gets overwhelmed with the first taste of freedom

Yes. It is all very exciting. You don't have a curfew, you don't have rules, you don't have anyone constantly nagging you, but let's not get carried away. Don't be the freshman who gets a tattoo on the first night of living on your own. Don't be the freshman who tries to drink every liquor behind the bar. Don't be the freshman who gets caught up being someone that they aren't. My best advice would be to take things slow.

4. Don't be that freshman who starts school isolated in a relationship

I'm not telling you not to date anyone during your freshman year. I am saying to not cut yourself off from the rest of the world while you date someone. Your first year on campus is such an amazing opportunity to meet people, but people are constantly eager to start dating someone and then only spend time with that person.

Be the freshman who can manage time between friends and relationships.

5. Don't be that freshman who can't handle things on their own

It is your first year on your own. Yes, you still need help from your parents. But at this point, they should not be ordering your textbooks or buying your parking pass. If you need something for a club or for class, YOU should handle it. If you're having roommate problems, YOU should handle it, not your parents. This is the real world and college is a great time for you to start building up to be the person you want to be in the future, but you can't successfully do that if your parents still deal with every minor inconvenience for you.

6. Don't be that freshman who only talks to their high school friends

I know your high school was probably amazing, and you probably had the coolest people go there. However, I believe that college is a great time to be on your own and experience new things. Meeting new people and going to new places will allow you to grow into a more mature person. There is a way to balance meeting new friends and maintaining friendships with childhood friends, and I am sure you will find that balance.

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5 Ways To Make The Most Of Each Day

Don't wait until tomorrow to start


Checking off everything on your to-do list is easier said than done. It requires commitment, but above all, it requires creating healthy habits. It does not matter if you are a student, in the workforce, or even a stay at home parent. Who doesn't want to be productive and make the most of their day? It takes practice and you can't change overnight. I put together the top 5 tips to be the best version of yourself each and every day.

1. Morning time = YOUR time.

Each morning you wake up, focus on what you want to accomplish that day. Don't just open Instagram and mindlessly scroll through all the pictures of the people that you probably barely like. As soon as you wake up, drink a huge glass of water, take your personal time to wake up and think about how you want to tackle your day. Even if your goal is to watch as much Netflix as possible, at least you have a goal with a plan. This also is where it pays off to have a calendar to keep track of your future plans.

2. Don't try to do so much at once.

Stop trying to do a million things at once. This inevitably raises your stress and counteracts the whole concept of being productive because you're just too overwhelmed. It is much more efficient to take on one task at a time and finish it with the most effort you can give. You will feel like you have accomplished more when everything isn't half-assed.

3. Pray.

You can't do this thing called life on your own... We aren't meant too. Look to him when you need that boost in your day. God will bring good things your way.

4. Get a good sweat sesh in.

It is proven over and over again that a daily habit of exercising increases your health, happiness, and overall being. Exercise can actually give you more energy, as crazy as that sounds. When you sit around all day, don't you feel more tired? Maybe even sore? Go to the gym for even 30 minutes and you can change your entire mindset throughout the day.

5. Be present with other.

I know I put this last, but this is an example of saving the best for last. I can not stress enough how important it is to be present with the people around you, in public and private. Put away down things that distract you. There is a big world out there. Engage in conversations with others around you. People will remember how you make them feel, positive or negative.

Your life is simply days following days. It is up to you to decide if you enjoy those days or barely survive those days. In the end, the life we choose to live is determined by the choices that we make each and every day. Begin each day by doing something different, big or small, and watch your life change.

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