To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

Life is better when you're happy with who you are before you look for "the one."

First of all, I just want to say that I don’t mean any of this in the way of shaming girls. You do you, but this is how I feel.

OK, girl! You’re about 20 years old maybe 18 or 22, but your exact age doesn’t matter. You’re going to college or maybe you're working and supporting yourself — either way, your on your own and it feels good. But, you feel like it's boring or lonely with just you, I mean, everyone wants someone in their life. It’s natural and normal to feel alone or lonely, but you have your entire life. Being on your own feels good, remember?

Looking for "the one" is cliche and old fashion because, in a world with dating apps, is there really any looking to do? The people looking for a hookup, a date or a relationship are everywhere! You swipe right and that’s that. Alright, maybe that’s just how it is now and that’s our dating culture. But, it really doesn’t have to be this way.

Make friends — you know, the really great kind that will be there forever, never bring you down and will always tell you like it is. And, if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you that you’re going about this whole “finding the one” thing all wrong. I think finding love shouldn't be some hunt or great search for who you think you should be with.

So, back to making friends, make all the friends you can and have each other’s backs. Go out, meet people, have a good time and be real. Stop looking for the right guy and work on being happy with yourself. I may only be 19 but I’ve spent so much time searching for someone to make me feel happy, confident or to just make me feel something good when in reality that sh*t was all up to me.

Be freaking happy with yourself with your homies by your side and it’s going to be OK.

You’re probably thinking right now — this b*tch needs to take a lap. And, maybe I need to, but really — life is way better when you're happy with who you are, you’re feelin’ yourself and you have friends that love and support you no matter what.

So, if you think I’m full of sh*t and don’t think you can take anything away from my rant: please, take the time you would spend looking for "the one" and do things for yourself.

It’s time to be happy with yourself because you have your entire life ahead of you, so why waste your prime on searching. Believing I could be alone for a while was the best decision I ever made.

If I want a healthy and happy relationship in the future, I need to use my college years and some of my 20s to live just my life, not be tied down and to find out what I want.

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A Letter To My Nana, The One Who Loved With A Full Heart

I know you are gone, but you will forever live in my heart.

Dear Nana,

It hasn't been that long since you've been gone. I would say around a month, maybe even less. Needless to say, I miss you. You've made a huge impact on me.

You might be wondering how everything is, and it's as good as it usually is. My exams are coming soon, so school is stressful. I still play the flute, and I want to be a music teacher. It's not much, but I love it. I'll be going to college in a year, which is a lot to handle. It's hard to mentally prepare myself for all of this. The weather is still terrible here, but in India, it's not too cold, not too hot. It's quiet also. It's empty.

We have shared a lot of memories, regardless of how big or small they were. Do you remember when you would just let me and Maanav watch shows on the small television you had? We would turn it on while you would be sleeping, but you wouldn't care. Even if I offered to turn it off to let you sleep, you would still let us watch.

I remember you just sitting by your swing in front of the house. You never sat on the swing but always on the plastic chair next to it. Sometimes, Maanav and I would join you, but mostly it was Maanav.

You would let him buy ice cream from the shop in front of the society, and he wouldn't have to worry about paying. You wouldn't let anyone worry about how much money was spent on buying ice cream. It was something that I admired about you. You wouldn't let anyone worry too much about anything.

Along with that, you were able to put a smile on anyone's face. You had a natural humor that made anyone laugh. You were just so chill, no worries in the world. You didn't care if I laughed at you. When you came over to stay at my house, I would ask what you did all day. You would say that you sat on the chair, then watched cricket or the news and then continued sitting on the chair. The house would be empty, except for you and Nani.

I want to say "thank you."

You have given me so much, but I wasn't able to repay you back. I did small things for you, but it just wasn't enough. We may not have been close, but I'm still happy that you were in my life. You made me laugh and smile with the silly things you would say. You taught me so many things. They may not have been direct, but I still took them as lessons of their own.

You taught me to not worry so much about the little things. You taught me to keep smiling no matter what and that it's OK to be alone for hours.

Thank you for all the memories, laughs, smiles, conversations and much more. I want you to know that I miss you a lot, and I will continue to miss you. There's still a place for you in my heart, and it won't go away. Because of that, you will continue to live on in my memories and in my heart. I love you.

Your granddaughter,

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Poetry On Odyssey: Tick, Tock

I made a poem about my grandmother's long, meaningful life.

How can a moment last forever

If the day ends so soon?

Tick, tock,

The moment is gone.

Sun appeared in the azure, unborn sky,

Followed by your silk white dress

And your brushed chestnut hair.

Tick, tock.


Wrinkles on your taciturn face

Introducing the knots and your tainted fate.

Tick tock,

Memories lost, but

You are not yet gone.

How can a moment last forever

If the day ends so soon?

Tick, tock,

The moment is gone.

The same childish glee spread

As you deteriorate.

I see it in my mother

And she sees it in me.

I see you in her eyes.

You think 93 years?

I think forever.

Time is limited.

You are not.

Disclaimer: This is a work of poetry. Names, characters, businesses, places, events and incidents are either the products of the author's imagination or used in a poetic manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.
Cover Image Credit: Nadine Haddad

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