To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

To The Girl Who Thinks Her Life Is Incomplete Without A Boyfriend

Life is better when you're happy with who you are before you look for "the one."

First of all, I just want to say that I don’t mean any of this in the way of shaming girls. You do you, but this is how I feel.

OK, girl! You’re about 20 years old maybe 18 or 22, but your exact age doesn’t matter. You’re going to college or maybe you're working and supporting yourself — either way, your on your own and it feels good. But, you feel like it's boring or lonely with just you, I mean, everyone wants someone in their life. It’s natural and normal to feel alone or lonely, but you have your entire life. Being on your own feels good, remember?

Looking for "the one" is cliche and old fashion because, in a world with dating apps, is there really any looking to do? The people looking for a hookup, a date or a relationship are everywhere! You swipe right and that’s that. Alright, maybe that’s just how it is now and that’s our dating culture. But, it really doesn’t have to be this way.

Make friends — you know, the really great kind that will be there forever, never bring you down and will always tell you like it is. And, if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you that you’re going about this whole “finding the one” thing all wrong. I think finding love shouldn't be some hunt or great search for who you think you should be with.

So, back to making friends, make all the friends you can and have each other’s backs. Go out, meet people, have a good time and be real. Stop looking for the right guy and work on being happy with yourself. I may only be 19 but I’ve spent so much time searching for someone to make me feel happy, confident or to just make me feel something good when in reality that sh*t was all up to me.

Be freaking happy with yourself with your homies by your side and it’s going to be OK.

You’re probably thinking right now — this b*tch needs to take a lap. And, maybe I need to, but really — life is way better when you're happy with who you are, you’re feelin’ yourself and you have friends that love and support you no matter what.

So, if you think I’m full of sh*t and don’t think you can take anything away from my rant: please, take the time you would spend looking for "the one" and do things for yourself.

It’s time to be happy with yourself because you have your entire life ahead of you, so why waste your prime on searching. Believing I could be alone for a while was the best decision I ever made.

If I want a healthy and happy relationship in the future, I need to use my college years and some of my 20s to live just my life, not be tied down and to find out what I want.

Cover Image Credit: Lindsey Ocock

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Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

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2. Phone juul holder 

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3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

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4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

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5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

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6. Condom case

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7. Frat house candle

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8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

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9. Natty Light t-shirt 

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10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

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A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

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13. Frat House Dr. Sign

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14. Beer Lights 

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It's Only November, DO NOT Cue The Christmas Music

"Why are people so quick to switch gears from October 31... to November 1st?"


As I write this article it is early November. Crazy how we are already into November. For those of you who have two different personalities from Halloween to November 1, this is for you. Do not cue Christmas music in early November.

November is a really beautiful month if you take the time to appreciate it. Leaves continue to change, the temperature starts to drop, which means more coffee and hot chocolate! The NJEA convention is in early November, if you're an educator, future one, or if you're a current student, you are off these days, and of course, everyone is off for Thanksgiving. A time to celebrate what we are thankful for with our friends and family. Tables full of hot soups to warm our chilly bodies, turkey, creamy mashed potatoes, stuffing, sweet cranberry sauce, an array of pies and desserts, you name it.

So why are people so quick to switch gears from October 31, a time to dress up, trick or treat and attend Halloween parties, to November 1st, a time that has become all about Black Friday and Christmas? We've lost the meaning of Thanksgiving. In my opinion, stores should not be open on Thanksgiving Day. As mentioned it's a day to spend with family. You can shop for those best deals and stand in line for hours the following day and days leading up to Christmas.

We live in a time where everyone is busy with their own lives and family, and it's difficult to get together with everyone's schedules. So on Thanksgiving, it's the perfect time to surround yourself with family and friends, enjoying a meal together, counting your blessings, showing gratitude and appreciation, and catching up on everyone's lives. Truly a day of Thanksgiving!

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