To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

Life is better when you're happy with who you are before you look for "the one."

First of all, I just want to say that I don’t mean any of this in the way of shaming girls. You do you, but this is how I feel.

OK, girl! You’re about 20 years old maybe 18 or 22, but your exact age doesn’t matter. You’re going to college or maybe you're working and supporting yourself — either way, your on your own and it feels good. But, you feel like it's boring or lonely with just you, I mean, everyone wants someone in their life. It’s natural and normal to feel alone or lonely, but you have your entire life. Being on your own feels good, remember?

Looking for "the one" is cliche and old fashion because, in a world with dating apps, is there really any looking to do? The people looking for a hookup, a date or a relationship are everywhere! You swipe right and that’s that. Alright, maybe that’s just how it is now and that’s our dating culture. But, it really doesn’t have to be this way.

Make friends — you know, the really great kind that will be there forever, never bring you down and will always tell you like it is. And, if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you that you’re going about this whole “finding the one” thing all wrong. I think finding love shouldn't be some hunt or great search for who you think you should be with.

So, back to making friends, make all the friends you can and have each other’s backs. Go out, meet people, have a good time and be real. Stop looking for the right guy and work on being happy with yourself. I may only be 19 but I’ve spent so much time searching for someone to make me feel happy, confident or to just make me feel something good when in reality that sh*t was all up to me.

Be freaking happy with yourself with your homies by your side and it’s going to be OK.

You’re probably thinking right now — this b*tch needs to take a lap. And, maybe I need to, but really — life is way better when you're happy with who you are, you’re feelin’ yourself and you have friends that love and support you no matter what.

So, if you think I’m full of sh*t and don’t think you can take anything away from my rant: please, take the time you would spend looking for "the one" and do things for yourself.

It’s time to be happy with yourself because you have your entire life ahead of you, so why waste your prime on searching. Believing I could be alone for a while was the best decision I ever made.

If I want a healthy and happy relationship in the future, I need to use my college years and some of my 20s to live just my life, not be tied down and to find out what I want.

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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5 Things You Understand if You Are The Baby of the Group

That's okay, have fun without me

If you are one of the youngest members of your friend group, then you know just how it feels when everyone starts turning 21. Here are 5 things that only the babies of the friend group understand.

1. Always the DD

Once your friends start turning 21 and decide to go out, guess who gets to pick them up? That's right. You. The one that still isn't 21.

2. The mom

You may be the youngest, but when your friends come back from a good night out, you are the most responsible and mature one of the group. You are the one that has to take care of them.

3. Being left out of things

Well, if you aren't 21, you can't go to that cool bar that everyone else is talking about or on that wine tour.

4. Home alone on the weekend

While everyone else gets to go out and have fun on the weekend, you get to sit at home in your pajamas, watching TV. Sure this isn't a terrible thing, but when you are getting snapchats, and seeing your friends post about the fun they are having, you feel left out.

5. By the time you turn 21, your friends are over the hype.

You are finally 21 and you invite all of your friends. You are so excited, and they are excited for you, but after that night, you wanna go out and have fun, but your friends don't wanna go out as much because the hype of them turning 21 has faded.

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