Like many of us who have seen articles written about "what it's like to finally have independence" or "finding independence after a break-up", but what about the people who struggle being dependent on another person, especially in a relationship?

We all want to be wanted, we all want someone who can't wait for us to come home, and vise versa. There are some of us who struggle with letting go a little bit of their own independence when they get into a relationship.

I happen to be one of these people.

I was born independent, I wanted to move out of my house when I was sixteen. I wanted to buy dishes and silverware and find my own apartment, furnish it and not live nor depend so much on my parents anymore. Sure, I moved out when I was eighteen, and still at twenty-two, I still struggle sometimes and need help from Mom and Dad (hey, guys!). But, when I get in a relationship, things can be different.

The thought of being dependent on anyone scares the shit out of me.

I sometimes forget that they also want us to be dependent on them. For the longest time, the thought/idea of being dependent on a man scared the everlasting hell out of me. I've seen horrible breakups from people who constantly need to depend on someone, and while there is nothing wrong with wanting to be dependent on someone, just the idea of it scares me. i know I can do all of this on my own, and I want them to know and truly understand that; but being in a relationship means that you do a lot of things together.

I don't really know why I struggle with it, sometimes I think that maybe I'm afraid that I'll lose apart of myself, maybe that if I finally become dependent on a man, that they'll up and leave. Maybe if that happens, I'll never know what it's like to be independent anymore.

Being dependent on someone in a relationship is part of it. You open up to them, they become your friend as well as your life partner.

Like they need you, you need them, and that is okay. That is what is suppose to happen.