Dealing With Homesickness While Living 561 Miles From Home

Dealing With Homesickness While Living 561 Miles From Home

I consider myself to have 2 homes now. The first being my home in Maryland and my second being the College of Charleston. There's nowhere else I'd rather be studying and going to school but the doesn't mean I don't occasionally get homesick.

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I was able to go home 2 times during the first semester and my mom and aunt had visited me once as well. This semester's a little different, we only have one break and I am not going home for it. It's going to have been 4 months without seeing my family, that's insane!!

I call my mom almost every night just to tell her about my day and hear about hers. We text occasionally but that call is the main time we're really able to visit each other. Each call is ended by my mom telling me how much she misses me. I even received a little "wish you were here" card from her this week.

My mom and I have both looked at flights for her to come visit, but we were unable to find a good time, so the reunion will have to wait! My dad is actually visiting next week because he's here for work, but we're making sure to plan some fun stuff in his free time.

I wouldn't say I get homesick a lot, but everyone reaches a point in the semester where school is becoming overwhelming, we're more tired than ever, and being at home right now sounds like heaven. What's getting me through midterms is knowing that spring break is just around the corner.

Even though I'm not going home for the break, a break from school will be much appreciated. Another thing also coming up is my birthday! My birthday has never been a huge celebration, I prefer to do to something small for it. But it's going to be my first birthday not at home. I know my mom has a nice care package coming my way which I'm really excited about!

What helps me when I miss home is remembering that my family is just a phone call away! It's amazing how close and connected you can feel to someone while on the phone when in reality you're over 500 miles apart.

Social media is another way I stay connected with my family. We're all connected on Facebook and keep up with each others' posts.

I love attending the College of Charleston and living in this beautiful city but I also look forward to summer where I will be able to spend a lot of time with my family at home.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.
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It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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10 Adjustments That Make Moving Home For The Summer So Hard

It's hard so please bear with us as we adjust.

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The college life is incredibly different than life at home with your parents and family and I overlooked how hard it would be to get back into the swing of things. I lived this life for 18 years, but for some reason, it is very difficult to adjust.

Here are ten of the most difficult things to reacclimate to:

1. Unpacking is just horrible.

2. You miss your college friends constantly.

3. No more meal points, you pay for everything now.

4. You love to drive, but hate an empty tank.

5. You have to let go of some of that new independence. 

6. You have to live with so many more people now.

7. You aren't running on your own clock anymore.

8. You got used to being alone, and that rarely happens now.

9. It's weird and kinda hard to see these people every day since you got so used to the distance. 

10. You have to make your own food, no more dining halls.

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