Sometimes we get so used to always having someone around that it becomes hard to imagine actually having to brave life on your own. Even if it is temporary. But avoiding your loneliness can actually do more damage than good.

1. It is normal to question your worth at this time alone.

In the moments that feel the darkest, and when you’re at your most vulnerable, you would do anything to fill the gaps that don’t make sense. You’ll swipe through tinder, bumble, or match, etc.. looking for the boost or attention needed. You text old flames, hoping they miss you. You’ll do anything possible to avoid the feeling of emptiness.

Stop, breathe, and embrace it.

2. You are strong enough to brave this life alone.

Being alone is not a bad thing. However, in society, being alone can be portrayed as someone who is lonely, sad and/or depressed. I know it’s hard for you to think about being alone especially when you have a constant reminder from social media, showing us that everyone has found their love, so why haven’t you?

But I’m here to tell you that with God on your side, nothing shall be impossible (Luke 1:37) You are stronger than you think and you do not need a person to define your worth. One thing you should always remember before getting involved in any relationship is to F.L.Y. = First Love Yourself.

3. You’ll come out knowing yourself more.

Once you are truly alone with God and yourself, with no prospects waiting on the sidelines, you will learn more about yourself. You will unmask parts of you that you were afraid to reveal. However, you have to be willing to give the damaged parts to God so He can restore them.

Luke 6:10 says, “after looking around at them, all He said to him was, “stretch out your hand.” And he did so, and his hand was restored”. If you will dig deep and reach your hand out, God will restore you. Therefore, you will truly re-evaluate what you truly want in a person, instead of settling.

4. When you settle you’re not going for someone you actually want.

You might think that it’s what you want and what you deserve, but the truth is that without spending time alone with God, you’ll keep settling for what’s good enough or what’s there. However, you are a daughter of The Most High King. Proverbs 3:15 says, “she is far more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her”. Once you start realizing your worth, you’ll stop settling and giving people discounts.

5. You’ve got this.

It’s not going to be easy. It will be a struggle at times. You will go through peaks and valleys of emotions before you become content with being alone. However, with God by your side, no weapon shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). You will get through this baby girl, I promise.